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I didn't mean for this post to cause a bunch of arguing in the comments =(
I thought this was just some gallows humor (e.g. "Everything's lovely except that I have to fear for my safety all the time") type of shitpost that sounded similar to comments I've heard from women irl a lot.
You are not alone in feeling that. Everyone being angry about this in here probably feels the same. And it's incredibly ingenuine to on one hand say this post communicates feelings about fear of going outside and/or men, while simultaneously dismissing feelings of anger at being called a murderer.
My own comment being dismissive of this post (because it's a shitpost, that's the literal community here) was deleted.
Another one where I say "women lie" is being downvoted and it was (softly) implied I'm a murderer for saying this (The comment says "You are the man we are afraid of", context is "men like to murder" as of the OP). The reply and votes to the "women lie" one means people do in fact notice that an overgeneralization hurts. They just don't care if it hurts men. Presumably because "men are murderers" and are thus not allowed a voice besides belittling themselves.
It's just sad.
the difference is your generalization isn't based in statistical fact. women who lie about false rape accusations (i assume that's what you're trying to get at here) are such an unfathomably small minority that no man ever has to live their life considering it. by saying that this is something women in do in equivalence to what women are saying men do, you're implying otherwise and implying the authenticity of countless women's experiences with sexual violence at the hands of men is invalid. experiences which are already seldom believed by the people who need to hear it.
on the other hand, a substantial amount of women experience sexual violence from men. it's statistically common enough that women have to live in fear and that conventional wisdom has long held that women should not go out at night alone, carry mace, etc. etc. etc.
bottom line is, it's a false equivalency that serves only to invalidate the reality women must face, and what you're trying to equate it to is that reality. you are harming women by doing this.
it does not harm men to point out what a significant enough amount of them to be dangerous to women at large are doing. you are not personally affected by women saying that men are violent or murderers, but women are personally affected by your exaggerated claims of dishonesty when they speak out against this violence that they are statistically far more likely to experience.
Your assumption is yours to make, I was being deliberately ambiguous. My point was "men like murdering" sounds like a fact, but isn't. Just as "women lie" sounds like a fact, but isn't.
The OP isn't, either. There is no difference. Both are damaging overgeneralizations. Even though more women (because its easier) do lie (again, ambiguous. Can be about how their food tasted) way more often than men do murder, both are damaging overgeneralizations. One more than the other.
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You are referencing statistics. For the second time. Provide them.
No, you just feel like that. Me arguing that I don't want to be called a murderer because of my penis is not a downplay of rape. You did that part all on your own.
That's a lie. Also, how does that fit in with me harming women by pointing something out? We are talking about the sentence "men like murder", which is rightfully being under fire. You could say this is a shitpost, but your comment is not.
Lie. Here you also try to justify the post as the truth. Just for future reference.
How? And how am I not affected by you denying my experience?
Are you talking about rape or murder? If you talk about murder, like the OP, that's again a lie.
You, in particular, are not being called a murderer, because the OP clearly says "men" and not "all men." You are however contributing to the problem by being dismissive and making a discussion about women's safety about you, which is why women should be afraid of you since you are clearly self-serving and have no empathy for and understanding of their plight.
Please explain to me how women talking about violence from men affects you personally. I can tell you how exaggerating your claim is harmful toward women, since because of the disproportionate violence and sexual abuse they face from men, they often find themselves having to speak on their experiences, and often aren't believed thanks to unfounded biases like yours.
The difference is that your claim is grossly exaggerated to appear equal to the OP's claim, which actually has statistic validity. The OP's only mistake is specifying murder, which isn't the only threat of violence at the hands of men a woman would potentially (and has a good chance of having to) face walking alone at night, but anyone who isn't 12 should be able to understand the use of hyperbole in a motherfucking shitpost. The intention is clear. it is not safe for women because of violence from men.
Here are the statistics: https://rainn.org/statistics/scope-problem, https://ucr.fbi.gov/crime-in-the-u.s/2019/crime-in-the-u.s.-2019/tables/table-42/table-42.xls, https://www.statista.com/statistics/251886/murder-offenders-in-the-us-by-gender/
You are using statistics inappropriately. You don't understand the argument you are just trying to villainise men
whatever helps you sleep at night bro
This is sexism. This woman didn't say "too bad recites national murder statistics exist." She said men.
When you make a sweeping statement about women being dishonest in their accusations, this is unfounded. Men are statistically extremely unlikely to be falsely accused of sexual violence by a woman. A man does not need to consider women to be a potential threat.
When you make a sweeping statement about men being violent against women, this is not unfounded. Women are statistically very likely to experience violence from men. That doesn't mean all or even a majority of men, but enough that women have to consider men to be a potential threat.
By trying to equate the two, you serve only to dismiss the credibility of very often real experiences from women. This harms women very much, especially in a society where they're already seldom believed by the people who need to hear them, such as the authorities.
It is not sexism toward men to point out that men are the ones committing violence against women specifically, it's a fact backed up by evidence. She said men because it's not a woman who is realistically going to be a threat to her. Men ≠ all men. Also, the national murder statistics point to men specifically being the problem so I hardly see what the difference is.
If this woman said "too bad black people exist." Would you rush to defend her with statistics. Stop being a hypocrite injustice is injustice doesn't matter who does it or who they do it against.
No, because I also take into consideration the reasons for those statistics. Black people are demonstrably discriminated against and profiled by authorities, and are often suspected of, arrested and even convicted for crimes they did not commit.
The police, an entity dominated by men, do not unfairly discriminate against men. Men are actually committing these acts of violence against women, and we have non-police statistics that corroborate this, unlike the police statistics for racial minorities.
So you trust the institutions to deliver you news you agree with but not that you disagree with? Listen to yourself. How desperate are you to justify misplaced anger. Men aren't the cause of your problems. And you won't fix anything without them.
There is actual evidence of discrimination against racial minorities from the authorities, not discrimination against men, of whom the authorities are predominately comprised of. And as I said before, on the matter of violence against women, the authorities' crime statistics are not the only evidence corroborating this. I've posted links to different sources throughout the thread if you care to look.
I think you must be assuming my gender because these are not my problems. I'm not a woman. I don't need to be to speak out against discrimination against women from men. And I agree, we can't fix this without the cooperation of men, of whom can hold other men accountable, because as you and many others in this thread have shown, men won't listen to women about this at all.
I don't believe I used incorrect pronouns anywhere. Please point out where and I will edit my comments. Sorry if I have.
Saying that men aren't the cause of my problems when I'm talking about women's experiences with violence against them from men. They aren't my problems, but nevertheless I care about them.
I made a reply to blind3rdeye where I mirrored some of your sentiments. I have a hard time finding mutual empathy with people. When anyone talks about the unique pain of belonging to certain groups I try my hardest to trust them. I do this because of how much dismissiveness there is of men's issues.
I get that. I found myself on the side of vegans after a post mocked them for being a vegan while the nature they're protecting is not, and comments then clowning on the vegans that showed up. "How do you know they're vegan? They'll tell you." Kind of stuff. I'm not vegan but I really don't like this kind of baiting.
My comments were way better received then.
I like what you wrote in the other comment, btw.
the thing is, nobody here is being dismissive of men's issues, because this thread is not a conversation about men's issues. men are coming in here and dismissing women's issues.
you guys never seem to talk about this on your own accord, but rather only when it's to bring down women for talking about the realities they face. it makes it difficult to believe that any of you here sincerely care about what you claim to.
You are under a comment about my experience and feelings. I am a man. These are my feelings as a man. People are very publicly dismissing them. You can't just banish injustices towards people you don't want to think about away to somewhere else.
E: that said a mod eventually will show up and do just that
yes, a comment about your experiences and feelings as a man under a thread about women's experiences. i'm staying on the topic hand.
i shouldn't have to explain to you why going "okay but what about men" every time women talk about their experiences is problematic and dismissive.
My comment is about the woman blaming men for being scared to go out at night. It's directly related to the topic at hand. I am dismissive not of this woman's experience, that is being scared to go out at night, but of her claim that this is men's fault. I think men are right to be pissed at being blamed for this.
Men are at fault though. Women aren't the ones attacking women, men are. Almost entirely. Who are they therefore supposed to blame so that your fee-fees don't get hurt? And for the last fucking time, "men" doesn't mean all men including you.
If you're not referring to men don't say men. Women do attack women. It happens. My point is that it would be illogical and sexist to blame women for this.
What part of "men are at fault though" don't you understand? I am referring to men. I'm not referring to ALL men. That's the distinction. You're being obtuse.
Women do not attack women NEARLY as much as men do. It is not equal at all. You are also being disingenuous.
Women are sluts
No not ALL women. I'm not a sexist jeez
This is what you sound like to me
I have evidence for my claims, which deal entirely in facts detailing that men in particular are the ones statistically likely to commit violence against women, and that therefore the original post is correct in its assertion that "men are murderers". Calling women sluts isn't even something that can be backed by evidence because it's just a misguided and misogynistic opinion on female sexual expression. There is no fact-based way to measure something like that.
You know, I'm beginning to think you aren't arguing in good faith here.
Apologies, feel free to insert any noun you'd like.
When a particular demographic and no other demographic is doing a certain thing, it's not incorrect to point out the said demographic is doing that thing. I really don't know why this is so hard for you.