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Yeah, fuck it. I'm gonna razz em tho.
I'm telling the kids "take two or three!" And when the costume-less ones show up I say "hmm, no costumes? You can only take two or three then."
The only time I went without a costume as a kid was because I lived in a dysfunctional household and I was super stressed and didn't have enough time or support to plan a costume - so I threw on an oversized coat and went with my friends; some adults tried to give me trouble and refused me candy, and that was a bummer because I felt like I had failed ... anyway - I guess my point is that maybe some kids are being lazy or something, but you don't really know.
I personally would definitely give kids candy regardless, but I wish people would actually trick-or-treat where I live, it makes me so sad that nobody does.
Making an effort and hanging a bad made costume is better than a bought costume. It should be about creativity, not money.
I'd still give candy to kids. Not teens. I'd give extra candy to kids that made an effort in whatever way.
That does assume the kid has the time and resources to hang together a costume even if homemade. I was maybe a preteen when this happened, so that may have played into some adults' hesitancy to give me candy, but also looking back I just think the people in the neighborhood I was in had bad values. I also had zero time for a costume, I wasn't planning on trick-or-treating at all, and it was only because my friends were kind enough to invite me anyway.
But I would give candy to teens, adults, or kids regardless of whether they have a costume or not. :-)
Currently with friends and their kids for Halloween and one parent in the group won't allow their kids to dress up for religious reasons. Some of the other kids in our group kept asking the older one what she's dressed up as (in her normal clothes) and she finally just yelled out "our savior!" (obviously reacting from a tough spot as the kids who stand out from the rest based on their parents' decisions). Apart from that it could be for financial reasons.
In any case I don't see why people get so stingey with Halloween candy if a kid isn't dressed up enough. You're giving it out anyway. Razzing seems fine though and this isn't intended to criticize you but more just tangential soap boxing.