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K (189?–?) Soviet pioneer. From Kazan, Tartarstan, USSR, K was diagnosed as a ‘transvestite’ in 1937.

She was given permission by the People’s Court to wear female clothing, her identity papers were changed to her female name, and her name was removed from the military recruitment rolls.

She was featured in a 1957 gynaecology textbook.

M.G. Serdiukov. Sudebnaia ginekologiia I sudebnoi akusherstvo. Moscow: Meditsina 1957: 47-8.
Dan Healey. Homosexual Desire in Revolutionary Russia: The Regulation of Sexual and Gender Dissent. Chicago and London: The University of Chicago Press, 2001: fig 24.

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[–] naom3@hexbear.net 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

spoilershrug-outta-hecks I put off transitioning for 10+ years. Some of that was things beyond my control, some of it was me being too scared/depressed to do anything, and some of it was thinking that things were in the way when they really weren’t. I don’t know how much can be attributed to each of those or what the difference is, but I spent every one of those years where I wasn’t too dissociated to care blaming myself for not transitioning sooner and I still do it sometimes. I don’t really have an answer on how to deal with those feelings except to say that at a certain point you have to just pick up the pieces and keep moving. I’ll never get those years back, or the childhood I could have had if things were different, but I’m here now and I get to become myself at last

[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 2 points 1 week ago

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I spent every one of those years where I wasn’t too dissociated to care blaming myself for not transitioning sooner and I still do it sometimes. I don’t really have an answer on how to deal with those feelings except to say that at a certain point you have to just pick up the pieces and keep moving. I’ll never get those years back, or the childhood I could have had if things were different, but I’m here now and I get to become myself at last

Yeah, I'm trying to do my best on the "just pick up the pieces and keep moving" part. I guess a part that's really helped me recently is really getting a feeling for how incompetent a lot of people that "have their shit together" are, they're sometimes even more clueless than I am navigating life.

Feeling like "successful" people that I've negatively compared myself against before are also dipshits has made me a lot less worried about being perceived as a weirdo? Like I already didn't really give a shit about what transphobes thought of me outside of my physical safety, but just doing more shit for myself and getting out more has made me feel a lot better about just going for shit and worrying less about fucking it up or looking like a dipshit, and that kinda extends to gender expression and transition for me.