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I think I might be a straight girl and not bi like I thought. Did any of you come out as straight, when others thought you liked the same gender?
I was bi before and bi after, I always had the bi cycle thing - sometimes leaning more to liking femmes, sometimes more for mascs, always open to enbies lol. Every once in a while I get the feeling I'm straight but inevitably some pretty girl comes by and reminds me I like girls too. My mom thought I was gay growing up, nope I was another letter in lgbt
I think some trans girls might realize they're straight after transitioning, it was part of the strict gender binary that you are hetero and a "man" and maybe it was permissive to say "well I'm bi so I can still play that role" even if that wasn't all the way true. I think some trans girls sometimes get caught up in comphet on the other side of transitioning and find out after trying to be straight they actually didn't like men all that much or were still bi. I have no idea how often either happens.
Honestly, I wouldn't worry about labels right now. Just do what feels right and makes you happy and joyous, eventually you'll figure it out. The label feels nice like a sweater on a cold day but it's also constricting. If you were bi before and you think you like men more now, that's fine, sexual orientations can be fluid plus you can still be bi if you're with a man. That's allowed
For me attraction changed, as a "guy" I was only attracted to girls but after my egg cracked I found I'm attracted to men but not women
I'm the opposite.
I considered myself bi for some time, but since my egg cracked I find myself liking men less and less
edit, self reflection, sex
but, you know, now that you got me reflecting on it, I really did always want to be a lesbian. I tried to date a few lesbians (pathetic, I know. I didn't understand my feelings).I was never attracted to any man or wanted to date a guy, but the idea of having sex with a man was like... The only way I could conceive of my femininity. If I couldn't be a girl, at least I could have sex like one.
So, just like wearing the clothes, growing my hair, "pretending" to be a girl with my wife, and having sexual fantasies that include men, it was all just triangulation to get me close to something I wanted. Femininity, woman-ness.
Now that I've accepted myself, I don't feel like I need that kind of connection anymore.