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I saw that other post about worst dates and honestly can't relate since I've never dated anyone, I just wanted to know if I was the only one here. That's it, you don't have to go deeper if you don't want to

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[–] Thatuserguy@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It's definitely not a natural feeling, and I totally get what you mean about it feeling like a job. I still struggle with it sometimes myself. I literally have to play mind games with myself to force myself to go out at times.

The unfortunate thing is, if you don't try at all, you're not going to get better. Like I said, it'll be rough at first. You'll feel super uncomfortable and want to run back to the safety of your solitude. But you have to push through it, or you'll end up stuck where you are.

Mental health access is not great, but if you have an option to speak with a therapist, that may be a good first step if you need a helpful push

[–] Platypus@lemmings.world 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yeah I'm not going to get better. Like you said, it is unfortunate.

[–] classic@fedia.io 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Whenever you write something like that, you are training it to be true

[–] Platypus@lemmings.world 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

But it is true. I'm not writing a prophecy. I've been like this for decades now

[–] erev@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

Have you made the effort and forced yourself to test your own assumptions?