The only girl in the fediverse
this post was submitted on 01 Feb 2025
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She's a superhero. Fediverse Girl!
I think the ratio of trans to cis women on Lemmy is about even
I thought this was funny
Imagine unwarping the face 😆
As a mod in other coomunities, please report these as quickly as you can. They can generally be taken care of quickly.
I had this aswell. Will do.
Shame. I've PM'd a few people and had good conversations.
Sure, but did you at least add context about why you're messaging them? Like some comment or post they made that you liked and you wanted to talk about similar stuff?
Because that would be kind of normal. That's what private messages are for. But this one is just bait.
Yeah just a question or a word of encouragement or a recommendation so it didn't seem like I was advertising. I like most things to be publicly posted but not everything. If Lemmy gets a bunch of bot spam PMs, legit ones will be less likely to get a response.
I imagine speed limits will be put on DMs at some point in the future. There's no reason to have it wide open so you can firehose multiple people with the same message.
Like, if you're sending a message to someone and they reply back, you can immediately reply back, back-and-forth, as fast as you want. Other than that, you should only be able to send a message once every five or ten minutes.
bait could be better.
What's with that?
Is a homely looking person supposed to appear less scammy?
Its almost insulting. Its like. Hey. If im gonna be catfished it should be by someone who seems way out of my league. thank you very much.
If you think that's new, come on over to the nsfw side of things. We have a whole cast of zany butts.
I just got a couple of these today myself.
I really wish we could disable PMs from anyone but admins or mods of comms we subscribe to, like you can on reddit. There will never be a day when I want to receive a PM from anyone on Lemmy. It's nothing personal, there's lots of cool people here, but I'm not interested in being pen pals. I'm just here for the public forum.
Goddamn it. I was just about to send you a gif of my genitals.
Ooh! You sound sexy and I definitely want to be your pen pal! I’ve sent you a DM!
Also, I have a great business opportunity for you if you’re interested! Have you ever heard of NFTs?
NFTs went away for a while because of crime and scams, but they fixed all those problems I swear. NFTs are the sexiest investment a sexy person could make, and they’re even better now that the leaders are implementing AI! It’s going to be revolutionary! It’s like E = Mc2, but now it’s E = Mc2 + AI. It’s the bees knees! It’ll make Stephen Hawking blush! I’ll help broker it for you, and if you send me 1 NFT, I will send you 2 back just because I like you.
Can’t wait for your reply!! ❤️
like E = Mc2, but now it’s E = Mc2 + AI
Aaaaaaaa. Thanks, I hate it. You successfully trolled me.
Just pm'd you asking for more deets.
If we were on Reddit, OP's inbox would get flooded with messages, but Lemmy isn't active enough for that...
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Or come hang out with us at room/hell
-- Comedy Heaven
I didn't get one 😔
I did. I didn’t think it was a catfish though. I assumed it was some person promoting their streaming shit. Kinda smart, a smaller, mostly nerdy community of niche interests.
Doesn’t mean I didn’t block them though.
Got 4 copies of it, I don't even know how to send a message to "all" here, didn't think it was possible.
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Besides all that drama of OP:
Wouldn't that be THE BEST social media community where messages like that would actually happen? I would love to be a part of an open undivisive group of people who would write things like "Hey, I'm Joe, I do this and that and noticed you, lets band if you like" or "I'm jenna, I do the creative work for XY instance, lets connect". That would be really cool. The problem is as always that we can not trust these messages because of the last decade of misuse on various platforms. Even if we take out all the scams, we only accept the right message in the right medium: If someone would write me what OP posted on LinkedIn, I would read it as a business inquire connection (at best). If she would write me that on Tinder&co, I would take it as an avance. If I would get a message like that on facebook, I do not believe in it as a honest request anymore. On Insta I would read it as a scam too. But where is the place where I can get a message like that and trust it as it is the norm in that social network? McLuhan said "The Medium is the Message". We need a Platform/Network/Medium to give a room to actually send a message like that where a connection without the aspect of business or sex is assumed because of the choosen Platform/Network/Medium.
The Fediverse will not solve this problem sadly, as it is mainly just decentralized, but is not out to solve societary tilts and disgraces. But it is nice to think that such a place/site/room could exist (one day?) where a person (even of another gender) could have an exchange like that without bad intentions. As usally, The good ones are silent, and the loud ones are scams.
Wouldn’t that be THE BEST social media community where messages like that would actually happen? I would love to be a part of an open undivisive group of people who would write things like “Hey, I’m Joe, I do this and that and noticed you, lets band if you like” or “I’m jenna, I do the creative work for XY instance, lets connect”. That would be really cool.
Start c/penpals
That’s basically how people introduced themselves on the public discord servers I frequented during the pandemic and it was normal
No, that's not a thing I would want to be involved with.
The loneliness epidemic in a nutshell: we feel we can't trust people being open and friendly.
That isn't normal, by the way.
The problem isn't that we feel we can't trust them. It's that we actually can't trust them. Trusting someone that messages you that way is likely to end up with you in a bathtub full of ice, or at the very least, a compromised bank account.
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Yay I feel loved, just got my one of these!
Well you shouldn’t feel loved.
This has nothing to do with you as a person and I would never want you to feel loved undeservedly. Because I care about you.
(Please don’t take my overwhelming kindness in the wrong way and feel as if you’re receiving any kind of love from me. As previously stated, it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with me being an excellent person.)
I was being sarcastic ...
It's like saying you feel loved when a bunch of flies are swarming you or when you get pulled out of line to be screened by airport security or you get some weird reply on dumb comment you made.
I tried to make it as clear as possible I was riffing on your joke. I don’t believe in having to label sarcasm with “/s” because it implies the people reading it are too stupid to recognize an ironic comment.
Sorry my bad, I'm having a shitty weekend and I think my brain has quit on me, I've missed a couple of obvious things this weekend.
We’ve all been there. Hang tough (or veg out and treat yourself to a good nothing. Sometimes that’s the ticket for me.) Feel better!
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