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The answer is no. People who go through trauma typically don't go around wearing revenge shirts. Policy shirts, maybe, but a "kill school shooters" shirt would be beyond weird.
Okay sorry for having trauma the wrong way
Drag, no one believes you go around with stuff about pedophiles written on your clothing. If you do... well that's another interesting little bit of information.
Drag doesn't, it's just... drag understands being full of hate because of your trauma. Drag has empathy for that. What drag doesn't have empathy for is this argument. Drag doesn't understand the emotions going on here.
When you say, "Sorry for having trauma the wrong way," when you do not even express your trauma in this performative way, you are weaponizing your trauma to win an argument against strangers on the Internet. Sexual trauma is pervasive. You are well advised to assume whomever you're speaking with has the same trauma.
Drag does express drag's trauma in this performative way. The transphobia trauma, not the child abuse trauma. Drag isn't a kid anymore, what's done is done. But drag is still trans and still feels the need to remind everyone that Nazis are bad. That's why drag empathises with someone who has the same response to the other trauma.
If you don't have a fight response, that's a you thing, not a universal fact of reactions to trauma. Drag knows what a fight response is like.