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Anyone have any advice on just kind of hating people in general less? I look at people, I know they’re huge on religious doctrines and societal models I have no place in, and I just can’t see any good in them worth considering. I try to go outside and connect with people, but everyone looks like a 4channer, or someone two slights away from becoming a 4channer. I can’t restrain the fear or loathing. It’s like the past twenty years have reduced my very capacity for compassion and my capacity to respect anyone period to molten slag.

Heteronormative society and all who uphold it fucking blow, but I’m expected to keep it in my pants re: how and when I take it out on them.

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[–] RiotDoll@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago

I'm learning to hate people more but in general the thing that earnestly held me back was just using empathy - even if i am objectively in the right I can still see how people get to a decision or behavior usually, and it always regulated me to remind myself i'm just another dipshit with stuff going on that someone is gonna see and absolutely fucking hate, and thereby hate me.

I just try to give the benefit of the doubt that I'd want. I don't have people's story. I don't know how they got to whatever they're doing, or why.

But also this never covered all use cases and sometimes it's just better to hate. I dunno man it feels like it degrades me to lean into it though, i kinda hate hate