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alright gang, we need another win over the news mega this week! keep those numbers up and keep being trans as hell 
Here is a screenshot of where to find the spoiler button.
dysphoria (but I'm actually feeling good right now)
Chat I am so big/cooked. I was talking with some lovely people earlier about shoe size and its so over for me. I knew my feet were big but apparently my idea of "very small" (I remember wearing bigger at like 11/12) is actually big for women. Basically its all over. T has made my body so incredibly large.Supposedly this large size doesn't effect passing but I don't buy it. Also just being small and cute would be kinda nice idk.
I know this sounds like I'm sad/crying or whatever but I'm actually just
which is very weird but welcome. Uh also sorry if I've posted about my size recently I don't remember what I post vs what I think about posting at all and my sense of time is fucked.
Tall girls are cute. End of post.
Eggnog I'm so excited to see you blossom as the beautiful girl you are, you have no idea.
I'm excited to blossom! And show you all my blossoming process!
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Feet shrink with hrt! Not much, but they do. Mine went down about a half a shoe size. Also I was buying shoes too large, grew up poor so you always needed lots of room to grow into em and just kept doing that lol, so I was comfortable a full 1 shoe size down from pre hrt. It's hard to shop for cute womens size 12 shoes, but online is easier.I am excited about that!
I just wish half a size was even close to what I need
That does not even get me on the women's section of this chart. But yes hopefully online will work out for me for actually finding them.
See this is why my mom wants me to open a tall girl store, I said I'd call it Dysphoria (kinda sounds chic if you don't know what it means), just dresses that actually hit where they're supposed to - no more maxi dresses hitting mod calf, no more minis being lucky enough to cover my... you know - shoes that actually fit people beyond size 10, only place I found that sold them irl was Nordstroms and they shut down like 3 weeks later. Bracelets! That actually fit right! Cmon.
Well if you do, remember to DM me the city and I'll see if I can stop by some time.
Having to tell people that tall women are cute
But people do not look at a really tall woman and go "woah she is trans", else female basketball players would lead a hellish existence. Shoe sizing blows but it also blows for me, and I'm not that tall so...
uh being a little negative about tall women (mostly directed at this tall woman)
And uh, you say that but I'm not so sure. Definitely has to make it harder.
negativity lesgoooooo
"Small and cute" is such a common desire among transfemmes, lol. No need to apologise β¨ Uh why not though? Disregarding this is BULLSHIT, I think the tall bottom is an underrated category, Idk flipping the height script can be fun. But also tall (and sometimes broad shouldered waow!) women are beautiful, secretly. When I was younger I had a crush on this curly haired lady who was 6'2", so like no, I disagree and will do battle about it. Tall is grace, shit even supermodels are tall as fuck. They pass, people do not assume they are trans.Yeah my condolences about shoe sizing, it is criminal that there aren't larger ones.
negativity bad though
idk, I feel like being "cute" is linked with being small (short and skinny-ish). Glad I'm not somehow the only transfem with that in mindSure. Beautiful and cute are different though. Maybe I will be beautiful, or pretty, or something. But cute? idk that's a tough one. I'm also not trying to battle with you.
spoiler exactly hehe~ ::: Also its not just about finding shoes that fit, I also just want to be smaller.
yeah but I enjoy talking this stuff over 'cause I'm weird
Uh it's not too bad, sorry. Making a girl a head taller than you blush is adorable, cute is almost more a demanour or vibe than anything else. Being tall does not preclude being cute, this is a weird thing.I WILL BATTLE YOU
But if you wanna get this fine-grained I'm gonna need you to get more specific about what "cute" means to you, for me. If it means being shy and coy, uh Idk, what is your perception of "cute"?
Yea I know you do, so many trans women wanna shrink and disappear it seems...
When are they gonna add them?? AAAAARHHHH!!!
WE NEED THEM
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That's like, acting cute. Looking cute is like, looking young and small. I want someone to be able to pick me up and pin me against a wallHey right now I only want the shrink part.
You, my dear, are going to be one cute af subby girl.
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Like the kind of girl that makes me want to do her makeup while I'm straddling her and chiding her for blushing or whimpering. Or the kind where I would pick out her clothes to wear for a night out. Or the kind that brightens up and has a shy smile when she's told "wow, you've been such a good girl!" I'm not even gonna talk about the beautiful eyes and begging for stuff, we don't need to get into that at all, that's all accessory anyway.You're going to be fine lol
Holy shit
Literally please I would do anything for someone to do this to me. God I need to find somebody so bad.
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Trying to decide which cool feminist author from the 90s to recommend you
bell hooks? Judith Butler? 'Cause uh...
I find it interesting that much of this relies on the perception of others, but my initial read was correct - "femme subby bottom core" lmao. You can still get picked up and pinned against a wall, in fact it's fun with someone taller frankly. It's cool and interesting when your sub is taller than you, honestly. And being tall does not preclude little spoon enjoyment, sheesh. My wife is shorter than me by a fair bit; if I wanna lay on her chest, I just do, and I tangle my longass legs around hers. She is a great bigspoon because she's soft but also built af
The "shrink and disappear" is an Orange Book reference
sorry
I can also pick you up and carry you
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I don't know exactly what you are implying here but I do feel like I should be able to look however I want.
I genuinely do not believe I could be pinned against a wall, unless I also find someone who's big like me. And tbh I like women shorter then me (I mean you probably could have worked that out on your own).
But I'll still feel all big
idk maybe I'm too worried about how I'll feel in the future. I just want to be a lil smaller 
Ah, didn't get that, sorry. Is relatable though.
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ImplicatorWhy not?? Only takes meeting someone a head shorter but twice as strong as you. On estrogen your strength will wane, your limbs may slim. My wife is 5'1", I am 5'7" and she doesn't have any issues. Also liking women shorter than you is fun, I love a partner who is shorter than me
I don't think you will, if your partner is stronger than you for wall-pinning purposes she may also end up more substantial than you, and so despite your height you can still be the slender waifish little spoon to the muscle gf. You can become "smaller", depending on how you define it, on hormones. Height is just one aspect
Yeah sorry for shitposting
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Ooh that's a good word to put on my list of things I want to be. idk, maybe. I don't want people to make me feel like a creep for what I want to look like/act like.
When you say this, it actually sounds like you are being ironic. There are incredibly few women twice as strong as I am. (light hearted) did you like, forget that I'm big and pre hrt? But I suppose we will see.
Yes, I do need to become slender. Much happier when I was slender.
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Demure? Fair play...This is not ironic, also again HRT can noodle-ify you. Idk if you've worked out or whatever? Do you really think you're that much stronger than the average woman? Silly egg
Since you intend to go on hormones that'll only get easier too.
Well I look forward to being turned into a noodle ~~even if I have some concerns~~.
And idk, kinda. Not that I'm twice as strong as any woman or anything. But with how big a difference T makes + just being kinda big yea I think I'm stronger then most women? When I read women talking about it they all seem like they feel a lot weaker then most men? Isn't that a big reason women are so worried about safety things, being weaker? I know that's one of my big concerns surrounding safety.
Yea I'm sure it will.
You do have options when it comes to that, you can be anywhere from smol noodle to bulked gf or anything else!
It is true that anyone with testosterone in their system gets a buff to being buff. But also, there are strong women too, so like Idk. Actually many partners I've had have been unusually strong sapphics
huh... Safety is a whole seperate issue though Idk. Pepper spray.
Well hopefully I meet some strong Sapphics :hyperflush:
Yea, I know. Hard to stay on topic though. Thanks for talking.
Itβs funny, I do not really encounter women who will talk about being βweakerβ than men. Itβs really not something that has come up in my life even back when I thought I was a woman. In fact I think I tend to encounter many women who are into fitness and strength training. I do not think Iβve met a woman who said that they feel βweakerβ than men. I think the safety concerns that women have come more from their understanding of misogyny in society than any perception they may have of physical weakness.
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When you find someone who treats you right a lot of these worries will go out the windowIt better be when, it feels like an "if" right now.
I know it does but things will get better
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Yeah cuteness is a mindset as much as it is a particular aesthetic. I could (and do!) pull off being super pretty, refined, and elegant, but I can also pull off cute. And sometimes I do both at once if I'm in the right mindspace at the time. And I found my ex adorable partly due to how unrefined she looked sometimes. Even if it wasn't traditionally cute it was super cute.
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Traditional conceptions of cuteness might be, but just like how conventional beauty standards aren't the only way to be beautiful conventional cuteness is not the only way to be cute. I may be taller than most cis women but I'm utterly adorable because I've got the right mindset for it and an eye for cute styles.Smol dommes too don't forget those too
tbf everyone has sizing issues at some point even the cissies..
I would never
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omg but tall bottoms???based actually
Yeah fr, hard to disagree with that tbhspoiler
Oh my switch semi-tall ass is in danger here...You've never seen a cute tall woman? Wow, too bad. Cute to me =/= short
I know you are kinda ribbing me, which is fair I guess, but no I haven't seen any women close to my size I'd describe as cute ~~I've barely seen any women close to my size though my god~~. It is a shame, I'd probably like my body more if I did.
REPRESENTATION MATTERS
Aww, too bad, I'm serious tall women can be cute! I swear. Cute, to me, is more like a mindset than a rigid set of physical features - plus if you're tall everything is still in proportion for your body/face, you're just... tall.
I mean in terms of physical features, a cherubic round face is cute, big eyes are cute, long lashes, but that's all possible on a tall person (even a tall man believe it or not). But also, I knew a (trans) girl who never learned to ride a bike but was willing to try and learn - talk about cute!!!
Maybe. Once I start being able to buy girlstuff I'll have to ask what can make me look cute. I already have some things in mind but I'm sure there's more.
You're already well on your way to being cute then~
Probably a good thing to make peace with (or whatever
means)
instead of hyperfixating on it like me and developing BDD
I don't know if I've made peace with it, I am simply in a good mood right now.
I've met a load of women far taller than me. Some were taller than some men too