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[–] echodot 14 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (3 children)

Thinking that someone else having emotions is work is definitely a major one.

Also I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do, if I'm emotional I'm bad, if I'm cold and distant I'm bad, what she want?

[–] SuddenDownpour@sh.itjust.works 15 points 10 months ago

She wants you to be emotionally available for her, but not to be emotionally available for you. Avoid these people, men or women, for anything you're not absolutely forced to.

[–] pearsaltchocolatebar@discuss.online 4 points 10 months ago

I think she's talking about people who need to be constantly emotionally validated, which can absolutely be emotionally draining, especially if you're working through shit yourself.

Like, if your partner has BDD and you have to have a ~~conversation~~ argument with them multiple times a day defending them from their own self loathing, that's exhausting after a few years.

[–] JustZ@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago

I read this to refer to the way overly emotional guys that cannot handle failure or rejection.