nomadwannabe

The way you write is very off-putting. It seems like many people agree. I read your comments because I was interested in the information but yeah. Not trying to be mean, but I understand why you’re getting resistance while you’re trying to provide info.

Sorry to hear my man.

It sounds painful, and the letter clearly rubbed in some feelings or doubt that you were already having.

Truth is, it is likely just a phase. But it could last a short or long time, everyone’s different, and humans are just the biggest freaking weirdos at that age.

Two big things, 1) accept her as she is. Accept she currently doesn’t desire conversation from you. Doesn’t mean you don’t stop trying, but try your best to not make it about you, though it may be hard not to.

2. Teenagers are darn good at digging in their heels when the feel dragged or forced into anything, and they could include something as silly and benign as being “forced” having a simple combo with Dad.

So just continue providing your love and support, try your best NOT to make hints towards your contributions to the family, as she’ll likely see right through it. Be reliable, kind and consistent. Basically, continue being a dad. Continue to show interest in her and ask questions about her day, etc. but if she’s not feeling it, don’t let it become forced.

If this lasts many months, you could consider either having a direct conversation with her, somewhere she feels comfortable, and somewhere she could Leave if she wants to (I.e don’t go for a drive where she doesn’t have an option to leave. Could feel claustrophobic or trapped.) and just direct - “hey, I feel like we don’t connect as much as we used to, and don’t spend much or any quality time together. I was curious on your thoughts about that.” And be as non-confrontational as possible, and hopefully gain some insight that way.

You could also enlist your wife to bring it up nonchalantly since if seems from your comment they talk a lot more than you do with your daughter.

In short, if you’re doing all you’re saying you are, she’ll likely come around at some point. Teenagers are weird. Keep on keeping on, and good luck.

Very much so. They should be illegal everywhere as idiots like this are all over the globe!

I read Luigi’s in the voice of Charlie Day. Couldn’t help it.

Maybe it’s not everyone’s cup of tea but I love it haha, basically a custom made “This is fine” meme in song form for our generation.

Ack I loved my s3 mini. Are you really still using one??

Oof.

Thanks for sharing! Will give it a go.

Really good core strength for a girl with no arms

I just read the whole thread lol, you originally responded “only if you live in a propaganda bubble” to the first comment about things going for Russia being a theme.

Sad to say, you’re incorrect in this chain of comments and are clearly just trying to deflect after making an unpopular reply in the first place.

Go touch some grass.

Thank you for finding a way to word it better than I did, that’s exactly what I meant.

I appreciate the time spent writing that, that was a really cool read :) love reading takes from people who have put a lot of thought into niche topics.