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...sometimes it does feel like this.

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[–] Grandwolf319@sh.itjust.works 137 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Hey, we left cause of the enshitification of Reddit itself, toxicity of the users was always part of the package deal.

[–] ptz@dubvee.org 106 points 1 week ago (9 children)

As a Reddit refugee myself,I can't disagree with that. But I will clarify that there's generally two kinds of Reddit Refugees, though:

  • The kind that got fed up with Reddit and wants to be part of something better
  • The people who were banned from Reddit and think this is some kind of safe haven to continue acting on their worst impulses that got them banned elsewhere.

The meme is largely referencing the latter.

[–] andrew_bidlaw@sh.itjust.works 25 points 1 week ago (2 children)

to continue acting on their worst impulses

I feel seen.

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[–] S_H_K@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I hope I'm in the first category. This place has less people but better engagement.

You should know what category you fall into... It's not like getting banned and going somewhere else is an event chain you wouldn't know about.

[–] abfarid@startrek.website 13 points 1 week ago (4 children)

I came because Reddit's a shitty company and due to the ban of 3rd party apps. Which group am I?

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[–] renzev@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Yes exactly. When reddit pulled that api pricing shit, I just got up and left. I came here expecting shitposts, braindead "hot" takes, piss-poor reading comprehension, and americans acting like they're the only country in the world. I got exactly what I expected and I couldn't be more satisfied, 10/10 would nuke my reddit account again.

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[–] KingJalopy@lemm.ee 70 points 1 week ago (10 children)

You'll find that anywhere. Not just on the Internet, either. Literally, everywhere.

[–] PunnyName@lemmy.world 26 points 1 week ago

High school never ends.

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[–] TheFonz@lemmy.world 57 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Yea no. Try having a nuanced discussion on any (insert heated topic here) on Lemmy and watch the labels fly out faster than the ejaculate of a post pubescent 15 year old.

[–] IMNOTCRAZYINSTITUTION@lemmy.world 52 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (4 children)

most of the toxicity I've experienced on lemmy has been from established users so idk.. but I should add that it's way less toxic than reddit so far

[–] RatzChatsubo@lemm.ee 28 points 1 week ago (4 children)

It's gotten pretty bad on the politics front lately. It's like an entirely different community now compared to last year

[–] IMNOTCRAZYINSTITUTION@lemmy.world 14 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I hope it dies down after the election but I'm not getting hopes up

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[–] OpenStars@piefed.social 12 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Overall it's less toxic than Reddit, as evidenced by how many people were lurkers there but here actually feel comfortable enough to open up and contribute.

I note that you are on Lemmy.World, which blocks some of the most well-known trolling instances. That indeeds helps a ton, though means that the experiences of someone who joined e.g. lemm.ee instead are going to be quite different.

[–] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Blocking is key. Once I started blocking some communities, my Lemmy experience got a lot better.

[–] devfuuu@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago (2 children)

It's just less people. People will always be people wtv they are.

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[–] Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 45 points 1 week ago (2 children)

It’s worth noting that some users might be attracted to Lemmy due to its smaller, more niche communities and the sense of belonging that comes with being part of a smaller, specialized group. Others might be drawn to Lemmy’s technical aspects, such as its use of ActivityPub and its potential for customization and modification.

Some users might also be deterred from Lemmy, but please do not let this distract you from the fact that in 1998, The Undertaker threw Mankind off Hell In A Cell, and plummeted 16 ft through an announcer's table.

[–] Hobo@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I haven't seen this shit in years. I used to browse reddit and that shit would always crack me up. This one time I was browsing at like 3AM and everyone was asleep. I laughed so hard I woke my little brother up. My dad came out of his room super pissed off. He just glared at me and walked straight out to the garage. When he came back he beat living shit out of me with a set jumper cables. Anyway, I stopped browsing reddit late at night after that.

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[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 45 points 1 week ago (5 children)

It took me a couple months to fully leave years of bad reddit habits behind. I didn’t realize how deeply ingrained they’d become. The toxicity had gradually snuck up on me.

[–] Albbi@lemmy.ca 14 points 1 week ago (3 children)

this

Shit! Still happening to me.

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[–] sinokon@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 1 week ago (3 children)

To preface this I’m a lurker myself. I wonder what bad habits it left behind in you? After the whole API and 3rd Party Apps fiasco I just left it behind. But I wouldn’t say that I took the toxicity over from it to Lemmy. Especially wondering what exactly is ingrained in your soul that’s left behind from it. As far I know I’m still the same but as I’ve told just mostly lurking so don’t think it had much as an influence on me except the doom scrolling.

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[–] ptz@dubvee.org 9 points 1 week ago

Happens to the best of us.

[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 8 points 1 week ago (3 children)

We should come up with a detox program

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[–] dylanmorgan@slrpnk.net 43 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Hopefully the absence of an algorithm pushing engagement at all costs will dispel some of it.

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[–] Allero@lemmy.today 38 points 1 week ago (3 children)

We often talk about toxic newbies, but sometimes we don't pay enough attention to how we ourselves changed as a result. Make them feel welcome, and see how much Lemmy changes back.

If you (yes, you, reader) are new to Lemmy, have my wholehearted "Welcome"! Hugs on demand, cookies right there, make yourself comfy :)

Avoid politics-oriented communities unless toxicity is your thing. Start with any instance (most likely you chose lemmy.world as your starting point?), but explore others and what they have to offer. You can even be on several of them if that's your thing! Enjoy!

[–] ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I was here 2y before the exodus, it's absolutely not just the newbies. Maybe some other -ies...

I for one welcome the shit out of the newbies, I'm thankful to have them and want more, and for them to bring their niche interests with them. They help filter some of the toxicity out.

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[–] N0body@lemmy.dbzer0.com 34 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

I think any real user from Reddit that isn’t a bot is an asset these days. I hate Reddit as much as the next person, but giving people shit for coming from there to here feels hypocritical.

I think both can be true tbh. I welcome everyone from reddit and encourage us to grow. I also will say leave toxicity at the door, or sub to other instances/communities that enjoy it.

[–] tomalley8342@lemmy.world 30 points 1 week ago (2 children)

A lot of users here are not Reddit refugees, they are Reddit rejects.

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[–] NegativeLookBehind@lemmy.world 26 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Bro I’m not toxic fuck you

Fight me

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[–] fsxylo@sh.itjust.works 21 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Block instance and block community buttons are your friends.

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[–] Phoenicianpirate@lemm.ee 18 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I ended up getting permabanned from reddit for saying that Lebanese people don't blame all their problems on Israel, just the the problems they do deserve blame for.

[–] Dasus@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago

I got banned a few years ago for criticising Israel's genocidal rhetoric.

[–] OpenStars@piefed.social 17 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (15 children)

Are we growing though?

https://lemmy.fediverse.observer/stats shows MAU (monthly active users) decreasing - we are now at 43k, last month was 45k, the month before 47k, etc. Total servers also decreasing - now 540, was 552, 579, etc. Overall posts and comments are slightly up though - so we're seeing increased activity from fewer users, rather than an increase in actual users. One could argue whether we're truly "decreasing" vs. merely flat, but either way I don't see us increasing.

And 3 of those users are myself, all active and only 2 of which I had a week ago, speaking to how alts are most definitely a thing. Also, federation issues especially staying in sync with Lemmy.World may be causing people to shift instances (or to leave entirely?). If so that would be a good thing bc 0.19.6 promises to help address that. (Although in my case, I wanted an instance that allows custom blocks of any instance I choose without needing to rely on an admin team, and that isn't dependent upon the Lemmy codebase.)

For one thing, people might be turning away due to the upcoming USA election, in which case depending on who survives that, they could return? But every person I've ever recommended to check out Lemmy has looked at me in disgust and actively chided me for having recommended it when they see some of the political extremism here. e.g.:

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Whenever I go looking for examples of such I usually find it in 0-60 seconds, by going to Lemmy.ml and browsing by Local.

Your instance is doing wonderful work keeping such out - I wonder if that image will even render for you:-). But overall, across the wide Fediverse, people are not willing to put up with such, and seem to be leaving us overall rather than find some other way to deal with whatever it is that was bugging them.

And with such trends, and the way we treat normies, I don't see us ever going mainstream. Maybe PieFed and Sublinks, along with Mbin and ofc Tesseract on e.g. dubvee.org will help turn that around? That would be so nice?:-)

Btw what will we call ourselves then, if it does - will we still be "Lemmy"/Lemmings, or just general Fedizens? Either way there's great hope for the future, but also a lot of work to do to reach that point.

[–] ptz@dubvee.org 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I wasn't really looking at the MAU stats when I made this; it just felt like it's been more actively lately (both good and bad). Unfortunate the numbers are actually trending downward.

For one thing, people might be turning away due to the upcoming USA election

Possibly. I've gone into self-imposed ~~social~~ media blackouts during election season many a time. Sometimes you just need a break.

Whenever I go looking for examples of such I usually find it in 0-60 seconds, by going to Lemmy.ml and browsing by Local ... people are not willing to put up with such, and seem to be leaving us

Yeah. I have felt for a while that ml being the official or at least de facto flagship instance is doing more harm than good. I'm not going to tell them how to run their instance, but I am sad and frustrated that it seems to turn so many people away under the impression the whole fediverse is like that.

I'm cool with Fedizens 😀.

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[–] brucethemoose@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago

It's easy to forget how bad it can get.

One day I wandered into /r/kotakuinaction over some linked comment on the Tomb Raider animation, and the Fallout TV series, and... yeah. I remembered.

And that's a pretty mild example.

[–] blackn1ght 13 points 1 week ago (1 children)

People will be toxic no matter what. I don't think making prospective new users feel unwelcome is a good idea when we'd like to see some growth.

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[–] Yerbouti@sh.itjust.works 13 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Head over.to Hexbear and say you like south park or something. You're welcome.

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 12 points 1 week ago

I may be crazy, but even I'm not that stupid.

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[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago

Uh yeah welcome, could you leave that baggage outside tho? kthx

[–] 8000gnat@reddthat.com 11 points 1 week ago

tfw somewhere between the sacred silence and sleep

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