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Yeah I know dating apps bad etc

I paid 17 dollars for the week pass allowing me unlimited likes 💀 of course because I’m desperate and they force you into that choice because using it for free you only get 5 free likes a day lmao. The problem is NOBODY fucking responds back to my messages, I’ve had 2 conversations out of 20 matches, one of the convos died after I asked them out, the other convo just ended abruptly for no apparent reason. It’s really demoralizing to say the least but I just don’t understand, if they don’t like me and accidentally sent a like they should just unmatch right away but they don’t.

The future is grim. How does anyone meet anyone anymore?

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[–] Detectorist@lemmygrad.ml 7 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

Conversations with total strangers on an app is liberalism. Ask them out in the first like/message.

"Hey, (person name) I really dig your profile, would you like to take a walk in the park or grab a cup of tea sometime?"

It's that easy. No conversations, ever. Like another comrade said, masc presenting/dudes never ask women out. So you will be a refreshing change of pace. You can't tell if you like someone via text anyway. You'll find out within 15 minutes in person. (In my opinion)

Ask out everyone you're interested in at a slow pace. Line up three dates for the weekend. Expect two to cancel.

Don't ask for a date "sometime", give it a time frame like "this week". Short conversations are perfectly fine and lead to more than 1/3rd of your dates showing up.