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this post was submitted on 19 Aug 2024
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Try to remember that everything that you’re experiencing is subjective and not “you” because your mind works on its own while you are just a perceiver. I find that things feel much worse when my mind cares about them and thinks they’re bad. This is OCD, but it’s also universal maybe. I pay attention to my poor posture: my back hurts. I think about my eating as wrong and judge my hunger or overfullness and try to figure out how to fix it: my stomach feels worse.I highly recommend non-judgmental awareness. Pay attention to your feelings and thoughts without judging them or trying to change them. When you think of pain as a bad thing and automatically react it hurts. When you feel pain and just think of it as an interesting feeling it’s more bearable. I was listening to this cool podcast called Shoeless in South Dakota earlier and this guy was talking about how he just felt more depressed and anxious when he identified with his depressed and anxious thoughts and tried to think himself out of them. When he just thinks of depression and anxiety as things that are there with him it’s more bearable and he can see how to escape it.
It’s not super easy, but it works.
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I genuinely have to do something. I am being drug down into quicksand and I'm just bringing everyone down with me. I'm having suicidal fantasies. This is not working. I am in agony.Trying to decide between getting a rubber band and seeing if that will make me feel better or if I should smoke weed. Leaning towards weed although I'm not a fan of how often I've been doing that. I know you can't help I just want to be heard.
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If you know what helps you that’s fine. Nonjudgment doesn’t just mean recognize and suck it up. For me it means realizing the stupid unproductive things my ADHD wants me to do feel less bad when I stop trying to not do them. I can scroll YouTube or eat too much as long as I feel better. If talking about it here helps, good. Accept your suicidal fantasies. Your mind isn’t you. It’s allowed to have horrible thoughts. If you don’t fight them they will have less power over you. Please just don’t do it for real. Get a rubber band and stim as much as you need to. Stimming is good for you, as long as it doesn’t too much damage. I noticed I think earlier you mentioned wanting to suppress your stimming when you’re alone. That’s what makes you feel worse. Let it be. You’re autistic, you need to stim sometimes. Being a bit more mindful and not identifying or fighting will make it slightly easier to ride out your emotional rollercoaster till you feel better.I've decided I'm going to keep my thoughts private for a little bit. Thank you for your kindness.
I am safe right now, so please don't worry.