I guess I'm a trans tomboy? I'm new to all this so I don't have the lingo down yet. I have two ex-wives and I think I want an ex-husband too. But it'll have to wait. I recently realized I need someone who sees me as a woman and that's likely not happening anytime soon. Right now it feels like I want to wait until after bottom surgery. It'll be a long wait, but I've decided not to let old hang ups and preconceived notions dictate my life any longer so it might change if I meet the right person. I'm not sweating it, though.
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Sometimes I feel like I know... then I realize I'm not completely sure. 🤷 Somewhere between she and they, I think.
I reach for agender/neutrois. I interpret it under the non-binary umbrella and use that too. Though I also still consider myself 'transfem', or at least 'transfem-ish'.
Binary trans woman.
I kinda wish I knew and I kinda don't. It seems like it changes every couple days or weeks.
How do I know?
If you had asked me a year ago what my gender identity was, my answer would have been rather different than if you asked me now. I tend to be skeptical that I have the appropriate epistemic vantage point to have a certain answer to such a question. I'm not even sure there is such a thing as a persistent, innate, or essential gender identity.
Philosophical problems aside, assuming this is a census or something, I would be considered a trans woman.