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Currently laying in the hospital, like 18 hours post surgery. I didn't ever think I'd get here and there has been so much hardship but I'm here and so far recovery is going well. Obviously there is still a long way to go and there could be complications down the line but I'm happy and well right now

I've been able to have a full meal already and in a few hours they're going to see if I'm able to shuffle around. The nurses have all been so kind to me. When I went into the OR before I was under, they let me name the giant robot arm machine. Everyone here has been good I feel very cared for

Because all the meds and bandages my brain hasn't made the connection yet though which is exceptionally weird. I'm having phantom limb basically. I've read about that happening can't say it prepared me for how it actually feels in person though

Update 1: I was able to walk two times, the third attempt I almost passed out after standing up though. I've had some good hours of sleep but suddenly got very locked in feeling and anxious, my body is sore from laying down and not being mobile enough to get comfortable spiked my anxiety. They're going to give me a relaxant soon. Tomorrow we're going to try and get a good breakfast, a warm drink, some anti nausea, and see if I can walk around outside my room some. I think I'll be able to but it's going to be rough. Drinking lots of water because I'm off the drip now and need a ton of fluids still

Update 2: I walked like 15 feet and back! My entire day has been the singular goal of making sure I had as much going for me as I could to make that walk. Breathing exercises, nausea control, carefully timing different meds, staying well hydrated. It took everything I had but I did it and I'm feeling pretty good. Almost completely unassisted too only needed help moving after I got back to the bed and couldn't lift my legs back up. going to try and do it all again today and be ready for discharge tomorrow noon-ish.

Update 3: No discharge today. Last night was spent mostly screaming in pain :/ Doctor came in to look and said it's a stitch on the bolster being pulled taught from swelling. I got new outer padding on to help, some pain med refreshers, and told because I showed how well I could walk yesterday that I should focus on taking it easy today and getting swelling down. No stitches or anything popped while I was flopping around in pain so really about as best as it could have been. I'm so proud of how well I walked yesterday and come tomorrow I'm going to be seriously itching to wander around again instead of being bedlocked

Update 4: First attempt at walking today almost ended in me shitting myself and passing out. If I can't get walking around today then they're going to end up keeping me at the hospital another day. I'm really tired of the hospital bed and morale is a bit difficult to maintain right now but I've got to keep going forward. I know I can walk I've already been up and about several times it's just if I can walk well on release day

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[–] Neato@ttrpg.network 29 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Wow congrats! I hope your recovery goes smoothly.

What'd you name the robot?

[–] ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml 30 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Ada, which caused one of the doctors to laugh a bit and tell me "we have someone named Ada they're not in today though". I hope they get to hear about the bot's name of the day when they're in next

[–] TexasDrunk@lemmy.world 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Also fitting because of Ada Lovelace. That's so cool.

[–] ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml 4 points 5 months ago

Yeah that's why I chose that name! ❤️ The robot was so cool looking I was so happy I was able to see it before going under

[–] stom@lemmy.dbzer0.com 16 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

Modern medicine is fucking awesome. I hope you enjoy your new bits!

[–] ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml 7 points 5 months ago

I have so many plans for these bits, they're going places

[–] Tywele@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Congratulations. I wish you a good recovery! Can't wait until I'm at the same point.

[–] ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml 8 points 5 months ago

Thank you ❤️ Sending my well wishes your way too you've got this. I know how difficult the wait can be 🫂

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Congratulations!! 😄 I had the phantom limb sensation on and off for a while, but for me it went away eventually. Best of luck on your recovery, take things one day at a time 💖

[–] ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml 6 points 5 months ago

It's such a strange feeling x.x Like even after getting a glimpse now that the initial bandage is off my brain still isn't making the connection. The one day at a time thing is for real. I've walked twice now and stood up a third time but nearly passed out so had to lay back down. Everyone says I'm doing really well though so I'm happy with what I've done even if it doesn't seem like much

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Congrats!! Wishing you an uneventful recovery! ❤️

[–] ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Thank you ❤️ So far things are going well even with some ups and downs. My mom is here with me and she's helped tremendously for the down parts

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

aww, that's wonderful to hear! You're lucky to have a supportive mom - so glad she's there to help you!!

[–] ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml 2 points 5 months ago

Yeah she's been there day one and I love her so much. Words can't describe how thankful I am she's there for me

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 5 months ago (1 children)
[–] ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml 5 points 5 months ago

Thank you ❤️ :3

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Congrats! Hope you have a smooth and relatively pain-free recovery!

[–] ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Thank you ❤️
Doctor said surgery went one of the smoothest he's had and that I have "good tissue" that should heal well. So far pain has been quite manageable but I'm also on a decent bit of drugs so we'll find out more later

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

That's awesome! Always good to hear that from a doctor. Only real surgery I've had was for toenail removal (SEVERELY ingrown), the pain before was bad enough I barely registered the pain after the anesthetic wore off. Kinda doubt that experience is comparable for something like that, though there's probably some mental relief that you've made it through, and some satisfaction/pride in yourself 😅

[–] ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml 2 points 5 months ago

The mental relief has only kicked in a little so far because I'm all like wrapped and pain and whatnot it's hard to tell what's going on down there, but still definitely some! Between finding a surgeon, waiting lists, never ending road bumps, I'm over three years into actively working to make this a reality. I'm very proud I've gotten here it's been a lot and I'm so excited at the weight that's going to be off my hips going forward in so many aspects of life

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 5 months ago

Congrats :333

[–] fadingembers@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 5 months ago (1 children)
[–] ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml 3 points 5 months ago

Thank you ❤️

[–] xilliah@beehaw.org 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)
[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Congrats, enjoy hell week. Recovery is rough, but the end result is awesome

[–] ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml 2 points 5 months ago

I did a walk about 15 feet there and back! I'm really proud of the progress I'm making. It doesn't seem like far but that walk took everything I had in me and was over twice as far as my last best distance

[–] FlembleFabber@sh.itjust.works 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Are you able to pee right away or does this give some complications. Good luck on your recovery!

[–] ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml 4 points 5 months ago

I've got a catheter in for the first week. It's odd I feel like I have to pee 100% of the time because of it and just need to relax through it. I'm positive after the catheter is out I'm just going to piss myself the first couple days until I retrain holding it in again