this is a hard nut to Crack but worthy of conversation.
No, it really isn't. There's quite a simple solution that has been known for centuries.
Be an actual parent to your children.
You don't want your kid reading a book? Fine; don't let them. Don't force your bullshit on others.
To that end, the local community sets the standards and the folks who run the library should ensure the catalog reflects the community standards.
No thanks.
If we adhered to that standard, my local library would be nothing but Left Behind books, Christian romance novels, various bibles, and right wing political books.
No; it's not blame. It's expecting parents to be parents. If you're not responsible enough to monitor what your kids are reading/watching, then you're not responsible enough to be a parent.
It's not difficult to keep an eye on what your child is reading. You're running them back and forth to the library already; take 5 fucking seconds and look at what they're choosing.
But heaven forbid a parent actually be a parent and show any interest in their childs lives.