If a 45 year old not wearing a costume and strung out on Ketamine says trick or treat at my door, they're getting candy.
What am I, the fucking Halloween police? ACAB.
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"A 45 year old not wearing a costume and strung out on Ketamine" OR a kid in the greatest costume ever?
There goes Vincent Adultman all strung out on ketamine again.
I love this energy.
Is everyone getting the same candy or do you have "kid" candy and "adult kid" candy? Asking for a friend.
Why do you think his whole neighborhood is on ketamines?
ACAB means all candy any body
Yes. Because for the kids that show up at my door without a costume, candy is probably not in their family budget, at all, ever. I load em up.
Yeah, fuck it. I'm gonna razz em tho.
I'm telling the kids "take two or three!" And when the costume-less ones show up I say "hmm, no costumes? You can only take two or three then."
The only time I went without a costume as a kid was because I lived in a dysfunctional household and I was super stressed and didn't have enough time or support to plan a costume - so I threw on an oversized coat and went with my friends; some adults tried to give me trouble and refused me candy, and that was a bummer because I felt like I had failed ... anyway - I guess my point is that maybe some kids are being lazy or something, but you don't really know.
I personally would definitely give kids candy regardless, but I wish people would actually trick-or-treat where I live, it makes me so sad that nobody does.
Making an effort and hanging a bad made costume is better than a bought costume. It should be about creativity, not money.
I'd still give candy to kids. Not teens. I'd give extra candy to kids that made an effort in whatever way.
That does assume the kid has the time and resources to hang together a costume even if homemade. I was maybe a preteen when this happened, so that may have played into some adults' hesitancy to give me candy, but also looking back I just think the people in the neighborhood I was in had bad values. I also had zero time for a costume, I wasn't planning on trick-or-treating at all, and it was only because my friends were kind enough to invite me anyway.
But I would give candy to teens, adults, or kids regardless of whether they have a costume or not. :-)
Currently with friends and their kids for Halloween and one parent in the group won't allow their kids to dress up for religious reasons. Some of the other kids in our group kept asking the older one what she's dressed up as (in her normal clothes) and she finally just yelled out "our savior!" (obviously reacting from a tough spot as the kids who stand out from the rest based on their parents' decisions). Apart from that it could be for financial reasons.
In any case I don't see why people get so stingey with Halloween candy if a kid isn't dressed up enough. You're giving it out anyway. Razzing seems fine though and this isn't intended to criticize you but more just tangential soap boxing.
Yeah, there's any number of reasons a kid might not have a costume. Finances, health, sensory issues, the list goes on.
Its free candy day, who gives a shit just give out free candy! β€οΈ
Sometimes itβs not the kidsβ fault. Iβd say most of the time the parents need to be involved in some way with the costume (buying, making, helping to make) and some kids just donβt have present parents so I don't want to punish them for that.
Also I really donβt want leftover candy in my house (because Iβll eat it) soβ¦
Itβs free candy day, so yea.
Sure. Life's hard enough.
Not being very immersed in pop culture, I just assume they're dressed as someone from a show I don't watch.
Yes, definitely give everyone treats. Not everyone has the opportunity to dress up for various reasons.
Candy for everyone!
If they show up I hand out the candy and I've been doing it that way for decades. No telling some kid or teens situation in life and there's no need in making it harder on them.
Is this a thing? I'd feel like I was punishing a kid for having broke parents.
I remember it when I was a kid. I also remember some people gave put more or less candy depending on how good your costume was. Felt incredibly judged in public. Hated Halloween for so many reasons.
Anyone who shows up at my door gets candy
As no one has this year, or the last several years
A lot of the kids in my neighborhood are Muslim and it seems the girls aren't allowed to wear costumes if they are hijabis. I'm not excluding them because of a stupid religious thing.
My wife used to get all grumpy with high school kids (and sometimes even adults) trick or treating. I told her, I'm glad to see anyone that still has that spirit and energy. And if they don't have costumes... They probably can't afford them. Worst case, they're doing something better than the trouble they could be up to.
... But fuck those people that take the whole bowl at houses with no one home.
You come to my door. You get candy.
Young, old, costume or not.
You get candy.
I don't. Mostly because this isn't a trick or treat neighborhood.
I probably would though, given the option.
I just walked around with my son and surprisingly I didn't see one kid without a costume. There were a lot of kids out this year.
Yeah, because at least theyβre outside and doing something social, instead of being a hermit like me.
My costume
Edit OH the kids not having a costume
I don't care I'm having fun.
You better not suddenly move and frighten me.
Yes. I also don't yell at them to get off my lawn.
I donβt think Iβve ever had a kid come to the door without a costume, Iβm not sure Iβd even notice. But yeah, who knows why they havenβt got a costume, so Iβd probably give them some.
Well, tbh, we don't bother with it at all now. There's not enough kids doing it to merit the expense or effort involved (and it ain't like either are high enough to matter, which shows how bad Halloween has gotten).
But, yeah, back when kids still did it, who cares about costumes? Halloween isn't dressupday. There's other traditions involved, including kids running around and having fun just for the sake of the fun itself.
Besides, who am I to determine whether or not someone needs a costume? They might not be able to afford one. They might have some weird religious thing about masks or whatever. They might have some medical issue that prevents a costume. They might have had a costume, but something happened to it. I don't know why they're not wearing one. But if they show up at my door, they're celebrating Halloween. They're taking part in not only a community activity, but a very human activity. That's worth some candy by itself.
Shit, I've given candy to adults that rolled up and said trick or treat because it isn't only about kids. I've handed extra candy to adults and kids that asked with the explanation there was someone that couldn't make it. IDGAF if it's true or not, it isn't about me.
I fucking miss Halloween the way it used to be. You'd think in this bumfuck nowhere semi rural town, we'd still have people out and about. But no, we haven't had a single visitor on Halloween since covid. Even before that, it was two or three the entire night and had been for years.
There was so much fun in putting on a Halloween playlist, or movies, or whatever and waiting to see or hear someone coming. Even if I didn't dress up myself, it was fun to see everyone out and enjoying the night. Hell, back when I was still in physical therapy, on a bloody walker, I was in the living room ready to go. Hopped up on pain meds, but still.
I'm envious that you live somewhere it's still a big thing, costumes or not.
Dude, it was like 70F here on Halloween night. Both my kids were sweating bullets when we got them out of their costumes. A couple kids in our group had to take them off because it was overbearing.
Hell I went as Hagrid so my costume was like...sweatpants and a wig. And I had to take my wig off. Granted, I had filled my 30oz Yeti with a pretty strong cocktail for the walk. But still.
I currently leave a bunch of candy on my front steps, most kids really only take 1-3, and I'm out with my kid, so whatever. We check on the camera a few times a night, and if it's empty, we reroute and refill it. This year, Capri Sun and chips have been a big hit.
We invited another friends' family over to sit at a table in our driveway. Had dinner, chatted, handed out lollies to about 40 kids, gave them compliments on their costumes. The 10 who were without costume got the same lollies and "Happy Halloween". I remember what it is to be a kid.
The parents chaperoning kids around are usually not in costume.
As for our decorations and costumes, we had fake spider and snake out, I dressed up family members in a sugar-skull shirt, and I wore a NIN Ghosts shirt.
Before heading out front, my dad-joke got a groan, when I said, "I am dressed as ghosts!"
Excellent joke. No notes.
I rarely run out of candy so fuck it.
Are you Larry David?
Of course? How are u blaming a kid for not having a costume? Most of them are probably poor and their parents didnt get them one. And even if the kid didnt want to you gotta think why wouldnt they want to? Is it because that child is "lame" or is it because that child hasnt been given an opportunity to feel comfortable expressing themselves?
Sometimes.
Yeah, I don't usually bother anymore