loopy

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[–] loopy@vlemmy.net 101 points 1 year ago (21 children)

Such a valid point; success should not be measured only in dollars. I began explaining the basics of the Fediverse with some of my friends and the first question they asked was, “How do people even make money on there then?” It’s a bit disheartening to see how money-driven things are for some people.

[–] loopy@vlemmy.net 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

It’s strange, I downloaded a gif to my photo and selected it as an image for a Memmy post. The post worked and was upvoted so others must see it. But the actual gif is not visible on Memmy. The gif does play on a mobile browser though.

I want to try posting a direct link to a gif and see what it looks like. Can you see the gif below?

Nope

It looks like you need to use the format:

![label](directlink.gif) such as: ![Nope](https://i.imgur.com/lov37J1.gif)

[–] loopy@vlemmy.net 1 points 1 year ago

So far it seems that the admins will make posts when they’re considering new ones. I think the need for committed moderators may be the challenge for adding new ones. You could always find a community on a different Lemmy instance or create a community on an instance that has that enabled.

 

doctors say it’s terminal

 

(a mushroom!)

[–] loopy@vlemmy.net 1 points 1 year ago

I agree, I would rather see the community on the left with the instance in smaller/non-bold text below it, and user to the right without the instance of the user until you click the post.

[–] loopy@vlemmy.net 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I had an ex-gf that would sit down for showers when possible, and sometimes fall asleep lol

 

The social benefits are great and I heard the flag is a big plus

[–] loopy@vlemmy.net 7 points 1 year ago

My wife says I’m cheap, but idk. I’m not buying it

[–] loopy@vlemmy.net 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Thank you. It’s not a common acronym; I just didn’t see a way I wanted to shorten it haha.

Outside of this post with the link, people that search “addiction” would probably see the community. I posted essentially this same post in other instances’ chat communities, and made sure this new community was discoverable by lemmy.world, beehaw.org, vlemmy.net, lemmy.one, and kbin.social. I also asked that the mental health community lists this as a “related community.”

 

An online support group for people to share experiences and resources, and give support to one another through the many challenges of having a friend/family member struggling with addiction.

!fafopwa@vlemmy.net

 

An online support group for people to share experiences and resources, and give support to one another through the many challenges of having a friend/family member struggling with addiction.

!fafopwa@vlemmy.net

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by loopy@vlemmy.net to c/fafopwa@vlemmy.net
 

Hi everyone, my name is loopy and I created this lemmy community to make a space for people to share and support each other through the challenges of having a friend or family member struggling with addiction. As the sidebar says, this is not to replace therapy; think of it like an online support group.

I’ll get the ball rolling a little bit by sharing that my BIL has been struggling with addiction. First to opioids, then to his Adderall prescription. The mood swings are an understatement. I get glimpses of sobriety but then the cycles continue. It honestly gets pretty exhausting to keep trying to have empathy only to be let down again.

My wife and my focus lately has been setting boundaries. He knows how to manipulate my wife, so I said that we all need to be present when deciding something (eg if he is staying at our house for the weekend). It feels uncomfortable for her, but it has been minimizing the stress. I have learned the valuable lesson of keeping yourself safe and well first. This is basically not possible for my wife to set this boundary with him, so my role has been a lot of reassurance and being consistent.

Another essential lesson we have discovered is to distinctly define roles. We are not therapists and cannot be a detox center. We have literally tried because he talked us into it.

The last recent thing we concluded is that the whole process has to be their decision. No matter how badly we want for him to succeed and how many ways we facilitate that success, if he doesn’t want to do it, he will find any excuse not to follow through. Actions are the only way to measure progress (words and promises aren’t worth much), and he must follow through first.

We love him and truly wish for him to thrive in life. It is heartbreaking to see the lows, but as long as we don’t compromise on our own well-being, we will continue supporting him on his journey to recovery.

How have you all managed? How has addiction affected your life? Personally, I would love nothing more than to see some success stories to encourage others, but I know those are sometimes rare.

[–] loopy@vlemmy.net 4 points 1 year ago

I think you’d have more responses if you posted to !asknsfwlemmy@nsfwlemmy.com

[–] loopy@vlemmy.net 5 points 1 year ago

I found beehaw first, so I started there but then discovered that the admins manage the community creation there. So I made a new account on lemmy.world to mod that, and most browsed with my beehaw account. But then beehaw needed to de-federate from lemmy.world, so I made a vLemmy and lemmy.one accounts so I could interact with both beehaw and lemmy.world.

tl;dr As someone else mentioned, finding a smaller, low-profile instance to have your home account but interacting with other instances seems to be the best approach

[–] loopy@vlemmy.net 2 points 1 year ago

I personally love !dadjokes@lemmy.world

I may be a little biased because I mod it ;)

[–] loopy@vlemmy.net 1 points 1 year ago

I think the date is because July 1st is the beginning of a new fiscal year for many companies. I’m not sure why they may have changed terms of service, but my guess is that the companies are required to publish updates at the beginning of the fiscal year.

 

but I slowly got over it

 

I would really like to have high contrast dark and light themes. Something like the Night Owl theme but with secondary colors of neon orange, purple, green, etc. And the light could be beige with dark brown, green, and blue. I couldn’t find pictures of a good example.

I know there is a ton of work going into the actual development of the app functionality, so I understand it may take a while before this is considered, but the accessibility would be nice for people with visual difficultly.

 

Stand in a corner. It’s always 90 degrees!

 

I’m new to using Matrix and currently use Element on iOS as a client. The Matrix specs page notes that there is “optional” end-to-end encryption, but I don’t see an option for that. I’m just wondering if it’s a client limitation for the moment or if it’s enabled by default, and how secure the messaging is.

I would love to learn how it works so I can possibly replace some other group chat apps with friends and family.

 

He couldn’t see himself doing it

(Saw that previously on r/dadjokes and again on the show My Dad the Bounty Hunter)

 

It said, “I’m a big metal fan”

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