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K (189?–?) Soviet pioneer. From Kazan, Tartarstan, USSR, K was diagnosed as a β€˜transvestite’ in 1937.

She was given permission by the People’s Court to wear female clothing, her identity papers were changed to her female name, and her name was removed from the military recruitment rolls.

She was featured in a 1957 gynaecology textbook.

M.G. Serdiukov. Sudebnaia ginekologiia I sudebnoi akusherstvo. Moscow: Meditsina 1957: 47-8.
Dan Healey. Homosexual Desire in Revolutionary Russia: The Regulation of Sexual and Gender Dissent. Chicago and London: The University of Chicago Press, 2001: fig 24.

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[–] kristina@hexbear.net 26 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (6 children)

would anyone here be interested in collaborating on cryptpad to write up a "Why Hexbear?" blurb for trans people for the sidebar? i know a couple people that are trying to hook hexbear into more trans spaces and having a central doc they can point to when people ask why they should switch to hexbear might be useful thonk-trans

would be especially helpful if you found hexbear useful for your transition and wanted to talk about it to more people

join this matrix address if youre interested : https://matrix.to/#/!fYvKJEPbxrfVxxHRPn:matrix.org?via=matrix.org we'll be using it for general propaganda activities i think

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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 17 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (20 children)

hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i'll add you to the list!

the list as it stands:

Zvyozdochka (11/4 - 11/10)
oscardejarjayes* (11/11 - 11/17)
HelltakerHomosexual* (11/18 - 11/24)
GayTuckerCarlson* (11/25 - 12/1)
Luna* (12/2 - 12/8)
Eco* (12/9 - 12/15)

EstraDoll (3/2 - 3/8)

​ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

[–] EllenKelly@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

Hey comrades just some food for thought:

Previous megathreads have had the date structure of Nov 12 to Nov. 19 or similar, where as we now have what may look spiffy, it is read by a text to speech generator as ten twenty eight to onehundred and thirteen.

so while its not only in a date format that's backwards to people outside usa, its also potentially real confusing for people with limited vision

i think for archival purposes as well, itd be good to standardise this, the previous Month, XXth was a good compromise (I'd also favour including the year)

I guess this impacts the date structure in the above comment too.

probably a discussion to be had on the matrix, for people who are more actively doing the work

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 37 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Doctor asked me if I was pregnant. I laughed and said no. He was very serious and asked if I was sure.

Sir. I have a penis. There is no uterus. Always a nice feeling to pass, I guess.

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 26 points 3 weeks ago

This happens every time I go to the doctor, you'd think they'd remember

[–] rtstragedy@hexbear.net 24 points 3 weeks ago

had this happen a number of times to me, I think the most awkward was trying to explain to a nurse in Montreal with my awful French.

[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 31 points 3 weeks ago
[–] Eco@hexbear.net 29 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

even more fucked up that i have to go to work now my wife is literally at home

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 28 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Your workplace should let you take your puppy to work

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 24 points 3 weeks ago

Puppy needs to sleep fuck off

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 26 points 3 weeks ago (6 children)

Next time a zoomer hits on me I'll scare em off by telling them I had a blockbuster card as an adult

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)

Oh wait this wouldn't work on the types that are into Mommys that I attract like moths to the flame, this would only make things worse

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[–] Zvyozdochka@hexbear.net 24 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

cw: vent about lifeIt really sucks being poor and not being able to get a job. I have no money to go and do things, I don't have a car or any way to get around so even if I had money to do things I still wouldn't be able to, I am stuck in a meh housing arrangement, and I'm lonely as ever because social anxiety is strong and I shut down in even the smallest social interactions. I'm a mess.

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago

Big mood, I've put off dating cuz I got no job tbh. I'm also pretty nervous and too creature to read cues too well.

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 24 points 3 weeks ago (7 children)

Passed a handful of old people having a pro-Palestine protest on the way to the co-op, didn’t expect to see that in such a small town. doggirl-thumbsup

The lady at the co-op also asked for my ID when buying cider. doggirl-sweat

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[–] KrupskayaPraxis@lemmygrad.ml 24 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

I just got called, I have my first transcare appointment tomorrow :D

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[–] kristina@hexbear.net 23 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)
[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] kristina@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (5 children)

lmao apparently they messaged spez to nuke all the people complaining, with trans 'organizers' like this who needs transphobes?

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[–] khizuo@hexbear.net 23 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

trans lit professor asked me yesterday "is that lenin on your shirt" (it was, in fact, lenin on my shirt)

i am very curious about how that conversation would go with her honestly

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[–] KrupskayaPraxis@lemmygrad.ml 22 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

One part of being trans that I don't like is how much time you have to spend on your transition, and how it takes away time for other stuff. I went to a laser appointment today, and then I had to pick up my Finasteride, and then I had to sign a document for starting HRT appointments, and put the next appointment in my agenda and then I had to research if it will be covered by insurance and what I exactly have to do to get the costs insured, and put the deadline for payment in my agenda.

This was today. I have a school deadline in a couple of days and I couldn't work on it yet today.

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[–] kristina@hexbear.net 22 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

cont. cw: trans community drama, anti-diyism on reddit brow

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wow its almost like theres a place where you dont have to worry about what spez fucking thinks hexbear-pride

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[–] Luna@hexbear.net 22 points 3 weeks ago (6 children)

misgenderingI know I had to wear my large sweater because it's so cold outside, but I walk in multiple times every week, surely you know it's not "thanks, man" by now doggirl-gloom

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[–] Lenins_Cat_Reincarnated@hexbear.net 21 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I fell for a (probably) straight guy again wojak-nooo

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 21 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Stutters are really cute to me, dunno what the deal is.

[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago

Weird way to air out the fact you think biden-troll is cute

[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 21 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Thesis defended. Am now Dr. Gay.

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[–] HelltakerHomosexual@hexbear.net 21 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

is flirting just trying to make the other person laugh and have a good time and sexual innuendos?

is that it?

[–] Lenins_Cat_Reincarnated@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

In my experience it’s also about making the other person feel good and loved by giving them thoughtful compliments and your total attention

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[–] Jenniferrr@hexbear.net 21 points 3 weeks ago

Wow I'm actially impressed that even at my older age my parents are able to make me so insecure about my body -.-

[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (9 children)

Y'all ever try to do something gender affirming and it backfires? Lol

Spent all afternoon shaving, doing makeup, putting on an outfit just for fun. Not happy with what I see in the mirror. I feel worse than before I did it inside-im-crying

Anyway, the diffuser worked, and my hair looks great~

Edit: a couple hours have passed and now I'm happy I did it kel-bliss

Would recommend

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[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

transphobia, transmedsI don't often doomscroll through bigoted spaces any more, and when I do I think it's mostly just funny to see their unhinged takes, but I stumbled on a transmed forum today and that shit genuinely made me sad. It's infuriating that people who have 100% suffered from gender policing decides they're now going to start gender policing others. I hadn't really looked into transmed beliefs before and now I regret knowing these people exist.

But also, I can't imagine these people are very happy. Like, they're treating this idea of "opposite sex neurology" as if it's an unquestionably true scientific fact and rely on it to feel valid (i saw someone asking if they could get a brainscan to prove they're trans lol), while the actual scientific reality is that we don't know what causes people to be trans. And why does it even matter? If you need to transition to live a fulfilled and happy life, isn't that reason enough? Why is your internal sense of self not enough to make you valid.

Also wanted to claw my eyes out when people were posting "teens shouldn't get gender affirming care" and "going through female puberty has ruined me forever" right next to each other.

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[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago (6 children)
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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

you unlock this after beating all 326 routes, last story and expert mode in shadow the hedgehog 05. I've done it so y'all can believe me creature

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[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

cishet women considering a man, doing the bare minimum for child care, sexy need help asap. they are not okay

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

It's ridiculous, the bar is on the fucking floor. God bless these poor benighted cishet women for having to date cishet men. Imagine thinking your partner is above and beyond because he "babysits" his kid and eats you out every once in a while and washes the dishes sometimes - and being right that this is above and beyond in their romantic experiences

[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

eats you out

nsfweating pussy is the bare minimum you should do as a cisman jfc, you barely do anything else atleast put that useless tongue to use

overall the only good place for cishet man is on their knees in chains lea-wasnt-me

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[–] Yor@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)
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[–] yewler@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago

Everything I own is transitioning with me. I've noticed I use she/her for all of my inanimate belongings now

[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago

preeningFound my favorite undies that had been missing in the back of the drawer and wearing them with my Good Ass Pants and feeling like I'm channeling potent bottom aura bottom-speak

[–] EllenKelly@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

venting about irl organising

its realy nothingey, it's just negativeI turn my back while some people who seemingly had the right idea got into positions of power, and I put my hand up to fill a role after someone bailed mid term. It turns out the so-called-anarchists have been encouraging general membership to write articles, cool, cute idea. But I look at them, and they're poorly researched, have no analysis, meandering, nothingey, and just wrong, filled with racist assumptions. Is anarchy just when you can't tell people NO? the article this person wanted published when I came back was essentially titled "we need to make people love the country again", and it's fascist as fuck. omg (I know these people aren't actually anarchists, they're just young libs trying their best, maybe I shouldn't have dipped)

Don't even get me started on people bailing 1 month before the end of their term and suggesting we should just fold the org. I get your burnt out but OH MY FUCKING GOD. please excuse me while I scream FUCK as loudly as I can in my home.

One of the most frustrating things is that the bar for entry is so low that a bunch of unsafe "comrades" who are anti-communists, who I have kept out of other spaces, are now firmly embedded, and they complain that kicking people out is going to isolate them from community, and they'll make vague threats of self-harm, yeah cool, that's not abusive, this is fine.

Honestly everytime I stop smoking feels like the worst possible time to be doing it. I know this is all petty and silly, but wow I am just having a bad mental health week/month/year/life

No amount of easy listening will sooth my soul today comrades, this is a clusterfuck.

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm not much of a dysphoria poster, but...

dysphoria questionDoes anyone have any methods for managing/coping with dysphoria? I can't transition any faster. I've already got girl clothes, people using my pronouns, voice training, hair removal, and a plan to start HRT.

It's just that it's been very acute lately on a visual level. I'm about to adopt @Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 's strategy of never looking in a mirror, but... I'm like super vain and can't pass a mirror without looking lol

Anyway, it just hurts, and I'm solution oriented, so I just kind of want to do something about it

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[–] Angel@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

She (context) said on a voice recording:

"You're so cute. I'm gonna try and get some sleep, and I'll speak to you soon. I hope you're okay; I hope you have a good day. I love you! Byebyebye!"

God damn, my face lit up. I feel so, oh my God, I don't even know how to describe this feeling...

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)
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[–] Are_Euclidding_Me@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago (6 children)

I don't know why I hate that the dates in the title are written as fractions. It's fine, it's very clear that they're dates but I saw them and was instantly like blob-stabby meow-knife-trans

I don't understand why I have such strong feelings about such an extremely unimportant stylistic choice, but here we are!

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[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

weird? idk, dysphoriaIt's weird how something that isn't outwardly visible to anyone else can alter my mood and behavior significantly

Wearing cute undies and I feel kinda bubbly and more femmy than usual compared to my usual dour cranky sleep deprived grandparent vibe

I wish I wasn't a garish oaf and had somewhere fun to be because meeting a cute person to flirt with IRL sounds appealing today

shrek-progress

shy

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[–] DeathToBritain@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I think modern halloween is one of the dubs America can have. that shit is fun, and there's a reason it has caught on all over the place. my dad refused to take me trick or treating as a kid calling it American shit, so I had to get neighbour to take me with their kids, and it was damn fun every time

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago (9 children)

preeningStopping in front of the mirror and realizing, damn i’m hot. Literally whenever I see a mirror now I am kind of transfixed with how I look…might have a mirror kink now.
screm-pretty

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