I'm so excited to be living with other trans people. My ex was a lib, and was supportive in that way, but would often talk shit on other trans people. One of her friends came out as non-binary and she (a cis person) said people were just doing it for attention. Hated neopronouns too. She was also super into those fake disorder cringe groups. I've thought a lot about possibly being genderfluid or non-binary, but I never felt safe exploring that around her.

So, yeah.

I think that's why I took "too long" to stop using the men's restroom. I never felt uncomfortable using a urinal.

Okay anyway so I know I have ADHD for sure, like not only was it easy to self-diagnose but I got an official diagnosis from a psych so that's like all sorted.

Autism has been way harder to pin down. Like there are some criteria I resonate with like a lot, and there's some where it's the complete opposite. And maybe some a mix?

It doesn't help that ND people I've talked to about it have been 50/50 as well. "Yes you do" "Nah you don't" That's not helpful!

Someone said take the RAADS when you're not on meds or stimulants and then try it again when I'm on them. I thought it was silly but I took the test last night with no meds/stimulants and got a score right on the border, and then I took it again today after my meds kicked in and I got 10 points higher?

Chat does adderall cause autism

Ok but seriously I do understand that ADHD can mask autism criteria so it does make sense that I'd relate that in a mindset where my ADHD stuff is reduced that I'd be able to see more of what's underneath but... it's so much on the edge that I'm still confused. Do I just have like the la croix of autism?

Where's the comprehensive AuDHD test when I need it?

Emi Koyama - The Transfeminist Manifesto and Transfeminism: A Collection

Leslie Feinberg - Trans Liberation: Beyond Pink Or Blue, and Lavender and Red, and Transgender Warriors: Making History From Joan of Arc to Dennis Rodman (a great read and interesting for its time, but be wary of accepting Feinberg's premise that contemporary concepts of identity can be broadly applied to cultural contexts across space and time)

Kate Bornstein - Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women, and the Rest of Us and Gender Outlaws: the Next Generation

Riki Wilchins - Read My Lips: Sexual Subversion and the End of Gender

Susan Stryker - My Words to Victor Frankenstein Above the Village of Chamounix: Performing Transgender Rage (which is a fantastic essay) and Transgender History: The Roots of Today's Revolution

Susan Stryker and Stephen Whittle (editors) - The Transgender Studies Reader and The Transgender Studies Reader 2 (this one is edited with Aren Aizura rather than Whittle)

Viviane K. Namaste - Invisible Lives : The Erasure of Transsexual and Transgendered People and Sex Change, Social Change: Reflections on Identity, Institutions, and Imperialism

Esther Newton - Mother Camp: Female Impersonators in America and Margaret Mead Made Me Gay: Personal Essays, Public Ideas and Cherry Grove, Fire Island: Sixty Years in America’s First Gay and Lesbian Town

And this one isn't so much a classic as it is essential reading for trans studies for Marxists:

Jules Joanne Gleeson and Elle O'Rourke (editors) - Transgender Marxism (I also recommend Gleeson’s essay Transition and Abolition: Notes on Marxism and Trans Politics)

Joanne Meyerowitz - How Sex Changed: A History of Transsexuality in the United States

Angela Pattatuchi Aragón - Challenging Lesbian Norms: Intersex, Transgender, Intersectional, and Queer Perspectives

Rita Santos - Beyond Gender Binaries: The History of Trans, Intersex, and Third-Gender Individuals

Marjorie Garber - Vested Interests: Cross-dressing and Cultural Anxiety

Larry Nuttbrock (ed.) - Transgender Sex Work and Society

Andrea Abi-Karam, Kay Gabriel - We Want It All: An Anthology of Radical Trans Poetics (this is poems, more than theory, but so worth it)

Mark Thompson, Dorothy Allison, Guy Baldwin, Joseph W. Bean, Michael Bronski, Pat Califia, Jack Fritscher, Geoff Mains, Gayle Rubin – Leatherfolk: Radical Sex, People, Politics, and Practice

Hil Malatino - Side Affects: On Being Trans and Feeling Bad

Merrick Daniel Pilling - Queer and Trans Madness: Struggles for Social Justice

Morty Diamond, Julia Serano, Shawna Virago, Sassafras Lowrey, Silas Howard, Cooper Lee Bombardier – Trans/Love: Radical Sex, Love & Relationships Beyond the Gender Binary

Alice Domurat Dreger - Hermaphrodites and the Medical Invention of Sex

Anne Fausto-Sterling - Myths Of Gender: Biological Theories About Women And Men and Sex/Gender: Biology in a Social World and Sexing the Body: Gender Politics and the Construction of Sexuality

Catherine Harper - Intersex

Morgan Holmes - Critical Intersex

Nikoletta Pikramenou - Intersex Rights: Living Between Sexes

Julia Epstein, Kristina Straub - Body Guards: The Cultural Politics of Gender Ambiguity

David A. Rubin - Intersex Matters: Biomedical Embodiment, Gender Regulation, and Transnational Activism

Georgiann Davis - Contesting Intersex: The Dubious Diagnosis

Katrina Karkazis - Fixing Sex: Intersex, Medical Authority, and Lived Experience

Brandy L. Simula, J.E. Sumerau, Andrea Miller (editors) - Expanding the Rainbow: Exploring the Relationships of Bi+, Polyamorous, Kinky, Ace, Intersex, and Trans People

Elizabeth Reis - Bodies in Doubt: An American History of Intersex

Hida Vilori, Maria Nieto - The Spectrum of Sex: The Science of Male, Female, and Intersex

Stefan Horlacher (eds.) - Transgender and Intersex: Theoretical, Practical, and Artistic Perspectives

Holly Lewis - The Politics of Everybody: Feminism, Queer Theory, and Marxism at the Intersection

Gayle S. Rubin – Deviations: A Gayle Rubin Reader

Sara Ahmed - Queer Phenomenology: Orientations, Objects, Others

Judith Butler - Gender Trouble: Feminism and the Subversion of Identity and Bodies That Matter: On The Discursive Limits of “Sex” and Undoing Gender

Andrew Parker, Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick - Performativity and Performance

Also Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick - Epistemology of the Closet and Tendencies

Carla Freccero, Michèle Aina Barale, Jonathan Goldberg, Michael Moon, Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick - Queer/Early/Modern

Monique Wittig - The Straight Mind And Other Essays

Mary McAuliffe (editor) - Sapphists and Sexologists: Histories of Sexualities

Chrysanthi Nigianni, Merl Storr - Deleuze and Queer Theory

Suzanne J. Kessler, Wendy McKenna – Gender: An Ethnomethodological Approach

Thomas Walter Laqueur - Making Sex, Body and Gender from the Greeks to Freud

Dean Spade - Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics, and the Limits of Law

Eric A. Stanley - Captive Genders: Trans Embodiment and the Prison Industrial Complex

Jasbir Puar - Terrorist Assemblages: Homonationalism in Queer Times

Xianyong Bai, Hans Tao-Ming Huang- Queer Politics and Sexual Modernity in Taiwan

Denise Tse-Shang Tang - Conditional Spaces: Hong Kong Lesbian Desires and Everyday Life

Elisabeth L. Engebretsen, William F. Schroeder, Hongwei Bao (editors) - Queer/Tongzhi China: New Perspectives on Research, Activism and Media Cultures

Eli Coleman, Chou Wah-Shan – Tongzhi: Politics of Same-Sex Eroticism in Chinese Societies

Howard Chiang (eds.) - Transgender China

Hongwei Bao - Queer China: Lesbian and Gay Literature and Visual Culture Under Postsocialism

Francisca Yuenki Lai - Maid to Queer: Asian Labor Migration and Female Same-Sex Desires

Don Kulick – Travesti: Sex, Gender, and Culture among Brazilian Transgendered Prostitutes

Gloria Anzaldua - Borderlands/La Frontera: The New Mestiza

Eunjung Kim - Curative Violence: Rehabilitating Disability, Gender, and Sexuality in Modern Korea

Hwasook Nam - Women in the Sky: Gender and Labor in the Making of Modern Korea

Fintan Walsh - Queer Performance and Contemporary Ireland: Dissent and Disorientation

Páraic Kerrigan - LGBTQ Visibility, Media and Sexuality in Ireland

Patrick R. Mullen - The Poor Bugger's Tool: Irish Modernism, Queer Labor, and Postcolonial History

Gul Ozyegin (ed.) - Gender and Sexuality in Muslim Cultures

Stephen O. Murray, Will Roscoe (editors) - Islamic Homosexualities: Culture, History, and Literature

Saed Atshan - Queer Palestine and the Empire of Critique

Sarah Schulman - Israel/Palestine and the Queer International

Stephen O. Murray, Will Roscoe (editors) - Boy-wives and Female Husbands: Studies in African Homosexualities

Will Roscoe - Changing Ones: Third and Fourth Genders in Native North America

To be blunt, it’s really not her business. Each trans patient must have the fundamental right to privacy. The question of patient self-revelation can’t be seen solely through a clinical lens. There are larger social issues. Maybe you feel you would treat this patient the same way once they came out to you. But when you put it in their chart, or mention it to the next staff member, the trans patient may be mistreated."