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[โ€“] ashinadash@hexbear.net 6 points 1 day ago (2 children)

oh waow

my brain is using this like a chew toy, I'm making myself anxious for fun!

Why would the brain do this, it causes us distress so surely we should not?

But for me, at this point I get more anxious about ambiguity than anything else. There are situations where it's like, if I could even tell clear-cut whether it was my fault, I could deal with it better. I tend to get huge spikes of anxiety when there's no sensory input, socially, like I don't get any feedback...

currently trying to talk myself out of there being a "right number of times" to reach out during a week or "does this warrant texting someone". Because I'm so caught up on these things that I just don't text. I want to be better connected, and that desire is starting to outgrow my fear of saying something stupid.

This is awesome, love to see it. There is no "right number of times" for anything social related! Message people, cause problems โœจ For me it is also hard because, uh I genuinely annoy people a lot of the time, literally I talk too much. That might sound like an eyerolling anxiety self hate thing, but I talk at extreme lengths to the point people have just quit in the past. So Idk, I just wish I could go to bed without my brain wondering if I've fucked up, not sure...

[โ€“] Wendy_Pleakley@hexbear.net 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Brains are confusing

There are situations where it's like, if I could even tell clear-cut whether it was my fault, I could deal with it better. I tend to get huge spikes of anxiety when there's no sensory input, socially, like I don't get any feedback...

I relate to this so much, and I find that I have to rely on myself to interpret things. Which is, like, terrifying, because if I misread things I might feel super embarrassed. I'm very much used to relying on someone else's opinions

For me it is also hard because, uh I genuinely annoy people a lot of the time, literally I talk too much. That might sound like an eyerolling anxiety self hate thing, but I talk at extreme lengths to the point people have just quit in the past

Sadly I am pretty much the opposite, I am quiet to the point that I can't engage and others don't know how and neither do I. It's frustrating because I can't hate myself but also, hot damn I would like to change this about myself. I wish I had better insight for this specifically

[โ€“] ashinadash@hexbear.net 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

No kidding...

I have to rely on myself to interpret things. Which is, like, terrifying, because if I misread things I might feel super embarrassed.

yea I have very much got into the habit of just not making any assumptions or interpretations beyond the very literal. I must be infuriating to talk to but lol

It's frustrating because I can't hate myself but also, hot damn I would like to change this about myself. I wish I had better insight for this specifically

If you find a really weird special interest that you really like, maybe it'll drive you to talk more? :3 The vast majority of my social motivation is talking about weird stuff, Idk.

[โ€“] Wendy_Pleakley@hexbear.net 5 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Interpreting is annoying

I have very much got into the habit of just not making any assumptions or interpretations beyond the very literal. I must be infuriating to talk to but lol

Beyond the core assumption that people don't want to talk to me, I have avoided interpreting to an intense degree, in that if people don't talk to me I assume that means they just don't want to. If I initiate a conversation, and the other person doesn't initiate the next time, I am left in analysis paralysis and we often don't talk again. It's like I want someone to run in and slam the "Executive Function" button for me.

I grew up watching reality TV so sometimes I use my imagination and pretend I'm in a confessional on an island in Panama, or whatever. It's a framing device for me and only me lol

If you find a really weird special interest that you really like, maybe it'll drive you to talk more? :3 The vast majority of my social motivation is talking about weird stuff, Idk.

I have interests that I go nuts for, I just get caught in this assumption that people don't want to hear about it. Because if I talk and nobody responds, I get very caught up in why people didn't respond. I'm fighting years of post-game analysis every time I say something and wonder what people think. I want to understand so I can improve. But the world just at large doesn't care if I specifically understand things, so...

[โ€“] ashinadash@hexbear.net 1 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

yeag

if people don't talk to me I assume that means they just don't want to. If I initiate a conversation, and the other person doesn't initiate the next time, I am left in analysis paralysis and we often don't talk again.

Aaaaaaaaaaa me yea shouts to every connection that died due to this!!!

I just get caught in this assumption that people don't want to hear about it. Because if I talk and nobody responds, I get very caught up in why people didn't respond. I'm fighting years of post-game analysis every time I say something and wonder what people think.

Yeah, I mean it's kind of like this. I can tell you with complete certainty that probably 90% of the time when I post long rambling yapsessions about some weird novella nobody has ever heard of, nobody cares. I'm just going off into the void most times, and if someone replies that's rad. There aren't any negative consequences for it, so why not right?

People "don't respond" for such a wide variety of different reasons, and I can tell because I've had people here speak up to the effect that they enjoy reading my trash (???) which I greatly appreciate, and which also surprised me because they'd never said anything to me once, lol. Our minds catastrophise about the worst possible reasons but I find it's usually pretty mundane stuff. If anybody hates my guts for being an annoying yapper they have not made it known :3

[โ€“] Wendy_Pleakley@hexbear.net 2 points 43 minutes ago (1 children)

Our minds catastrophise about the worst possible reasons but I find it's usually pretty mundane stuff. If anybody hates my guts for being an annoying yapper they have not made it known :3

Oh totally, and for a long time, "not responding" had a ton of negative baggage for me, like I'm knowingly being ignored or something, which is rarely the case. I try to view it more neutrally, accept that I have the same freedom to respond to others (or not) as anybody.

[โ€“] ashinadash@hexbear.net 1 points 25 minutes ago

Pretty much how I view it too, it's hard to detach in that way but y'know, better for you.

[โ€“] rtstragedy@hexbear.net 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

But for me, at this point I get more anxious about ambiguity than anything else. There are situations where it's like, if I could even tell clear-cut whether it was my fault, I could deal with it better. I tend to get huge spikes of anxiety when there's no sensory input, socially, like I don't get any feedback...

Same same.. Its so difficult. The ambiguity is killer...

This is awesome, love to see it. There is no "right number of times" for anything social related!

YES. I am working on internalising this.

[โ€“] ashinadash@hexbear.net 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Same same.. Its so difficult. The ambiguity is killer...

If there's a part of being autistic I actually truly loathe, it's this. Being incapable of reading social cues or whatever on its own is not awful, but it leaves me drowned in anxiety sometimes and aaaaaaaAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA dog-screm

I am working on internalising this.

madeline-stare You just send people however many messages you want, you just talk to em a lot and it's great y'know... Their inboxes full, their minds full, with our incredible yapping...

[โ€“] rtstragedy@hexbear.net 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

it leaves me drowned in anxiety sometimes

yes. yes... sigh... it is such a struggle at times. makes me very glad for the little breaks I get from being a Human Adult(tm) when I can just become a lesser creature and everything can be simple.

Also, text conversations can be helpful too.

Their inboxes full, their minds full, with our incredible yapping...

fuck yes I love this framing. my messages are a gift lmao, why would any reasonable person be upset about them? I never feel bad receiving messages from people, so this really should be one of those "treat yourself how you treat others" moments...

[โ€“] ashinadash@hexbear.net 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

makes me very glad for the little breaks I get from being a Human Adult(tm) when I can just become a lesser creature and everything can be simple.

god I wish that were me catgirl-cry

Also, text conversations can be helpful too.

Oh yeah I mean, imagine talking to people irl??? catgirl-hiss

fuck yes I love this framing. my messages are a gift lmao, why would any reasonable person be upset about them? I never feel bad receiving messages from people, so this really should be one of those "treat yourself how you treat others" moments...

Exactly this izutsumi-idea You're gettin it now!

[โ€“] rtstragedy@hexbear.net 2 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

god I wish that were me

aw i hope you can get there too

talkign to people irl

tbf most of the people i talk to IRL are ND in some fashion or are like work people and i'm very comfortable in that role so

Exactly this You're gettin it now!

i sure have changed a lot in the past couple of months!

[โ€“] ashinadash@hexbear.net 1 points 1 hour ago

aw I hope you can get there

Shall see...

tbf most of the people i talk to IRL are ND in some fashion

This would rock, Idk where to get people irl like I find online honestly..

i sure have changed a lot in the past couple of months!

All good changes! Exciting tbh โœจ