Complimented a person at the coming out week march on having cool pins of bands and 80s gay rights symbolism but after that I saw they had a fucking ๐บ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐น๐ผpinset that I didnโt notice lmfao I hate this fucking place
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god damn... that girl in the mirror is getting some curves
t4t venting
disclaimer : none of what i'm about to say here is directed at anybody on this site. just processing some past stuff that's related if anything lol. furthermore, my intention is not to dictate what is & isn't a valid way of being trans, but to relate to you a very certain kind of individual yearning.
so it kinda hit me that the lack of leftists around me eventually got me stuck on this track of, like, expecting potential t4t contacts to at least not make me feel like an alien. boy was i ever a fool like, ok, how can i possibly expect the cissies in my life to understand where i'm coming from, when even the trans individuals i meet are clueless libs as a rule
like, i identify as a transfem enby, basically, which seems to be way too complicated for most folks, trans or not. & ofc on a rational level i understand that people are gonna people. even those who mean well tend to have an extremely limited idea of gender. still, i'd be lying if i said it wasn't outright painful to keep running into siblings who were content to be reinforcing the very things that are designed to hold us down.
i'm trans, first & foremost. all that i am beyond this is more or less directly due to the trauma of having to grow up in, navigate & survive a patriarchal society. i can not & will not forget what created me. i suppose it must have made sense to me that, finally connecting with "my own kind," it would be a common sentiment.
Just got my first set of makeup. Eyeliner, Lipstick, and Concealer. I got too light of a concealer, which is a great start, but I think with the proper foundation I can make it work. Eyeliner tho
t4t = team 4tress two
On one hand, wearing a tank top makes me feel more femme. On the other hand, it reveals arm hair. On the third hand, women have body hair. On the fourth hand, my arm hair is too dark even after it's been shaved recently.
CW: Reddit-tier bit.
On the fifth hand, where are all these hands coming from!
well, my parents now know that iโm planning to try to get mobility aids (an electric wheelchair if possible). i think theyโre adjusting to this new normal of me not being healthy anymore, even though this isnโt new to me. idk maybe itโs just because we arenโt in the same house rn but they actually seem to be taking my health issues seriously this time.
I work in a queer culturally-specific organization and it makes shit so much worse when we do harm. I'm having a bit of a crisis about it all.
cw sexual harassment, familial abuse, racism
I reported a client for repeated sexual harassment, and rather than ending services, my coworkers convinced his homeless sister to sign a lease where she pays his rent while continuing to live homeless herself. We had known about and documented several instances of abusive behavior before this, but they still went through with it.
Then we had a staff meeting where my boss said we could "speak freely and without consequences" and a coworker reference "whistling at white women" when I said I didn't appreciate being called "babygirl" and having my body commented on during every case meeting. Apparently I just can't take a compliment.
There's a lot that happens here that's like "lmao I'm sure glad right wing media doesn't know what's going on in here", but this actually shook me, and the accusations had me self-critting all weekend about my response to being sexually harassed.
SA
I keep having dreams where people overpower and grope me, but half the time I canโt tell if my brain intends it to be a horny dream or a nightmare
I'M FREE!!! I'M NEVER DOING A SHIFT WITH THIS GUY AGAIN!!!
He's not even bad, a few of my co-workers were talking shit (although idk what rumors were true or not) but HE DOESN'T STOP SMOKING. My poor asthmatic lungs still feel it, was coughing up a storm ๐
Being out to even a few friends feels really good.
Highly recommend. Way better than the closet.
Today is my birthday!
Instead of seeing what today does to me, I'm kinda deciding that it's a good day because it's my birthday and going forward
I have classes all day and idk if anyone knows that it's my birthday but whatever
my wife got a callout to go get a corpse at 1am, so I have made some fried rice for when she gets back. shout out to 1am fried rice, it's good shit
Are undercuts considered generic now? Are they associated with capitalist sholk like Marvel characters now? Oh no, do I need to change my haircut?!
i can't sit upright for more than a few minutes without feeling like i'm dying
Spiro has ruined my ability to sleep through the night. I have to pee every two to three hours, no exceptions.
I've basically accepted that I'm now biphasic and need a siesta to get through the day. ๐
More names from wife, hot off the press
Stalinist Starlet ๐
Trotskyist Tigress ๐คฎ
Hot take, its okay to have secrets, or to not tell people things, or not interact with people you don't want to. Obviously I'm not advocating for with-holding information that harms people.
Everything else aside I cant stop thinking about this current wave of discourse about how people are entitled to know everything about you just cause youre dating, and (*comparing it) to the you have to reveal your trans status thing
sorry I'm venting, obviously I'm not even mentioning the misogyny, which ew
chronic illness, doctors
went to urgent care today about my current fatigue crash and damn, i wish the nurse practitioner who saw me could be my gp. she validated my chronic fatigue symptoms, she actually suggested it may be me/cfs (!!!), and she told me that the previous gps i saw who wrote off my chronic illness as just depression were wrong and that i should keep advocating for myself. she actually said that i should find a new pcp because my old pcp was not taking my issues seriously. i have never felt so validated from a medical professional before. i honestly want to cry just thinking about it.
Just got rejected from a job because of my height ๐ฅฒ
dysphoria
God, I hate being tall Even before my egg cracked I hated it, and now I hate it even more. My life would be so much better if I wasn't tall.
thoughts on a c/disabled comm?
for the record i would not be able to mod it because of lack of energy. but i find bearsite to be somewhat lacking in conversations about disability.
There I was, watching a trashy reality TV show when I spotted men with thick, hairy, juicy thighs and suddenly experiencing the desire nay urge to fuck them. Thighs were always a more femme thing for my bi brain, and now they've made the leap to universal hotness signifiers like big ol butts.
My god, what has happened to me
I look into the mirror and I now see a cross between a twink and a butch lesbian so that's exciting
You know, sometimes I just think about how many wild turns life can take you. When I was a kid, I honest to god had no idea where life was going to take me. All of it seemed so mysterious and unimaginable what it would even be like
Today I looked down at my copy of Settlers. Inside of it is a little business card reminding me of my next Planned Parenthood appointment, and I'm off to go get my eyebrows done this afternoon. "A copy of Settlers with an HRT appointment reminder card". God, this really is just how life turns out, huh? My eight year old ass never would have guessed in the slightest
I keep seeing cute men and thinking they'd look better as women or envies. The thoughts will not stop. I fear this will cause me problems
I actually have a surprisingly large amount of friends. Of course, if I stopped planning all our outings and waited for them to make plans with me...
I'm sorry for being so naive but I was charmed by Tim Walz initially. And his work as governor seemed promising.
So I know that I deserve to be disappointed but it was actually disorienting to see someone who reminds me of my best friends Dad war mongering in regards to Iran .
We just can't have anything nice, can we.
drugs
tried adderall for the first time, definitely feeling better now :3
now us euros are getting in on all the hurricane fun
(i am actually worried)
The lady at the Visa office said I look no older than 21 when she saw my age.
idk how much of that was just flattery.
i think im out of hormones. delivery keeps getting fucked up. this is about to become a problem.
Cursed with my voice ๐
What are some signs one might be trans? I have noticed a few things that I think might be suspect, but I still think I'm cis.
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I had a dream last night where I was in this video-game like dungeon and it told me "the dungeon reveals all". I explicitly remember seeing my reflection as a woman and liking it.
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I'm really nervous about aging as a guy, I can't help but worry about going bald or all that stuff, but that doesn't necessarily mean I have dysphoria.
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I never really found myself relating to boys, most of my friend group is an even split in high school, but as an adult I am totally isolated.
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There's been some women I've seen and thought that I wish I looked like them, although the same can be said for men too.
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I've stopped myself a few times and have thought to myself "am I trans?"
There are some things that prove my cis-ness too, but I wonder if any of these signs might mean something.
EDIT: Wow, thanks so much everyone! Iโll be sure to give this all a read!
I'm so sick of having no motivation not gonna lie
Really quite annoyed at myself and how many decisions I made to make other people comfortable in the last few years
I got cute new girl clothes today and I'm really happy about that. Including a super soft pink jacket. I'm gonna look so cute for therapy today