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If it’s actually feasible to get the visa, I’d say try that, trans people need to stick together.
it's more like.. the issue is because of the nature of the visa she would be dependent on someone else (probably me) to get permanent residency by living together a year. also she's my ex. so there'd be a really fucked power dynamic. we could probably get a really big apartment with lots of rooms
it's not a fucked power dynamic unless you do something untoward with it. idk sometimes people have to put themselves at the mercy of others. all we can hope is those others are kind and not looking to take advantage. if that's you then i'd say go for it.
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Thank you for saying this... I obsess over "power dynamics" and "awkwardness" etc but I have this extreme desire to help the people that matter to me any way I can despite all that. It really should be simple, shouldn't it? Someone needs help, we have a little bit of means, so we help.shared concerns
i completely understand. i think it can be a strength actually! obsessing over those things means you can be aware of them and account for them, rather than letting them sneak up on you and potentially destabilize the situation. personally i find precious little in life is simple, but i can say that i have never regretted offering help, even when it ended badly (which has been thankfully rare). imo, if you have the desire you simply have to let it lead. "i wish i had helped when i had the chance" is the stuff regrets are made of.anyway, i hope everything works out for your friend, no matter how it shakes out.
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I need to frame this. Thank you so much for your kind words, I can't overstate how much they mean to me as someone who had kind of a complex about this...
happy i was able to help!