this post was submitted on 07 Nov 2023
290 points (96.2% liked)

memes

10217 readers
2063 users here now

Community rules

1. Be civilNo trolling, bigotry or other insulting / annoying behaviour

2. No politicsThis is non-politics community. For political memes please go to !politicalmemes@lemmy.world

3. No recent repostsCheck for reposts when posting a meme, you can only repost after 1 month

4. No botsNo bots without the express approval of the mods or the admins

5. No Spam/AdsNo advertisements or spam. This is an instance rule and the only way to live.

Sister communities

founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
 
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[โ€“] VicentAdultman@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah. That and you cut so many important parts of meeting your partner. This is a easy shortcut for people with low social skills. Cutting important parts of meeting someone, and being already in the I like you let's X, usually ends poorly. You see some successful stories here and there, but there sre millions dating through apps.

Source: last two relationships from Tinder didn't go well after the honeymoon phase.

[โ€“] powerofm@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 year ago

I definitely agree, but you can use dating apps with the goal of just meeting new people. Reorient a "first date" into a more casual hangout to get to know this new friend and potential partner. I treated dating almost like interviewing and looked for incompatibilities or irreconcilable differences within the first few conversations. Not saying it's easy (and organic meetings are much better), but it can be done.

Source: went on several dates with people through Bumble and Hinge until I found my partner.