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On this mega I shall take the opportunity to rant about one of my favorite things: the Webnovel UNJUST DEPTHS!

Do you love transgenders?

Do you love communism?

Do you love queer romance?

Do you love killing fascists in a giant fucking mech?

Would a plotline with all of these things happening in a underwater retro-futuristic gundam setting intrigue you?

Especially if its actually really well written with good characters, rich worldbuilding, and a marxist leninist transfem author?

All of the answers should be: YES I DO ~~or else I WILL BAN YOU~~

Since you obviously love all of those things then Unjust Depths is perfect for YOU yes YOU! It is DESTINY

The Imbrian Ocean is at a time of severe instability. The monarch of the vast Empire that spans its unjust depths (:3) is sick and nearing death, every territory of the ocean now vying to carve their own Destiny out of the chaos. From the Volk fascists pigmask-off , Zionists hamas-base (they literally will not die why are they still here oh my god), The 'Anarchists' (social chauvanists) lenin-dont-laugh in Bosporus, and the monarchs gui-trans of each vast noble domain, each vies for power and prestige no matter who they crush underfoot, but it would be a pretty depressing story without a bright light in the dark.

On the edge of the Empire sits the glorious Union! The (Soviet) Union soviet-chad is a socialist federation of three states (and one anarchist mountain left-unity-4 )that were formerly slave colonies under the Imbrian Empire until they broke away in a fierce liberation war. They have spent the last 20 years since then building themselves up. Whether they be Human bridget-disco , Shimmi kbity-how (Catgirls who usually follow a religion closely related to modern Islam), and Kattaran transshork-happy (a hybrid humanoid species with characteristics of sea life ranging from sharks to cuttlefish)building socialism side by side.

First lead under the revolutionary leader Dashka Kansal, then the Idealist Ahwalia who lead the country to near ruin in pursuit of building a utopia on pillars of sand, then under the scientific socialist three-heads-thinking leadership of the Grand Marshall of the Union, Bhavani Jayanskar (I love Jayanskar so much shes basically as if Stalin, Lenin, and Zhukov were rolled into the same person but was a black lesbian badass who wore the uniform REALLY WELL)(she aint the main character at all tho shes only in very few scenes i just love her so much). Under Jayanskar, the Union has been growing their economy to both eliminate hunger and give everyone a home chad-stalin , but also growing their military capabilities for the inevitable return of the Empire. The Union is alone, but with the people by its side nothing, not even Destiny, can snuff out true freedoms light. specter

As war wages between the Empire and Republic (basically underwater USA) once more over the lands between them, the facade begins to finally crack...

And a border conflict between the Empire and Union escalate, and the dreaded reconquest begins.

Amidst this turmoil, lives our main characters (yes there are multiple and all of them are lovely). Each of whom I personally love dearly, and are very well characterized. Many are soldiers of the Union, some are scientists, some are divers (mech pilots), some are lost strands finding new meaning after joining this band of Brigands

All are Communists steban

All serve the Union USSR

All would gladly give their lives to defending socialism comrade-stoic

but even they would have little inkling of the adventure set in store for them as the lands beneath the waves erupt in fire, fury, and revolt

Can these transgender badasses kick fascist ass?

Can they kiss? (oh my god please kiss ISTG THERE IS SO MUCH SHIPPING AHHHH ITS GLORIOUS)

FIND OUT HERE: https://unjustdepths.com/

please do or else I will pout incessantly

just try it pleeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaase i need to talk to someone about it after Cromalin went AFK

(I miss her, she was a real one)

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 32 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Argued with my mom and sister about not voting for Kamala this weekend. Apparently despite my vote having no impact on the outcome of the election thanks to the electoral college (which my mom stylizes as a "luxury" with accompanying judgment because I don't have to engage in any strategy), they still think it's important I vote for her to symbolize my support of women's rights. I explained that I see voting for her as support for genocide, which they disagree withβ€”they fully acknowledge the genocide is happening, mind you, they just think their vote for her is not expressing support for that.

The worst/best part is when my sister said part of the reason they're upset by it is that I don't have any have personal stake because I wouldn't be personally affected or targeted by Trump's policies...

thonk-trans

So I had to remind them. I can't really blame my sister too much because I only talked about it with her once like two years ago and maybe she forgot, and I haven't begun any presentation changes or pronoun use IRL, but my mom should know better. She was literally crying half a year ago when I told her I wanted to be on estrogen (which is part of the reason I'm still not on it).

The only positive part was the satisfaction of weaponizing identity politics against my liberal family members. Sorry girls but trans gal beats out cis women in the woke hierarchy every time!!!

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 31 points 3 months ago (23 children)

he'll yeah my flag came in earlier than i thought

BEHOLD HEXBEAR, MY WALL OF UNIRONED FLAGS

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 28 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (15 children)

It's genuinely pretty awesome to be in a trans space where I am not the eldest trans person by a country mile. (in trans-time terms but I also love our older trans conrades)

Every previous discord, youth group, whatever was the type of thing where people would bounce by year two of fulltime, every time. I don't begrudge people that because you can't force people to stick around of course, but it was kind of stupid to go ask a question or whatever and people would be like "I dunno, you've been doing it the longest", or they'd produce that fucking hilarious chart for feminising hormone therapy that says all effects stop at 36 months.

I really appreciate having a place that's not that, where people often know a lot more than I do. Thank you trans mega.

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[–] TheDoctor@hexbear.net 27 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

I love my wife! possum-party

Estrogen is unlocking new levels of loving my wife that were previously thought to be impossible

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 27 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Think my aunt is the only person to actually use she/her pronouns for me and I didn’t even tell her to.

[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 19 points 3 months ago
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[–] GaveUp@hexbear.net 27 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (8 children)

I love all my transfem friends and it breaks my heart that every single one of them have a plethora of intense trauma and mental illnesses no matter what race, socioeconomic upbringing/current, career path, social life, etc.

On one hand it's very nice to have people that can relate and accept my level of fucked up but at the same time I'm starting to understand the elder trans women who've said they try to avoid trans/queer spaces/people because of how heavy it can be

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[–] ThermonuclearEgg@hexbear.net 26 points 3 months ago (2 children)
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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 25 points 3 months ago (1 children)

FLAG CHECK:

flag-trans-pride βœ…Flying the wall up high

USSR ❌ not fuckin shipped yet >:(

flag-lesbian-pride βœ… Flying the wall up high

there will be a big gap in my flag wall for the next two days. bullshit

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[–] Eco@hexbear.net 25 points 3 months ago (11 children)

hot take but i think landlords should all die

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[–] TheDoctor@hexbear.net 25 points 3 months ago (8 children)

I happy cried for the first time today. I am 30 years old. Estrogen is badass.

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[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 25 points 3 months ago (10 children)

Turned of upbears a couple weeks ago and I think I prefer it more. Makes me lea-blush when someone comments on my gay little posts

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[–] Lerios@hexbear.net 25 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

things that are based: some random person on here months ago who saw that my pronouns are hy/hym and changed their comment to call me a based kyng instead of a king. they edited it back pretty quickly but i saw that comrade and don't worry i thought it was funny i love you

things that are less based: i went to an irl event recently that was very vocally pro-lgbt and had a bunch of pronouns pins. there were a million she/they and he/they, but not a single she/him or he/her, which i think are the only pronouns i'd ever be brave enough to use irl. many such cases smh πŸ˜”

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 25 points 3 months ago (4 children)

I went out in an outfit today. Not a care in the world.

Two years ago, I put on the same outfit, walked out the front door, lost my nerve, and went back inside and changed.

I have evolved. I am unstoppable.

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[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 24 points 3 months ago (4 children)

It kinda hit me when I looked in the mirror today that I look like a girl now. Made me tear up in a good way.

Almost a year ago I was standing in front of the same mirror dissociating because I couldn't accept that person was me. Pretty sure hrt saved my life.

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 24 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Did my injection in my thigh. I was very brave about it.

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 24 points 3 months ago (2 children)
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[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 24 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I finally got around to watching I Saw the TV Glow and I've been crying for an hour reading the threads about it from a few months ago. I wish this movie had come out 15 years ago, though maybe I would have been too repressed to get it back then (and I definitely couldn't afford any therapy or gender-affirming care back then). I love all of you and I'm so happy this community exists. If I never found my way here I'd still be pretending to be someone that I'm not, shoving all those "problematic" thoughts down. The movie really captured the existential terror of knowing the truth but being unable to accept it, fearful of acknowledging it and giving it power and living a lie for so many years. I'm only out to a small group of people but the crushing weight of existence is starting to ease up now that there are people I feel safe around.

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 23 points 3 months ago (7 children)

Good girl? Oh no, I'm quite bad at it, actually. I'm still very new here

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 23 points 3 months ago (3 children)

surgery discussionI wake up this morning to a notification that my FFS is in one week from today. I’m so excited and so nervous, ya’ll.

I am absolutely looking forward to it, but terrified if something goes wrong or it I don’t actually like the result. I know these are normal feelings, but it’s intense how real this feels now that the date is approaching.

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[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 23 points 3 months ago (9 children)

How do you all feel about being queer isn't a choice arguments?

Like obviously feeling gay attraction or gender incongruence is not something you can chose, but acting upon those feelings are, and I'm personally proud that I took the choice to do something about my dysphoria and dare to be trans, despite all the societal pressures telling me not to.

Maybe it's just me, but I feel when people argue that it isn't a choice they're conceding that being queer is to some extent bad or abnormal, but that we shouldn't be blamed because we can't help it. I think it's important to establish that being queer isn't negative or weird, and nobody should need to excuse their queerness in any way.

On the other hand, I think most queer people agree we would be miserable if we chose to supress our queerness, so I also see why people argue that it isn't really a choice, so idk, maybe I'm just being weird about it.

[–] belligerentkitten@hexbear.net 21 points 3 months ago (7 children)

i've been upsetting people by opposing the "it's not our choice" argument for like... 15 years or something. when i was a teen it really didn't land well with people. but i've seen a general movement towards people rejecting the argument in the past few years which i'm relieved about.

i very much agree that it concedes there is something wrong with being queer, that we wouldn't choose to be if we had a choice.

but even more than that i think it misses the point. choice means something very different to the people we're trying to reach with that argument. i mainly see those people as conservative christians, mainly american ones. and the thing is that they don't give a fuck what sexual or gender urges we have. their worldview is entirely different. it's based on seeking an ideal godly life based around a monogamous union between a man and a woman, having children and raising them in that same ideology.

they think queer feelings are sinful. but they have a general view of anything outside of their ideology is sinful. sex before marriage, infidelity, divorce, polyamory, even perfectly consensual and open polyamory, porn, and so on.

given how utterly commonplace and unsurprising each time we hear about a prominent conservative christian doing something "sinful", it seems obvious they have plenty of urges to do things they consider sinful. the choice for them is suppress these urges to live a godly life. they understand perfectly well that we're reacting to something we feel inside that we have no control over, but they want us to choose to do what they consider to be the right thing, and who cares if it makes us unhappy.

so i simply think that it's trying to use a liberal argument to people who just don't see the world like that. and yes, i think it's a very lib argument. look at us poor people who have this unfortunate condition but you have to be nice to us because it's not our fault.

i am queer. i am trans. i am intersex. these things are an intrinsic part of me, and i choose to embrace them. it's true there is no place for me in normal society. i couldn't pretend to be one of them if i wanted to. but why the hell would i want to be a part of a society that won't accept those cool and important parts of me, not to mention all of the evil shit it's build upon. it is of course unfortunate that makes life harder for me but i want my life. a queer life for me is loving who i want of course, but it's so much more than that as well. it's rejecting the heteropatriarchal norms of cishet society in the way i live and relate to others.

to conclude this comment which accidentally turned into an essay (sorry), i simply don't think it works. if we want conservative christians to accept us we need to target their beliefs about the family, and the concept of sin in general. unless we can change that, we're not going to make any progress with them.

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 23 points 3 months ago

I wish I could molt and a pretty lady with a uterus could come out.

Anyway, new trans chat feels like chrysalis molting

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 23 points 3 months ago (3 children)

I can’t wait until I don’t have to shave. madeline-stare

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[–] lapis@hexbear.net 23 points 3 months ago (4 children)

today is my 2nd tranniversary!

…and the date of my first intramuscular injection, which I think is a neat little crossover episode (I was doing subcutaneous injections before but started getting an allergic reaction several weeks back, and before that I was taking pills sublingually but even the max oral dose didn’t get my levels where the dr. wanted β€˜em).

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[–] yewler@hexbear.net 22 points 3 months ago (4 children)

I found myself some cute ass socks

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 22 points 3 months ago (3 children)

I should hopefully find out tomorrow if we're going on strike or not.

That'll be fun

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 22 points 3 months ago (4 children)

When I talk to other autistic comrades, I hope the other neurodiverse people look on in awe and the neurotypicals quake in terror.

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[–] Kiagz@hexbear.net 22 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (6 children)

I'm proud of the fact that I have a much closer relationship with my parents now. I'm able to open up to them about my feelings, interests and experiences, whereas before I just kept everything to myself for some reason. Also been having a lot of fun playing board games with them lately niko-happy

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 21 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Having to struggle to walk forward every time a strong gust of wind blows in my direction: β€œyo this is just like Celeste” madeline-smug

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[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 21 points 3 months ago (6 children)

I went to the hairdresser today. It turned out really cute, wish I could post a selfie

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 21 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Waiting for the day someone asks me my sex so I can answer with "Gay." madeline-stare

I do not get enough chances to be Funny irl...

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[–] CDommunist@hexbear.net 21 points 3 months ago
[–] yewler@hexbear.net 21 points 3 months ago (7 children)

It's wild how I'm finally starting to feel like I actually have a personality

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 21 points 3 months ago (26 children)

I don't like accepting my feelings. I'm more of a suppress kinda gay.

I feel too embarrassed to post what it is right now, but its a big struggle. I really did not want this to be true.

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 21 points 3 months ago (4 children)

stupid preening>look in the mirror

>beautiful.

emilie-smug At this point it would be easier to note the times I don't think I'm gorgeous smh.

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[–] Moss@hexbear.net 20 points 3 months ago (4 children)

Good news: my friend doesn't have testicular cancer

Bad news: I'm hungry

There is no correlation between these things

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 20 points 3 months ago

new girl PJs :)

fit great, look super cute :)))

no pockets :(

do the thing where you put your phone in your bralette :)))))

oh my god this is great

[–] TheDoctor@hexbear.net 20 points 3 months ago

Got on higher dose of e. Practically cured my ADHD symptoms for 3 days. Then it all stopped and I was depressed and my ADHD symptoms were back with a vengeance. Felt like I was stuck like that forever.

Last night I remembered that I’d ran out of my depression meds and missed a couple days. So being exhausted and unable to do things is normal when I miss those meds. Woke up today feeling hopeful that things will get better.

Cautious optimism sucks because it’s just normal optimism that I pretend isn’t as exciting as it really is. But holy shit I want to feel better.

[–] rtstragedy@hexbear.net 20 points 3 months ago (9 children)

upbearsOkay, first of all, Sick and Based that HB doesn't have downbears. I read about the history of that too, and excitedly told Partner about it when I found out lmao. Still makes me smile.

But today, I have turned off upbears. I think that there was a lot of Reddit shit in my head over the years. I may have claimed a few minutes ago that I don't care about the numbers next to my posts, giving them an "approval score," but the more I think about the more I think that Reddit really did shape my thinking, in the negative, about what is a good or bad interaction, what's worth responding to or not to, and tbh I think that I've held off posting in part because of the approval ratings.

Anyway, uhh, leave a like if you like this post. I won't see it though, lmao

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[–] Lenins_Cat_Reincarnated@hexbear.net 20 points 3 months ago (1 children)

The traa mega kind of gives me the same comfy/safe vibe as my bed which is a great revelation.

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[–] CrookedSerpent@hexbear.net 20 points 3 months ago (44 children)

I touched on this in another thread but wanted to share here.

CW: controversial? Musings on my own personal experience of being trans by happenstanceUnlike most trans people I've met, I am of the belief that I am here now, living life as a stealth trans woman, as a direct result of my environment, not because of some internal gender that was always there. I am convinced that if I wasn't relentlessly bullied, harassed, degraded, beaten, and rejected by my peers as a child (due mostly to racism and homophobia) I would not have even thought to transition. I feel as if I consciously decided to become a woman at my lowest point, 4 years ago, simply as a way to kill the broken, unloved and unlovable husk of a person with no childhood, and no hope for the future and become someone, anyone, else. I dipped my toes in the water of experimenting with my presentation, and I was surprised by how easily I was able to pass, which only fueled my desire to transition solely as a way to save my life, which simply could not have continued as the broken "man" I was. I was on the brink but I saw a way out.

I started doing everything in my power to dress fasionably and femininely, went crazy hard on voice training, researched all I could on DIY hrt and how to source it, in an effort to pass at all costs. It was working shockingly well, and in a few months, long before I had even self identified as a women, I was passing as a women, very consistently, and for the first time in my life, I was able to be okay. I was able to feel confident in myself, express myself, not hate everything about me, because I wasn't me anymore, I wasnt that broken THING I left behind, I could start over, and it was the most beautiful thing I have ever experienced. Living this way, passing as a woman while still secretly identifying as a man in my own head, slowly but surely over the course of a year, my internal gender literally changed into that of a woman, and one day, I actually, truly belived it with every fiber of my being, long after the world arround me did. It's funny looking back, and a bit embarrassing, but after all that, 4 years later I am more sure that I am a woman than literally anything else about me, despite my recollection of events, and am positive that transitioning not only saved my life, but finally allowed me to enjoy it. However, I am almost positive that had my childhood been full of love, acceptance, and happiness, I would have never even considered transitioning. It very well could be the case that I am simply rationalizing away my "inherent transness" but that's just my current take on it. Anayws, just felt like I wanted to get that off my chest and maybe hear the thoughts of other trans people on that whole ordeal...

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[–] khizuo@hexbear.net 20 points 3 months ago (5 children)

I love being hot and trans.

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[–] khizuo@hexbear.net 20 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (7 children)

chat how is it possible that so many people in my trans lit class have accepting parents. how. this has to be some sort of statistical improbability.

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[–] Eco@hexbear.net 20 points 3 months ago (5 children)

i hope jesse pinkman eventually found a nice alaskan lesbian to have a t4t relationship with after her transition

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[–] Eco@hexbear.net 20 points 3 months ago (4 children)

my dream job is to be a faceless bureaucrat in an opaque and endless communist bureaucracy

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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 20 points 3 months ago (6 children)

i want to open a communal queer garden. imagine a bunch of us tilling the fields and growing produce

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 20 points 3 months ago (1 children)

presenting more butch than femme today because i just changed my tire all by myself

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 20 points 3 months ago (2 children)

aubrey-rage-cry God fucking dammit why is it so cold in here? Would it kill management to turn down the fucking AC in her-

aubrey-happy hey wait that means the E is working

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[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 20 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (4 children)

There really are normie ass people out there who have never faced a major trauma, economic hardship, and have a good relationship with family

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