lilypad

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[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 8 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Thanks for your insight! Idk if we would be sleeping on it, but we would just curl up in it for movies and hanging out (we all live together).

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 12 points 22 hours ago (3 children)

::: spoiler probably not a sex thing

Ok has anyone used one of those human sized dog beds? Me and my friends are debating getting one, and were pretty tall (over 190cm). Are they actually comfy? And like would you recommend a specific one? Bonus points if it comes in pink doggirl-smug

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 12 points 1 day ago

Well the meds are doing something, i think. Ive been more productive today than I have been in weeks! Ive been less freaked, more restless (in a good way) and kinda gone off a couple times. But its going well I think... I hope its going well... Its been so long since ive been medicated, i really hope this time things will be different and the meds will work better.

My big test will be going shopping on my own at a big store, but thats for another day.

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 12 points 2 days ago

Started new meds today lets fucking go! Been going up and down all day, probably will continue to do so as i acclimate to them. Restless... But doing fine all in all :medicated:

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 4 points 2 days ago

Im glad I can be helpful! Theres probably other ways to tuck as well, but this is what I do (i tend to just use tucking panties, they get me most of the way there, and you can double up with a normal pair of panties for extra security if desired)

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

So theres a few ways i tend to go about it. Cw anatomy for this whole thing.

If you feel any pain, stop. This isnt something to fuck around with, and you can give yourself hernias and make your life more difficult if you ignore and try to power through the pain. Thats not to say you 100% will, just that it is a possibility. Its also important to look out for any numbness or similar.

general principles0. Locate your inguinal canals. They are on either side of your genitals, and open into the scrotum. They are small tubes that run up and out towards your hips. If you feel around beside the base of the penis and kind of crook your finger towards yourself you should find them. It may be easier to do this laying down.

  1. Press your testicles into the canals. They may be difficult to fit, especially if you arent on hrt or havent experienced testicular atrophy from hrt. If you feel any pain stop immediately. These canals are not stretchy and can be damaged. Similarly to step 0, it may be easier to do this laying down.
  2. Pull your penis back towards your anus, almost pinching it between your butt cheeks. Optionally you can wrap your scrotum around the shaft of the penis, or tuck it back with the penis.

tucking pantiesThese are pretty self explanatory. They are panties with a wider gusset and made out of either compression material or a more rigid material than other panties. You just do the general principles and then pull the panties on. I find it easiest to tuck my testicles into the canals, pull on the panties, and then tuck the penis back and readjust everything to be nice and tight.

If i need a bulletproof tuck and am using tucking panties, i pair them with heavy duty compression top pantyhose, which hold everything almost too well.

tucking tapeWARNING: do not use duct tape, or any kind of tape not meant for sensitive skin!

For this you will need to shave your pubic hair and potentially your shaft and butt cheeks.

As per tucking panties, do the general principles, but let the penis itself hang for now. (Also i have only been able to do this standing).

Once you have the testicles in the canals, wrap your scrotum around the shaft of your penis and then wrap it in a single strip of tape, to hold it together as a single unit. If you do this just right it will look like labia under your panties when done. It should kind of look like a hot dog in a bun.

Now do the actual tuck by getting two strips of tape long enough to go from your pubic bone to your butt cheek, and apply them to your skin on or above your pubic bone at such an angle that they cross and make an X over the shaft of the penis. How far forward/back on the shaft is up to you, youll have to play around with it to find what works best. The goal is to have just the head poking out from the center of the X, as this will allow you to pee without un- and retucking. Often the tape wont hold for multiple adhesions, so this is important.

Now pull the penis back, while making sure not to let the tape adhere to anything. Once its in position, apply the tape to your butt cheeks to hold everything in place.

There is an alternative to this if you only have one wide strip of tape: find where the tip of your penis would hit the tape when tucked, and cut a vertical slit there. Place some paper over the adhesive directly around the slit. Now tape everything up as normal (without the X of course) and make sure the tip of your penis is pulled through the slit before adhering the tape to your butt (in this case your butt crack).

This all allows you to pee while tucked, though you may need to fish around and pull your penis head out. Because of how muscles and the urethra become oriented while tucked you will need to wipe and may need panty liners in case of leakage. This is entirely ymmv territory, ive spoken to girls who need liners and girls who stay bone dry.

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 12 points 4 days ago (3 children)

Befriend women at that point in their life where they gain 10kg and decide to never lose it again, its how ive gotten most of my nice clothing, from family friends. Plus i feel like im basically a postmenopausal woman anyway and we have tons to talk and bond about soy-cutie

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 4 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I hope the show is wonderful!! What kind of show is it? And im glad you like the liner, finding something that works for you is always so nice ^^

::: spoiler eyeliner

Ooh what was the UD liquid liner (Ive been looking for a new liquid liner)? I love tightlining and doing my waterline but the gel always gets smudgy and the liquid either runs or flakes... I also just need a new eyeliner. The KVD tattoo i had still has liner in it but the applicator dries before Ive finished half an eye, and my loreal liquid liner has a fucked up applicator brush (i can use it... But its hard. Plus it isnt waterproof so no tightlining vivian-shrug)

The kvd was really frustrating cause it used to have a brush applicator that was wonderful, but the new one i bought (well, bought a year ago...) has a felt tip and its so hard to use cause the very tip of it dries out so quickly! Its so frustrating cause I like the liner liquid, but cant get to it lea-pout

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 7 points 6 days ago (1 children)

One thing i dont see mentioned is the social aspect. Some people are unable to hide the effects of feminizing hrt after a while, especially if they get a lot of titty. Idk if youre already out to everyone in your life, but this may be something to consider; there was a while where I was wearing a tight sports bra for weeks on end while visiting family or going to class and whatnot.

Also being a cutie should be number 1 not 7 💅

 

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the character is lille my from mummidalen/moomin valley.

 

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I'm unsure if this is too busy to work as an emote. I shrank it to 120px wide and I could still see it fine, but that could be because I spent so much time looking at it.

As far as usage goes, I think this falls into acceptable usage as per the authors FAQ. The author is homriette, and they have in their FAQ the following that, as this is fan art, allows (from my reading) it to be used as an emote on this site:

As icon on social media profile and that, I don’t mind. You don’t have to give credit either, is recommended but not mandatory, as long as you are not claiming the art/characters as yours of course.

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How do you write a cover letter for a job doing very basic tasks? I feel like Im either shmoozing and being way over the top, or being realistic in a way that will keep me from getting the job. For reference the job is to package coffee and make other products. I guess i just dont understand. I need a job, they need a worker. This work can be done by most people, its not some field thats relevant, its putting beans in bags and brewing coffee, how can I say "i really want to work here" when in reality any job will do, this is just the one that vibes best with my social capacity and is offered by the least offensive corporation. Like what am I gonna say, "I love brewing coffee, i spend every day constantly brewing coffee and moving my coffee beans from one bag to another, because I just like handling coffee"?

I have also been studying or doing self employed things like tutoring for the past 10 years and my cover letter skills were shit before this and have only gotten worse.

Cant I just write "job. Me need job. You have job. Me need money for survive. You need worker for labour. You give money, i work. I work good." and be done with it?

 

Its just so exhausting and upsetting.

excerpt from a conversation from yesterday (CW transphobia)Transphobe 1: its too tall!

Transphobe 2: what is?

Transphobe 1 gestures at me

Transphobe 1: that thing

The conversation continued with additional transphobia.

And like i get it okay, im not a person, not even a human, but can we just skip the whole conversation? Or is the whole dehumanization and inflicting pain thing the enjoyable part?

I guess a positive is that it shows who the fake and fairweather allies are, like i was surrounded by people i thought were allies but no one said a damn thing. It was transphobe 2 that actually called out his friend cause 'you just cant say that stuff anymore' 🙄. Transphobe 1 proceeded to try and defend his actions by claiming he was using gender neutral language cause he didnt know how to gender me. Like, no motherfucker you fucking werent! Gender neutral language isnt dehumanizing language! Now i get to go organize an event with these same "allies" who said nothing. I demand that you shoot me now, so i dont have to do this.

Im not sure why im so upset about this. Its not that bad, really just par for the course. Not like he was beating me or anything. And allies should be assumed to be false unless otherwise proven. Its just so tiring. So damn exhausting.

Thanks for listening to me

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