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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 1 points 5 minutes ago

the very same government that refuses to recognize me as a woman also recognises Denali as Mt. Cracker and just unilaterally named an entire sea after itself. These guys sound deeply confused

[–] buh@hexbear.net 7 points 59 minutes ago* (last edited 58 minutes ago) (1 children)

Cursed bit idea: β€œtrans broken arm syndrome” but it’s where the republicans ban medical treatment for broken arms because some of the people utilizing it happen to be trans

[–] amy_jmayday@hexbear.net 4 points 40 minutes ago

might have been better off doing DIY when I broke my arm tbh doggirl-sweat

[–] KatGirl@hexbear.net 6 points 1 hour ago

The Yuri artists are making now is wild. Just saw some Balatro Yuri and it was sick as hell

[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 8 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

CW: Transphobia, state oppression, passportsIt's been confirmed (through leaked internal memo) that passport gender marker changes and "X" markers have been suspended: https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/jan/23/trump-rubio-x-gender-passport

In theory, this sort of administrative ruling is supposed to have a comment period, but obviously the administration will run rushod over those rules if not halted by the courts.

[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 6 points 4 hours ago (2 children)
[–] Eco@hexbear.net 4 points 2 hours ago
[–] Luna@hexbear.net 4 points 4 hours ago

Chana Masala my beloved two-wolves-2

[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 15 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

When I hope trans mega posters will support me doing risky behavior, but they instead insist that my behavior is risky doggirl-tears (fine, i will get my ears pierced at a studio instead of doing it in my bathroom)

And another battle won by reason against the baka trans woman army. doggirl-smart catgirl-flop

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 10 points 5 hours ago

please do doggirl-thumbsup

disregarding all the hygiene benefits, a professional is more likely to get the piercings symmetrical

[–] Des@hexbear.net 5 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Alright no more smol bean stuff I'm going to start using more capitalization so my shit is readable. Feels weird. Was just going to use my alt to do that.

Greetings, everyone. I am new. (One second – let me get this spork out of the way.) My name is Katy, but you can call me the Penguin of Doom. (I'm laughing aloud.) As you can plainly see, my actions have no pattern whatsoever. That is why I have come here. To meet similarly patternless individuals, such as myself.

I am 13 – mature for my age, however! – and I enjoy watching Invader Zim with my girlfriend. (I am bisexual. Please approach this subject maturely.) It is our favorite television show, as it adequately displays stochastic manners of behavior such as we possess.

She behaves without order – of course – but I wish to meet more individuals of her and my kind. As the saying goes, "the more, the merrier."

Ah, it is to laugh. Anyway, I hope to make many friends here, so please comment freely.

Doom!

That is simply one of many examples of my random actions. Ha, ha. Fare thee well. I wish you much love and waffles.

Yours,

The Penguin of Doom.

[–] CrookedSerpent@hexbear.net 12 points 6 hours ago (4 children)

I thought this site was actually purged of this, but no... We still have a bunch of fuckers running around calling people AMAB'S and AFAB's for zero reason and refusing to acknowledge that their langue is harmful. They use AMAB as a noun literally as just a "woke" replacement for "biological male" when using any other kind of langue would have sufficed. ACTUALLY would rather just be called slurs on this website than that shit.

[–] buh@hexbear.net 7 points 4 hours ago

I'm AFAB (Assigned Fail At Birth)

[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 8 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

The worst part of the whole thing was that it doubled down on its rhetoric, insisting to many trans people that AGAB language is the best way to describe it despite being presented with better alternatives.

[–] CrookedSerpent@hexbear.net 8 points 5 hours ago

You're telling me that I'm not allowed to say "she AMAB on my AFAB till I AGAB"???? Wow the woke left really has gone insane. How else am I supposed to convey that information!!!!!

[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 7 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

spoilerIt's so cool when people reinvent binary gender essentialism but cloak it in progressive language. madeline-stare

What gets me is that it wasn't even accurate use of the terms, like AMAB used to refer to people with d*cks, which obviously excludes a lot of trans women anyway. I get there's certain medical settings where terms like that can be useful, but why insist on using it in contexts where it's neither accurate nor otherwise helpful in any way?

[–] iridaniotter@hexbear.net 5 points 2 hours ago (2 children)

Love to make false associations due to hegemony of meanings #ally knifecat

[–] ComradeMonotreme@hexbear.net 2 points 29 minutes ago* (last edited 25 minutes ago)

Honestly sex toy websites shouldn’t gender stuff, just categorise by what they do, dildo, vibrator etc. I remember love honey used to have prostate stimulators under a heading β€œMen’s gay sex toys”, a really quite a narrow description. Presumably because cishet men were complaining about seeing butt stuff while buying fleshlights.

[–] CrookedSerpent@hexbear.net 2 points 1 hour ago

I don't really get what's going on here, could somebody explain? πŸ˜…

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 6 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Between that and the intersex thread :yea:

[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 6 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Just saw the comments in the modlog, and uh what-the-hell. Especially disappointing coming from a grad user (and a supposed "leftist").

[–] AcidSmiley@hexbear.net 5 points 4 hours ago

The amount of debate pervertry and doubling down was directly proportional to being wrong about biology.

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 7 points 5 hours ago

Scammers on redbook continue to try to scam me by enticing me with shit from steam or google play, I merely keep talking about how they stopped making good sonic games after sonic and the black knight saul-stare

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 4 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

My gf actually thinks Marble Zone Act 2 isn’t the best level in the original Sonic the Hedgehog.
What a moron doggirl-smug

[–] buh@hexbear.net 11 points 8 hours ago (3 children)

Bit idea: guy who gets on E to make no nut November easier

Alternately could accomplish the same thing being on an SSRI

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 10 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

nsfwI saw a porn comic once where two guys challenge each other to No Nut November and do increasingly gay things to try and win until they both end up transitioning

[–] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 6 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (2 children)

Reminds me of the Death Note comic, where L asks Light’s pronouns and similar shit happens.

Edit: https://www.tumblr.com/persbaderse/758359681712390144/cipheramnesia-i-got-u-fam?source=share

Fuck yeah, I found it again with the sequel. lets-fucking-go

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[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 8 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (2 children)

CW: Do not try applying for a US passport with the correct gender marker until we learn more.This needs to be validated, but there is some information (see reddit post: https://www.reddit.com/r/transgender/comments/1i7wakb/state_department_may_have_halted_processing_for/) that not only has the state department halted processing for any gender marker changes, they are also confiscating supporting documents. So, if you send in a passport with the incorrect gender marker, not only could it be not corrected it and your other documentation could be stuck in limbo.

I just sent in my birth certificate and a therapist's letter. I am fucking terrified. I have another certified birth certificate copy at least, but now won't have any passport at all until something changes.

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 9 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Apparently the ACLU is collecting people’s testimonies

[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 7 points 8 hours ago

Yes, I submitted mine, at least for what information I have now.

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[–] TheGenderWitch@hexbear.net 16 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

im scared, a lot

i dont like being scared

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[–] Pisha@hexbear.net 6 points 8 hours ago (4 children)

Need some advice from comrades in Germany: Is there any way to get GCS here without doing multiple months of therapy? I can't see how I could manage to get a slot at a psychotherapist, given how overworked they all seem to be, and I've got everything else done, so to speak, so I'm not even sure there'd be much of a point in therapy right now. Thanks in advance!

[–] AcidSmiley@hexbear.net 9 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

The only way without therapy would be to pay out of pocket. Which will be cheaper than in the US, but you still pay five figures for vaginoplasty.

If this is not an option, you could find a private therapist, 12 sessions are still less expensive than putting down 20k+ € at the clinic. They usually have much shorter wait lists. Otherwise, it can take up to a year to get a slot in, if there is an open wait list in the first case. Systemic failure is everywhere in German trans healthcare, although i'd say it's even worse in the UK, Netherlands or Denmark (basically any place that bottlenecks treatment through gender clinics).

Apart from the therapist letter, you also need a letter from your surgeon that you've had a preliminary talk, are informed about the procedure and that there are no medical concerns that speak against the surgery. You should make an appointment for that as soon as possible, because they have wait lists for that as well. Some clinics like Lubos will only send out the letter once you have the one from your therapist, but you can book the appointment before that.

Finally, insurers also demand that you rule out being intersex (there is zero scientific reason for that, they just love openly discriminating gender diverse people). This is done either via an ultrasound at a gynecologist or urologist or via chromosome analysis from a blood sample. I went for the latter and included it with a letter from my endocrinologist about my HRT progress.

That's all the paperwork that is obligatory, but sadly it doesn't always end there. The MDK (the agency that gatekeeps this stuff) is also very likely to ask for other things which are even more bs than the other stuff. Examples include: A trans CV written by you, reports from therapists, day clinics and rehabs if you've had any mental issues in the last years to prove that you're mentally stable, the letters from the two forensic psychiatrists you had to see for your name change if you had to undergo the TSG crap, or other assorted nonsense.

This sounds like a lot, it is a lot and it's draining af to go through that process, but the MDK is mostly just playing pretend with this. They approve almost everything, but it's sadly a very normal thing that they only do that on your second try. Do not let these fuckers scare you away. They're dumb as rocks and more bark than bite, but this process is an annoying additional 2-3 month delay.

A far as surgeon wait lists go, these vary a lot. I don't know how quick you'd get an appointment if you pay yourself, but if you go through your insurance, Dr. Meister in Mannheim ist the quickest out of the big names rn at under a year of wait time. Morath & SchΓΆll in Munich are at 18 months wait time. Uniklinik Essen is the only place that offers PPT (peritoneal pull-through) as an option, but has the longest wait list at 2-3 years, and you will have to wait a year just to get a preliminary talk. Lubos Klinik and Dr. Taskov in Munich and Klinikum Essen Mitte are somewhere in between these wait times.

The heroine we needed! rosa-salute

[–] Pisha@hexbear.net 4 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Thanks for the good answer! I do have an advantage in that I'm privately insured – something I'm thankful for every time I get involved with doctors about trans stuff – so a private therapist sounds like an option. Would you happen to know if there any good ones in, like, Berlin or Hamburg or so? I always get quite anxious when contacting therapists so I'd rather not do multiple telephone calls just to get blown off because of the wait list.

I'll get an appointment at one of the places in Munich. Incidentally, I've had a preliminary talk at Uniklinik Essen and the experience was uncomfortable enough that I decided against them – can't actually speak about the quality of the surgeries though.

[–] AcidSmiley@hexbear.net 6 points 6 hours ago

Ok, in case you're privately insured, you do not fall under anything i just posted, but instead your insurance makes all the regulations up on its own. So you'd have to reach out to them for how they gatekeep this (they will gatekeep it somehow). You should be able to find a good private therapist in Hamburg or Berlin, but i'm not from either of these places, so you'd probably have to ask r/germantrans. You can also check out https://queermed-deutschland.de/ altough they do not list everybody and focus more on people who accept publically insured patients.

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