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[–] yewler@hexbear.net 19 points 10 hours ago (7 children)

It genuinely boggles my mind how many cis people there are. Like you mean to tell me we all get assigned a social category at birth based on nothing but our sex characteristics and yet 99% of the population is like "hell yeah that doc was totally right."

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 13 points 9 hours ago

50% of cis people are women so I get it

[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 15 points 10 hours ago

well when we manage to start moving in the right direction in terms of transgender liberation the numbers (of us) are gonna go up significantly. many repressors out there still.

[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 13 points 10 hours ago

It's so strange to me, there have to be more people who want a to ditch, in whole or in part, their assigned gender at birth. 99% of the population is cis? I don't buy it catgirl-smug

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 12 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Like what if we all had our favorite color assigned at birth? It would be surprising if only 1% of the population said "eh honestly I think I like blue more"

What's the difference between that and "actually I don't belong to that social category, thank you very much."

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[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 15 points 11 hours ago (3 children)

Getting the gender marker updated at the Social Security Administration office was easy, once I was able to get an appointment. Was complete within 5 minutes, and the staff was nice.

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 12 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

I’ve never had that shit done and I’ve been transitioning for years, I’m surprised it is that simple

[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 7 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Well, it is right now. The Biden admin effectively instituted self-id for federal identification documents (Passports and Social Security Cards). It's very likely that the Trump admin will quickly halt this policy, so I'd recommend getting it done soon if you can.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 8 hours ago

I hope it comes back after trump

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[–] WittyProfileName2@hexbear.net 19 points 13 hours ago (4 children)

HRT update: skin is getting softer.

Not all of it has changed yet so there'll be, like, sudden patches where it's less soft on, like, my arms or legs.

Bits that've changed feel nice, still getting used to the difference in how clothes feel on my skin though.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 12 points 12 hours ago (2 children)

Skin softening luffy-pog

yappingI kinda wonder if that's why I have so many sensory issues with clothes tbh. I don't remember having as many issues like that prior to hrt... hmmmm...

[–] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 9 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Care labels are the bane of my existence now. I always have to remove them because they’re so itchy now.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 8 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Cutting out tags and then filing down what's left.......

I use a seam ripper to cut the stitching and remove the label completely.

[–] MoonElf@hexbear.net 9 points 12 hours ago

for me shaving my body has made me need to bathe more as i seem to feel the gunk more, plus lotion i guess

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[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 19 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Thinking about an event in my teens when I was having pre-drinks with a bunch of guys, and one of them was joking about how I was mean to him, and I said a cutesy "aww, i'm sorry". It was kind of a dickhead frat bro-ish group and everyone just looked down and got super quiet for like 5 seconds and it was so fucking awkward.

distress

After that I realised I needed to act more masculine or people will think i'm fucking weird and I basically repressed my "natural" personality and way of communicating for years.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 14 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Ahhhh no but that's so cute, adorable mental image catgirl-heart the dickhead fratbros could probably use more of that honestly.

[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 12 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

normalize being cute with your homies

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 12 points 12 hours ago (2 children)

squishmallows are just funko pops for people who aren't into capeshit

[–] rtstragedy@hexbear.net 12 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

how dare you, funko pops cannot be cuddled

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 13 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I have dark and problematic thoughts I cannot discuss here

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 10 points 13 hours ago

Just a Twi’lek trying to make my way in a galaxy that hates me. kiryu-pain

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[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 15 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (3 children)

dysphoria but optimistic, diet/exercise stuff, family shit (positive?), hikikomori recovery, interpersonal relationship stuff, woo mystic shroom shitBeen going sicko mode at the gym for 37 days now(?) daily, sometimes twice a day

Down ten pounds

Still unhappy with body, but going for a shower after yesterday squished my tummy inwards in the mirror, and saw myself there for the first time in like 4 years??

There are inescapable aspects of my physique that I can't do anything about, but I felt like for the first time in ages that feeling okay about myself was something attainable?

Like I can't really do anything about my shoulder width or height, but my hips and butt actually look pretty good??

Like if I slim down more and do more squats and hip stuff and core work, I might look like a tall (weird, buff) woman(ish) person instead of "weird queer androgynous guy"

I might look into corset training too? IDK

Reached out to cool lesbian aunt who's my closest family member, only one I'm out to, she was very supportive and liked my enby helix ear piercing idea

Been really pushing myself to improve like I'm trying to make up for lost time

Been a hermit p much for 4 years

Done a good amount of shrooms lately, think my old best friend from 4/5 years ago that I've been meaning to reconnect with is actually my soul mate??

Like we were never romantic, but loved each other deeply and were both only child ppl with fucked up parents and when we got to know each other, it was like we knew each other our entire lives and were sisters that spent our whole lives looking for each other

IDK what to make of that

I'd happily spend the rest of my life committed to this person, but the hypothetical idea of a romantic relationship feels really weird and confusing to me

This is the only person I've ever known that I fully felt understood me intuitively and like we've known each other our entire lives, and I fucking ghosted them because I was a depressed coward

I dunno what I feel

I feel like I love them more than most married couples I know seem to love each other but the idea of us as a couple instead of like, queer soulmate siblings is very confusing to me

They wrote me a letter when I went dark years ago saying they'd always welcome me back into their life, but this long into missing them, the thought of being rejected by them (which I'd totally understand based on how I've acted) might actually kill me

I dunno, I'm drunk and very emotional and miss them more than I think I can continue to bear

My heart hurts

I'm so lonely

I miss my best friend

I hate myself for who I've been for the last half decade

I can't stop thinking about "what could have been" if I had my shit together then

Sorry for being a downer lovely ppl

cat-trans

Gonna go try to sleep off this melancholy

sleepi

[–] MoonElf@hexbear.net 6 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (1 children)

you're not a downer!! proud of you and your gains. I can sympathize with your confusing feelings too, i'm having similar issues that i'm hoping are just meds related. C'est la vie! Good luck!

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[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 12 points 16 hours ago (2 children)

Well, based on the voting, it looks Tracha will soon become a matrix space (or something very similar to it)!

Hopefully this might allow for more topic-based discussion, and discussions can be less overwhelming for those who need it to be that way (hi).

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