dysphoria or whatever
Cis people will see a trans person complain about one thing they are dsyphoric about and be like “well my X are similar” or “I know cis women/men whose X is similar”.
Like congrats you are outside the norm in one way to your AGAB, while trans people are outside it on multiple, want a cookie?
this post was submitted on 20 Jan 2025
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it's genuinely depressing when the history of anything good in britain typically boils down to "clement attlee's government (under the influence of aneurin bevan) made good thing. then thatcher came along and destroyed it, followed by tony blair making things worse."
not to give them too much credit, but like housing used to be so cheap and plentiful for example. god i wish
If you happen to live in a deep blue state, exactly how much fear should you be feeling right now? My first impression is that not a whole lot will change for me except being unable to change legal sex on my passport
The language is vague, but the EO could be interpreted as mandating a federal bathroom ban for any federal buildings.
deleted my insta account... hellsite especially with policy changes 
i didnt get anyones contact info. wonder if that was the right decision but people never really reach out to me first anyways or just leave me on read when i message them. more and more i've just felt like a digital voyeur, background static in these ppl's lives
down with apps, no more apps please. get rid of apps
::: spoiler scared
Im kinda finding myself very scared about the day1 EO and what it symbolizes/forbodes. Ik i will probably be ok because of where i am located, but also libs will roll over for anyone and i wont put it past them to say we need to accept and uphold the EO in the name of unity.
Ig its time to bring a chamber pot with me everywhere i go, or a bigwall poop tube 
Day one has been terrifying, as I've told people, at least we know what to expect for the next year, this is what they want. If it sticks in the short term or not, they'll be pushing for everything to become law one way or another. It crushed me last night. The whole order about women's health centers is seriously concerning on so many levels.
I feel like I need new underwear. The set I currently have is so gray. 
Probably should get a bra at some point too, but idk if they are big enough to warrant it and I don’t want to get fitted and what if bras feel weird. 
Big fan of soft bras like this:
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Easy enough to size and the elastic is less painful/annoying than conventional bras. Though mine are mostly black/grey too, they've served me well!
i recommend getting one! I'm pretty small but it makes me feel great to wear one that fits when I'm being social, my main one currently is just a CK sports one that's stretchy and comfy. if you get one that fits and is padded/push-up it can make your boobs look/feel a decent bit bigger too, if that's something you want. it's quite easy to measure yourself with a soft tape measure if you look up a guide.
Hmm, maybe I should go on a hike today. checks temperature oh that's right it's really cold. I still might do it, tbh.
There's also snow everywhere. It's kind of pushing me to do it, haven't hiked in the snow in a long time.
Winter walks, hikes and outdoors is amazing. Also, a great day to get out, probably not much will happen today on new orders, you should give things some time to settle. I'm stuck at work doing practically nothing but, well this, nothing work related. The snow also makes things quieter.
CW Suicide
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___ i just cant handle being trans. I couldnt handle it when it was vaguely tolerated and now that ill probably be thrown into a camp if i transition its just an impossibility. I dont like my hobbies or friends and family very much. Id want to make a list of touristy fun things to do before a suicide in 2026/27 but I cant even think of anything I want to do. Maybe watch the movies in my blu ray collection once around? I just wish there was an anti depressant powerful enough to make me stop caring. I also hate it because I cant get a gun due to previous attempts and have to rely on hanging/household poisons and theyre pretty scary. Life just isnt worth it for me and it sucks because Im kind of privleged and just wish I could give this life to someone whod enjoy it.
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Ive been suicidal my whole life. I just hate that im too much of a coward to do anything about it. I hate that im not old enough to know death is definitely coming really soon. I dont want to do another few decades of this. Im tired.
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hii im new here! excited to meet new peeps ^^
been kind of missing reddit lately despite how terrible it actually is.. aand so far hexbear is looking like only the bits of reddit i actually enjoyed, so that's pleasant :D
anyway i just injected my 90th estradiol dose, its weird, it really does feel like i started it yesterday
Hi! 
Welcome to our community! I hope you'll have a lovely stay. 
Yeah, Reddit is a pretty terrible place for trans people. Hexbear is run by queer people, and we strive to make it as safe as possible for our queer comrades. Detractors have labelled us a "online Marxist transgender cult" in the past, and we wear it as a badge of honor. 
Thank you! And yeah honestly i dont see how "online Marxist transgender cult" is supposed to make this place look bad lmao
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sigh :c
i am so tired of being an independent adult i absolutely need an authority figure to tenderly take care of and pamper me
Every day you make a post that is like a shotgun to my chest of relatablity
I have the poster's touch
So, if I want to get rid of my beard permanently, I would have to get laser right? I would ask if any here have had experience with Danish places, but we don't have many Danes nor are they online that much, I think? So any more general knowledge on it is appreciated!
If your facial hair isn't grey or very light blonde and you aren't very dark skinned, laser is the quickest first line treatment. If done right, you can permanently get rid of a 5 o' clock shadow in 10 - 15 sessions (this will take about a year and a half, as you should take a break during the summer months and you should space the later sessions out a bit to catch as many hairs in the growth cycle as possible). I still shave after 10 sessions of laser, but it's just to get my face smooth. I can go out unshaved for two days and without makeup, it takes a pretty big weight off my shoulders. If laser doesn't lead to noticeable blank patches within the first few sessions or if the hair turns lighter, tell your laser technician immediately, they will have to make adjustments to the settings. DO NOT FALL FOR IPL SCAMS. IPL isn't laser, it is almost never a permanent solution for facial hair (it can work on the shins, because hair roots there are closer to the surface). You might need a few touch-up sessions down the line because some hair can regrow, but it'll mostly work.
Needle epilation / electrolysis works if laser is not an option or as a follow-up to laser hair removal. Electrolysis is extremely time-consuming, we're talking several hundred sessions or more. Electrolysis goes after every single hair individually. The advantage is that you can remove all facial hair this way. If your aim is total removal and never having to shave again, electrolysis as a follow-up is a necessity, but it'll take a lot of time even if laser had good results.
Laser works well if you have light skin and dark hair.
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i'm super lucky to have a nice stockpile of HRT that just kinda happened because my pharmacy gives me 1.5x as much e as i need per month and like 4x as much cypro lol. i just say nothing of course. me and one of my gfs share the cypro too and we're still at a net gain per month 
unrelatedly, i think i wanna make a cute neocities... i've always hated webdev but it seems worth delving into it for this, clicking through the community sites makes me so happy. it's a cultural revival i'm really here for!
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me when i enter a "not doing okay at all rn" competition and i'm winning 
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My mind seems to be calming down now. Thankfully. Seems that PMS may have exacerbated my negative feelings a small bit there, but I'm coming down from it thanks to everyone sharing their stories with me in the last thread. That said...
CW: Dysphoria and family talk
I still feel a severely profound sadness when I see a pregnant woman or woman with her child(ren). And I still feel super fake, but not nearly as badly as I did.
Furthermore, my mother just canNOT understand why I've been so depressed. I try to explain it to her and she feeds me lines like "Kids suck. You should feel lucky." I don't care. You simply just can't grasp it. JFC she just keeps trying to add gasoline to the fire.
I also measured my breasts for the first time since surgery about 2 months ago. My bra size is apparently 38K, but I want to try on some bras to ensure that that is actually the case. That just seems overly large to me. Granted I was a small 38F prior to surgery, but still. 38K is like true 
territory and seems unrealistic.
decided to delete xiaohongshu. it's a neat app, and i'm glad people are having a nice time with it... i just realised pretty quickly that for me personally, it's gonna fill the same niche as a tiktok or twitter i.e. being a net negative for my mental health. especially BDD and general envy of other people which can fester into self-hatred. as well as having to see bigoted comments with much more frequency than a space like hexbear, of course. it's a problem i've found with all image-heavy, non-anonymous social media, and i think just cutting it out is the self-care move for me.