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I think I sing as a stim. It really clears the brain out, not much else to focus on when you are. I tend to get riffs or lines stuck in my brain anyway, like the chorus line to Baron Saturday... I'm definitely not any good at it at all, I'm just some nerd plus I never took voice training very seriously, but also my singing is definitely a blessing to these walls and anyone who hears it.
I'm probably "best" at old Who songs and 1970s Golden Earring stuff like that, but I most enjoy trying to do KT Tunstall (even if I could never pull the high notes on Other Side of the World) or 70s era Heart tunes. Maybe this is why I really dig low smoky femme vocals, Idk.
Just belting random things out 24/7, absolutely breaking into song for no reason at the drop of a hat. It's more productive than a picking stim!!! (My throat hurts ow)
I pretty dramatically put my fists on my hips earlier today and oh wow they actually kind of hurt? holy shit are they doing what I think they are?
CW: Talking about top/bottom surgery
29 hours until I have to be at the hospital for my surgery. Losing my mind. Just as excited for this as I was for bottom surgery a couple years ago. Finally will get my lopsided tits fixed. Gods know I always wanted large breasts even before my egg cracked. They're big enough as is, but now they're going to be BEEG. Can't wait.
That being said, I'm also getting a minor revision to my bottom surgery. I'm looking forward to that because that, too, somehow got lopsided >w>
Good luck with the surgery recovery and outcomes!
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i had ^sex^ with a very cool and beautiful person who made me
Phrasing... when I read this I didn't read the emoji as part of it...
going to ruin Thanksgiving this year by being a trans woman, getting drunk, and then screaming about how this holiday is a celebration of genocide and that we're currently on the stolen land of the Notdoxxingmyself people
Sounds like a great way to ruin Thanksgiving. Would be fun to be there!
Fortunately it should be a small immediate family thing for us this year.
been going to a lot more concerts/shows since transitioning, turns out dressing up and going out can actually be fun lol
partner found a really cool artist. i've been listening to them and it turns out they're anti-cop, anti-monarchy, sang at a pro-palestine protest AND has a show in my city this Friday??
we bought some tickets and i really want to try to make some friends this time but idfk how
Do they make shark plushies that are like 6 feet long? Can't find any on aliexpress
I havenβt gone swimming in years.
I used to love swimming.
I wish I could do it without worrying about how I look or body image issues or other people.
I've used tuck tape! It worked really really good. Dunno if you'd, specifically, go for it but there are lgbt only swim nights in some cities. My friends do that, don't even tuck for it.
Itβs not as much the penis as much as other things
I was going to jokingly suggest Swimply, but on reflection you may not want to visit a random strangers pool.
holidays, family, wistful
I can't stand spending time with my family. They're hateful miserable people, just awful to be around and reactionary as fuck and during the holidays their bullshit is dialed up to max. When I came out, I decided to cut them off. I didn't want to hear their hateful opinions about me or my transition. I didn't want to give them the chance to hurt me again.
And I'm overall happy with that decision. But now the holidays remind me how small my world really is. I don't want to be around mine but I do wish I had a caring family to spend time with. One that loves and appreciates me for who I am.
Me and who
The image didn't upload for some reason, and I am also still unable to upload images :( Just imagine two cartoon lesbians cuddling please
incoherent rambling inspired by one of DirtOwl's badposts
This bad post by dirt owl got me thinking, oh wait sorry I mean feeling since I am dumb infp tanki with iq of -5, about the way we view gender as a society. Anyways, dirt owl was not the first user to talk about mbti on hexbear. Using the search function of hexbear, this post from four years ago says that it makes no sense that everyone fits into 16 distinct categories. Another comment mentions the anti-worker nature of the personality test.
The comments in the badpost often followed a similar line, with users identifying as personality types that are technically not part of the system. And this is actually valid, since in mbti you are actually the type that you say you are. What these comments show is resistance to a form of categorizing people, but it is even more than resistance, they are not even taking it seriously. The comments are metaphorically sending a giant PPB to the idea of separating people into new categories. And it's pretty obvious how this relates to gender, since both are attempts at limiting us within a binary system. Especially the thinking or feeling part, unfortunately, is connected with people's expectations of gender roles. But just as the badposters are the resistance to this typology, we are the resistance to the idea of gender under the constraints of capitalism. I think that the gender accelerationist manifesto articulates well what I've been thinking of better than I can, even though I didn't read it until today (If you haven't read it yet, perhaps you should...) Some of it talks about how the modern gender binary is a result of colonialism; that sort of relates to this week's megathread topic about gender in different cultures.
So I know that this personality stuff isn't widely used as a class to oppress people, although that is sort of what it is used for when it is used. But the way it creates boxes, it is easy to dismiss. But the typology being wrong doesn't mean that people don't have personalities. It just means that there are more than 16 expressions of personalities, since last I checked, I think that there's at least 16 people alive right now. The more "scientific" way to measure personality is through measuring traits on a multidimensional continuum. There is no need for labels to express your personality. The same goes for gender, the only difference being that gender is oppressive when used as a class. Maybe gender is also something that is multidimensional, and while some people can easily be labeled as a man or woman in the same way that others can be labeled as an extravert or introvert, there is much more variation in reality.
You know how AI language models store words as vectors? In this fashion, an analogy is represented: king is to queen as man is to woman. Here my observation is that there is some way to mathematically represent the idea of royalty, as well as some idea of gender, although most likely in this situation a reactionary version of gender is represented. But here gender is probably stored across multiple dimensions, and the gender binary could be a projection of some underlying phenomenon.
I would like to end this comment discussing the part of the manifesto about gender identity under communism.
Many people fear that, through the abolition of gender, our own gender identities will be taken from us. That, in abolishing gender, we will force you to stop identifying with your gender, however much you might enjoy that identity.
That was me, before yesterday. Now I am fully in support of gender abolitionism.
The end of gender as a system of power is our goal, and the end to gender identities is an eventual result, if it will happen at all, not something of importance or which we should strive toward.
The only way I can describe gender now is like brainwashing. We do what we are told, and we must comply. And almost everyone complies because they're all cis. If institutions didn't enforce this rigid interpretation of gender, life would be so much better for all of us here.
Sorry if this makes no sense or if some of what I am posting is obvious. Feel free to correct anything I said if it is brainwormed.
I love my trans comrades
Another brain cracked wide open by the Gender Accelerationist Manifesto! Grats, although a multidimensional mathematical representation of gender means you probably got even more out of it than I did.
Your endsummary rules as well. This combined with the Beyond Pink and Blue bit where talks about gender markers on IDs and shit being a form of control and often violence really rewired my brain.
good post and up with gender accelerationist manifesto
i should do a second read soon, it truly revolutionised how i think about gender and other class systems
Uhhhhhhhhh I'm going thrifting with a couple of friends in 20 mins and one of those friends offered to help me with my hair and also I finally heard back from the place I was trying to get HRT at and they're calling me later this week to officially get me on the schedule.
It's a good day in gender town
My package got seized, fucking transphobic customs
Shit :(
I ordered new estrogen from a different seller, this time from within the EU. I ordered bica from them as well and that did arrive so this should as well
Hope you don't have to go without <3
It's Monday! What have you been listening to for the past week? I'm shoegazemaxxing
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Two Steps From Hell / Thomas Bergersen
MBV just announced their first Dublin gig in 30 years and im gonna try get tickets this week!!!!
Exciting!
The Cure's new album
Kendrick's new album
Spiritbox new singles
random late 00s/early 10s hipstery indie stuff lol
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starkids my goats finally dropped another album
I'm a bit all over the place this week. Been getting into The Church lately.
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I've been listening to a lot of MCR, especially their first album. Also been listening to Karnivool's Asymmetry, plus a couple of songs from their Sound Awake.
The Chart
Euphoria: New outfit items acquired: tights and colored socks.
Dysphoria
I have discovered that I have no butt, and that is sad.
Having no butt is fortunately the most solvable body issue, besides like changing your hairstyle. A fat butt isn't born, it's built
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Also let the record state that small butts are sexy
I should probably clarify, it's not flat or actually small, just not round so it doesn't really contribute to the shilouette. I can work on it tho
unsolicited gymrat advice
Hip thrusts with alternating heavy low rep sets and high rep low weight sets, like a 3/6 heavy, 3/20 light blend
Seated hip ab/adduction cable weight machine, same blend of heavy+low volume/light+high volume
Bulgarian split squats with opposite side loading with a kettlebell, lighter working weight with more sets and reps and slower concentric lift focusing on form and getting some hip activation
Alternating leg lunges with a farmer's carry with dumbbells or kettlebells (can substitute with leg press and leg curls/extensions on machines if your knees don't like those, same with the split squats)
Donkey kicks with an ankle cuff on a cable weight station, either on the floor on a mat or standing ones if you have access to a dedicated machine like this (my gym has one of these and it quite literally whips ass imho)
Cossack squats, lateral lunges or pistol/shrimp/dragon squats if you're fancy and really good at bodyweight stuff and have good balance and RoM
For your butt!
(I also have disappointing butt genetics but I'm working my ass, uh, on? It's frustratingly slow but I'm making some gains)
Anti-recommendation for shoes sold by Aphixta on aliexpress. They're very poorly made all over but most importantly the heels are wobbly and seem likely to break easily.
So I was a little worried that I wouldn't actually be happy after moving and that it was all just my own brainworms that I'd never be able to get rid of...
I was wrong. I'm actually feeling genuinely happier about life and at least somewhat hopeful about the future. I like the new job, new location is better than I imagined, and I'm making plans to start socializing IRL for the first time in ages. Everything seems to be going well and it kind of scares me a little, but I can't go through life just being worried all the time I suppose.
Also makes me happy that people are posting cute stuff in /c/cute :D I honestly wasn't sure people would be into it but at least some are. I need to keep finding new cute stuff to post to keep the cute train moving forward though.
I stood up for myself and my gender for the first time today. A friend kept degendering me and I asked him not to.
Kind of a small thing but I feel proud of myself since I've always had a poor self esteem
Continue to fight. Don't let those close to you get away with such nonsense.
Congrats!!
We need an emoji of the Soviets hoisting the red flag over Berlin but it's a trans pride flag
Is it Gender of me to shit out my asshole like I've swallowed a nuclear bomb because that's what I be doing
can relate, thank god for my bidet