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alright gang, we need another win over the news mega this week! keep those numbers up and keep being trans as hell 
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Having trans thoughts all day every day is tiring, actually.
Also had the chance to buy a cute plushie the other day and didn't take it (cuz scared), kicking myself now.
Also getting impatient with my progress, I want to at least have girl clothes by now
Can you get any?
Not really, sadly. Very unfortunate. Maybe I'll be able to get some fun socks but they won't be thigh highs or anything. Short shorts, fishnets or anything else is kinda off the table atm. Going to try and work towards being able to though. It'll just take a while
If you're not looking for ideas, and you just want to commiserate, you can ignore the next part
idea
Is there a friend you could come out to, and you could store the clothes at their place? Wear them there?You could also get a storage space for pretty cheap. Although, I don't know how fun it would be if you aren't confident enough to wear the clothes outside. Girlmoding alone in a storage unit doesn't sound like a great vibe lmao
Oh yeah a friend of mine did that when she was in high-school, it's a classic. Change after you leave the house into your actual clothes
No I appreciate the ideas, and just talking.
No. My one irl friend has some weird views, and I'm guessing transphobia is in their somewhere. Maybe I'll try poking the issue next time I see them but I really doubt they have good takes unfortunately. Need more and better local friends.
The issue is mostly actually being able to go out and get them, and then bringing them back into my space. I have plenty of privacy once I'm there. And yea, lol girlmoding in a storage unit sounds really grim. Made me chuckle though.
So this is an issue of you taking boxes inside the house and your parents or whoever being like, "what's in the box?"
I guess that really is the issue. Probably need to just tell them I have a box coming and to leave it for me to deal with. When I explain it maybe its not as impossible as I was thinking. I do have a gift card and want it really bad.
Yeah, there's also putting it in a backpack or something so then they don't even know you're bringing stuff in.
That's if you can do pick up somewhere. I think a lot of stores, you can order online and do pickup there.
"This dress is for my girlfriend <3 I love her so much and she's coincidentally my size"
Before I socially transitioned I wore a bralette under my boy clothes. And painted my toe nails and wore panties lol
That sounds nice. My problem is actually getting them. After that I'd be fine. Hoping my situation can change in the next few months, but waiting is so hard
Any chance you can order a bralette or shop with someone you trust? You can size at home and I'm assuming you have no breast development yet so all you need is your rib cage measurement and assume A or less.
Buying a woman her first bra is a holy duty
Maybe? Payment could be a pain, and whether I order it to my house or a friend's either my family or my friend is probably going to think its some weird sex thing. I don't really have any trusted people to shop with sadly.
Do your parents monitor your packages or purchases? Most online shopping can be done fairly discretely. If they do though, I'm sorry that's shitty of them.
They just usually open stuff (I don't think its even malicious, maybe more of a habit thing), and most of the time when I want something I just have them order it (they have amazon prime so may as well) so it would stick out. Doubt they'd even read the label before opening. Unless I say something, and I feel like that would draw attention/maybe questions.
idk, maybe. Ordering online might be my best bet tbh and just deal with the awkwardness.
Do you think it may be possible for you to get to the package before them? Like, get ahead of them and pick up the mail yourself on the day you know it will arrive?
Very unlikely, unless I'm able to guarantee a date. There's always someone home.
Hmm, maybe you can look into getting a PO box for until you move out? You will have to pay a monthly fee, but I'm looking at the rates for USPS and it doesn't look too bad.
Honestly, might just bite the bullet on the awkwardness and give them a heads up. I wonder if there's a way to make sure they put everything in one box
I will be investigating my options for ordering though.
That's cool too. I sympathize with the struggle w/ parents though, it's what's held me back from starting T for over a year. Good on you for making the choice.
If you order from one place they probably will ship everything together, especially with clothes because clothes don't take up a lot of space shipping-wise. If you order from multiple stores there will be multiple packages, though.
Well I just have so much I want to get
But yea probably will just be one.
I've been in a very similar situation of waiting. Thankfully I have an end date to my waiting, and it's in sight (about a month left) but yeah, the trans wait is hell.
Wishing you good luck on getting something pretty and flattering!
Thinking is indeed tiring. Thatβs why Iβm glad Iβm not much atm.
Still tired tho.
Dang, I was hopeful for you for a second there.
I think Iβm too tired to keep thoughts in my head. I feel generally contented however functional.
I really do. Brain just keeps goin' though. And tbf there have been lots of good thoughts.
Silver lining to the Think