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On this day, 4 years ago the site was first launched (then a day later the first post made), Formed from chapotraphouse remnants, the old admins decided to make a site using Lemmy as its base. Originally called chapo.chat, Hexbear has grown into one of the biggest instances in the lemmyverse.

Despite various sitewide struggle sessions, wrecker incursions from other forums and federation drama, Hexbear has keep growing strong in its 4th year, now with 4 megathreads, over 4 million comments, 300k posts and much more.

Its being great running the general megathread for a bit over 3 years, since i took over i have tried to get it mostly in time and just one unlike during the old times, i like to think i have done a decent job, plus i have also added a bit of reading material to them so you nerds can learn from them and i like to think you have been reading them garcia-cock-shotty, its also nice to see the new megathreads how they have slowing grown up to the size to the old general mega in the time of the old admins.

dont have much else to say so have a good day nerd. also

Whats has been your favorite post/event from last year (july 2023-july 2024)?

I wont lie, all the fedidrama has been fun to read, especially when libs wander here

Megathreads and spaces to hang out:

reminders:

  • πŸ’š You nerds can join specific comms to see posts about all sorts of topics
  • πŸ’™ Hexbear’s algorithm prioritizes comments over upbears
  • πŸ’œ Sorting by new you nerd
  • 🌈 If you ever want to make your own megathread, you can reserve a spot here nerd
  • 🐢 Join the unofficial Hexbear-adjacent Mastodon instance toots.matapacos.dog

Links To Resources (Aid and Theory):

Aid:

Theory:

Also 24 hours after this is posted the admins are closing the site for a day, sorry

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[–] LeylaLove@hexbear.net 10 points 5 months ago

The boy on pokemon showdown has been a pleasant surprise. We just vibe and play pokemon together sometimes, it's really nice.

[–] bazingabrain@hexbear.net 10 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

The Long Haired Conservatives: the Children of '68 Reconsidered

interesting read ive had yesterday, heres a great excerpt:

"The purpose of this essay is to correct the oft-made assumption that the children of '68 were Marxists intent on tearing down American society and reconstructing something new, socialistic and, most terrifyingly, foreign in its place. Naturally there were some elements within the New Politics movement (I shall explain that term later) who wanted to do precisely those things. But this article argues that the vast majority of the kids at Chicago were in fact radical conservatives who came from a very American tradition of anti-authoritarianism. Their aim was to challenge and reverse the growth in government that had begun in the 1930s. Not truly belonging to the far left at all, they were anti-bureaucratic and shared many similar traits with their contemporaries on the American right. Therefore, it is my contention that the wrong lessons have been taken from 1968. The New Politics was a fundamentally conservative movement, not a leftist one."

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[–] PaX@hexbear.net 10 points 5 months ago

Saw a car with a NATO decal on it today

yea

Death to America

[–] WhatDoYouMeanPodcast@hexbear.net 10 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I believe in myself and I trust myself. I feel secure in my ability to get through tough times, listen, and make changes when I need to. I am smart and adaptable. I care for others and for myself. The things I like and the things I do are worthwhile.

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[–] MF_COOM@hexbear.net 10 points 5 months ago (4 children)

OK Stav is actually good in that Netflix show

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[–] HarryLime@hexbear.net 10 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Some people might think it's petty and cringe for me to laugh at the Yankees losing three times to the Mets while not mentioning the deeply embarrassing loss the Red Sox had to the Rockies, but keep in mind that the Yankees are literally Adolph Hitler

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[–] Blockocheese@hexbear.net 10 points 5 months ago
[–] Creamsicle@hexbear.net 10 points 5 months ago (2 children)

I wrote a song!

🎢 The hip bone is connected to the whale bone 🎢
And the whale bone is connected to theβ€”whale bone
And the whale bone is connected to theβ€”other bone
And that’s all the parts of a whale!

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[–] GalaxyBrain@hexbear.net 10 points 5 months ago (1 children)

English major co-worker told me she really enjoys hearing me speak, my vocabulary and word choices are fun and interesting and she catches my literary quotes that I sneak into sentences and stuff. I speak a LOT like Matt Christman and did before I heard the guy, thats what hooks me in the first place. But yeah, it's nice to hear from a qualified person that my rhetoric skill is as high as I think it is. Also I've learned that you really don't need to learn much about English to get an English degree. Her Anglo Saxon etymology crushes mine but her Latin is trash, I think I can just figure those roots easier cause I also speak French but like, I'd expect someone formally educated to run circles around me but I've had to tell.her what words that I've used meant pretty often. Anyway, felt nice.

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[–] someone@hexbear.net 10 points 5 months ago

Hookup success talk.I'd like to take the time to thank my grindr hookup Nate for (a) not ghosting, (b) maintaining communication, (c) trusting me, and (d) doing what you did at the very end, my god, you're a naughty boy to do what you did with a smile, glad you asked me first for my contact info, text me sometime, cutie.

I'd like to also thank the "equipment" company Rouge for making Nate look fantastic in bergundy red leather of obviously top construction quality.

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 10 points 5 months ago

just woke up. had this dream where i was at a dispensary in oregon trying to buy weed and this guy did NOT buy my ID. He grilled me over it for like 20 goddamn minutes before eventually saying "nah, it's not real" and now I'm pissed off

[–] Stoatmilk@hexbear.net 10 points 5 months ago (1 children)

What was that sound? Did you hear that? Wait here, I'm going to see what it was.

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[–] miz@hexbear.net 10 points 5 months ago

happy M-26-7 day to everyone

fidel-salute

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago (10 children)

I really hate that my special interests are in shit people don't care about or worse, actively hate. Really makes it hard to engage with people and talk about them. There's so few of them too cri

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[–] take_five_seconds@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago (1 children)

love 2 buy a new juicedrink at the store without checking the ingredients to see it's like 80% apple juice pain

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[–] GVAGUY3@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago

TikTok algorithm is better today. Getting more pushback against the vote scolds

Joyeux anniversaire, y'all

[–] Moss@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago (2 children)

oh btw in yesterday's chapter of chainsaw man ears got removed from the timeline. no one has ears anymore, and they ceased to exist as a concept. thats what chainsaw man is about

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[–] hexaflexagonbear@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I swear we had like a cat looks inside meme emoji already, or did I make that up.

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago (7 children)

absolutely terrible idea that won't leave my head: watch every episode of mr. birchum and them do a write up of every last thought i have about each episode and post it to !effort@hexbear.net

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[–] DengistDonnieDarko@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago (1 children)

"ijbol" makes me so unreasonably angry every time I see it. worst acronym to pop up on the internet in a very long time. it sucks so much.

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[–] plinky@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago

idk has a certain je ne sais quoi

[–] miz@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago (1 children)

recently on chapo they mentioned something about the conservatives being idiots with something about Kamala and throat goat. what the fuck is the deal with the allusions to Kamala and oral sex? is it related to this Hawk Tua thing?

I tried to search for anti-Kamala stuff with "Kamala sucks" and that was a mistake

[–] HarryLime@hexbear.net 10 points 5 months ago (4 children)

Conservatives are claiming she slept her way to the top, which got turned into memes about her giving blowjobs. I'm not sure what that rumor is based on other than pure sexism.

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[–] WhyEssEff@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago

taking a break today on posting sketching today since I sketched my dad for his birthday and that's very much PII lol

[–] Frogmanfromlake@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago

I hate how I get my creative sparks either two hours past my bedtime or half an hour before I have to leave for work

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago

Every time I remember that the 1981 ultraclassic Joysticks actually exists, it gives me moderate to severe psychic damage in a way that "meatspace" or Michelle Tea do not.

[–] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

Neuro-linguist Programming ​ is such a goofy theory. It's like the woo people just threw a bunch of sciency words together to make it look smart. If it was made today, it'll be called non fungible language model therapy, or something.

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[–] Yor@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago

the new porter robinson album is so good susie-dance

stayed up till midnight to listen and now listening again :>

[–] sewer_rat_420@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (3 children)

Anyone with experience with Lexapro and SSRIs specifically long term and apathy?

CW medical gaslighting, depression

spoiler

I started Lexapro about 5 years ago. I wanted to, I was a bit unsure but my psych ensured it would help me and it did for a time. It took the edge off my depression, and lessened the suicidal ideations I was having.

What I didn't know at the time was that I have ADHD which wasn't being treated, and which was the root cause of a lot of my problems at that time. Actually, my psychiatrist doubted I had ADHD for a year until I basically got the diagnosis myself. Now I take Concerta which helps a lot and anyone who has or thinks you have ADHD consider trying a stimulant for it if you can.

Over time, I have had sometimes debilitating loss of motivation. This has made finishing my PhD quite difficult. It has also affected a lot else in my life.

Relationship problems have also arisen that are quite related to what I now know is common in SSRIs known as "emotional blunting". More or less, it has been very hard to be emotionally available to my partner and is something I have had to work on very hard despite no major problems in our relationships.

I had no idea until just yesterday these two things can be related and caused by long term use of SSRIs. I have had the idea of getting off Lexapro for a while, mostly based on vibes and the fact that I actually treat my ADHD now (and know I have it)

Any time I bring up motivation issues to my shrink, he usually blames it on cannabis and says to really pay attention to how cannabis affects my motivation. I am a daily user, and have agonized quite a lot over how I might be sabotaging my entire life. I don't necessarily want to stop using it though, and I don't usually use it during working hours. Also, it has almost entirely replaced alcohol for me, and it is essential to treat my partner's chronic pain.

After already having him doubt my ADHD (despite me describing ADHD symptoms to him for years) he never considered doing something to help me outside of increasing SSRI dose. Now I have found out there is actual research about SSRI apathy and emotional blunting that are really similar to things I experience and this motherfucker never bothered to bring it up. I don't want to get into to many details but I really hate my shrink sometimes, I usually leave there angry and it's also far away since I moved across town. I just haven't found a new one yet and need to go every month to get my meds (especially concerta as it's a controlled substance)

I'm already going to ask him about dropping my dose of Lexapro. I take 15 mg right now, 10 mg is usually the "starter dose" so it shouldn't be a big issue to just drop it down a bit and see if it helps. Are there any online spaces or communities where people have shared similar experiences? Or anyone else here experienced these symptoms and stopped taking an SSRI?

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[–] FumpyAer@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Forgot my hearing protection for a concert tonight so I left early and my ears were ringing like twice as loud as normal. I estimate the first act (the part I cared about) was average 85 dB and the main act was average 92 dB but I left the 20 minutes into that so I feel like I shouldn't have done too much damage?

I have tinnitus already so I feel like the temporary louder ringing isn't indicative of significant damage, but shit sucks nonetheless.

TL;DR get earplugs for concerts because tinnitus sucks sooooo bad. Foam ones protect you well if money is tight, but a pair of etymotic research ones (cheap but good brand) or other musician's earplugs are more pleasant to use.

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