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I've been feeling down lately and I started re-watching futurama for some good nostalgia, but it keeps making transphobic jokes which is kind of just making me feel worse. Anyone have any suggestions for comfort shows to watch?

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[–] 768@sh.itjust.works 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

The Owl House

Adventure Time

Tuca & Bertie

Over The Garden Wall

[–] Cybrpwca@beehaw.org 2 points 11 months ago (3 children)

They're not fiction, but two that work for me are Great British Bake-Off and Taskmaster. The people on GBBO are so positive and helpful, it's a welcome change from American cooking competitions. Taskmaster is creative and silly, always good for a laugh.

Second the recommendation of Ted Lasso. Ted is a wonderful example of a person who doesn't understand something, knows he doesn't understand, but his heart is in the right place and he wants to learn.

[–] FakeGreekGirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 11 months ago

Bake Off is pretty much pure comfort. It's just perfect in every way.

The American version isn't bad either. It avoids the worst of reality show tropes, and it still has Paul Hollywood, so not bad at all.

[–] Poop@lemmy.ca 1 points 11 months ago

Great Canadian Baking Show is similarly positive. Everyone is so nice it hurts! They often help each other finish challenges and it's a competition show :)

[–] Whimsy@lemm.ee 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Series 15 of Taskmaster featured Mae Martin, a nonbinary comedian

[–] TheFriendlyArtificer@beehaw.org 1 points 11 months ago

They were fantastic as well!

The series with Mike Wozniak should be avoided unless you're okay with passing out laughing.

The New Zealand version has a different dynamic, but I enjoy it as least as much as the OG.

[–] BluJay320@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Bluey!

It’s cute, it’s short, and it’s great for de-stressing! I put it on almost any time I’m feeling anxious or depressed

It’s written so wonderfully, and can be fully enjoyed by adults just as well as kids

[–] Arkhive@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Came here to say Bluey!! My partner and I (both grown ass adults) watch it together and cry tears of joy as we let it re-parent us!! Such a wonderful show!

[–] Chip_Rat@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago

To tack on "kids shows that are just fine thank you very much" I really enjoy "Tinga Tinga Tales" The animation is crazy, music beautiful, the stories interesting (folk tales) and the characters fun. Great way to wind down for 20 minutes, finding out Why Frog Croaks.

[–] HuntressHimbo@lemm.ee 2 points 11 months ago

My partner and I have been really enjoying Spy X Family. Its a nice little found family/comedy series with very wholesome content.

The premise is that the titular Spy has an assignment to make contact with a total shut-in who only appears in public for events at his son's school. So the Spy adopts a child from a shady orphanage and meets a woman who is willing to fake being his wife to get his child into the elite school. Of course, the child he adopted can read minds and the woman he fake married is secretly an assassin. No one but the child knows the truth about everyone and they're each so focused on hiding their own secrets they don't catch on to the others. The series isn't complete yet, but so far the major theme is them coming to genuinely value their little family as more than a convenient facade.

Its just such a cute show, and I go back and forth between cackling and tearing up at how cute they all are. The only thing I think is particularly off about the show is the assassins brother. He's a secret police officer and also incestuously obsessed with his sister. Its a weird inclusion, but he is made fun of by the narrative for his behavior and that is enough for me to still enjoy how good the rest of the show is

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 1 points 6 months ago

King of the Hill. Actually has a couple of drag queens and trans storylines and they're treated respectfully

[–] Rozauhtuno@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 11 months ago
  • Pretty Cure
  • Hakumei and Mikochi
  • Non Non Biyori
  • K-On!
  • Owl House
  • Star Trek TNG
  • Aikatsu!
  • Little Witch Academia
  • According to Jim (it's been a while, but I'm pretty sure there's no homophobic joke in it)
[–] germanatlas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 11 months ago

It’s always a good choice to watch Avatar

[–] cheeseandkrakens@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago

Bee and Puppycat is my comfort show

[–] FakeGreekGirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 11 months ago (1 children)

My partner and I were going to rewatch Futurama soon, since we wanted to watch the old ones before getting into the reboot. I'm not going to enjoy that as much as I thought I would, am I?

As for recommendations, I don't know if I would call it a comfort show since it can get really disturbing at times, but Doom Patrol is a great show, lots of fun and super queer.

[–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 0 points 11 months ago (1 children)

There are a few episodes where being trans is almost the entire premise.

There are two different "Gender Bender" episodes where Bender is either cross dressing to act as a heel in pro wrestling, or surgically altered to become a fembot and compete in sports.

There is another episode where an alien removes the gender differences for the crew, and then changes the gender of the crew. They shoot a saucy pin-up calendar.

And then there's the Dungeons and Dragons episodes where Hermes is a hermaphrodite centaur.

Oh, and the mind swapping episode where everybody changes brains, but that's more Freaky Friday than gender swapping.

[–] Moneo@lemmy.world 0 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Pardon me if it's rude to ask but do you mind explaining why those episodes are transphobic? Specifically the Bender gender swaps, I don't remember the other examples you mentioned.

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

The wrestling one is just somewhat off kilter? It's not outright transphobic, more just kinda silly. It doesn't reference gender as an identity as much. More so gender as performance I'd say. It's a comparatively brief portion of the episode compared with the Olympics based one. The rest of the episode is pretty great tho and is all about a misogynistic asshole getting his comeuppance from a downtrodden woman who's always been told that fighting is for boy's. It's actually a great episode.

The Olympics one is self evidently transphobic. The premise is he's not actually a woman, he's doing it to beat fembots at the olympics. In the episode he undergoes hormone therapy and sex reassignment surgery... well the robot versions of those things. He is portrayed as having done this purely to win at sports. There has long been an established hate conspiracy narrative about trans women transitioning to beat women at sports. It was around back then, and this episode plays into the narrative quite a lot.

Futurama is my favorite animated show of all time. I love it with all my heart and for literally about a decade I skipped the gender bender Olympics episode every single time it came up. But I've come to appreciate some aspects of its very transphobic very misogynistic narratives. It's not something I'd sit and watch for fun, but as time as passed some small moments have stood out to me as being kinda interesting deconstructions of what gender is and the complexities of personal identity. Like when bender struggles with the idea of "detransitioning", even if it's for the wrong reasons and doesn't accurately portray any kind of transfeminine struggle in a genuine light. You can tell they sorta had half an idea what gender identity was and the ways in which trans people struggle with it. But the motives are never gender in and of itself, it's never about who bender is but always what he gets from gender performances.

Make no mistake though. It's among the worst. Not because it's the most hateful vile episode of any animated show ever, but because it's Futurama. I hold that show to a very high standard, as do a lot of people. They punched down on trans and gender diverse people there. They had no reason to do that. They played into a frankly insane amount of misogyny to make it all fit together too, in a way they hadn't done as much with other episodes. Look at Kif, look at all his episodes and the many ways his character deconstructs gender and sex in positive ways that show tolerant and informed viewpoints. It's not like they didn't know how to handle gender complex characters.

But with that one episode they just really gave a big fuck you to gender diversity, to gender diverse people, to trans women, and broadly to gender and sexual minorities as a whole. The whole thing is profoundly disappointing to me to this day. It's not enough to ruin the show for me, I love the show way too much for that. But it's embarrassingly bad and dishearteningly bigoted from a show that I expect so much more from.