Yea, but being soft on myself also doesn't work, and I just lose my patience with myself real quick because it's annoying that I never get anything done.

[–] princess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 10 months ago (1 children)

if neither works then you might as well be kind to yourself, ne

[–] ErKaf@feddit.de 7 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I Can't... :(

[–] princess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 10 months ago (1 children)

it's hard work! I struggle with it myself, everyday

here's a secret, though: you're good, actually, even if you don't Do Thing. I will believe this for you, even if your brain won't

[–] ErKaf@feddit.de 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

thanks :(

[–] Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 10 months ago (2 children)

It's might sound kinda silly but one thing that helped me be kinder to myself was thinking about how I treat others

I'd never treat people I cared about how I was treating myself so trying to be as kind to myself as I was to others was the goal I set for myself

And overtime it became easier and easier to be kind to myself about my short comings

Yeah I may fail to do all the tasks I set out for myself today but I did accomplish somethings

It may even be little things some days and other days it's not a whole lot at all

But the kinder I was to myself the more I found myself able to do the things I set out to do

I still stumble some days but that's okay

[–] ErKaf@feddit.de 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Thanks for these words. This is a smart point of view.

[–] Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 9 months ago

I only wish I had learned it earlier in life

That would have helped me a lot over the years

So the next best thing is to help other people with it so that they don't have to suffer as long as I did

[–] Uiop@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 9 months ago

That reminds me of Rossmanns last video where he tells the story of how he discovered that he himself has also worth, especially compared to brokem apple computers.

[–] Pelicanen@sopuli.xyz 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I think the trick is to be kind to yourself but to try different methods to solve your issues until you find one that fits. For example, a lot of people are helped by just having a schedule beforehand, so that's generally one of the first things that get recommended.

[–] Arkaelus@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago

Been trying it for thirty years, maybe another thirty will do the trick! Persistence is key!

Someone please sedate me...

[–] vasco@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 9 months ago

SO much this! Thank you so much friend.

[–] PsychedSy@sh.itjust.works 2 points 10 months ago

I'm still alive so it's obviously not working.

[–] Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 10 months ago (1 children)

[–] ErKaf@feddit.de 16 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

I made this meme while screaming at myself: "WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU MAKING A MEME ABOUT THIS SHIT NOW INSTEAD OF JUST WORKING?!"

[–] Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Straight up I'm on my 2nd break post nap since noon (literally less than 2 hours ago)

I've got so much crap to do today and I'm all out of function already

[–] ErKaf@feddit.de 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

My day is already over. I should go to bed. But I still have shit to do. But I didn't even start. I kindly ask you to shoot me, please.

[–] Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 10 months ago

[–] imPastaSyndrome@lemm.ee 13 points 10 months ago

"Hey bud, I know you're having a hard time working right now, and that's a pretty good meme but maybe let's just set a stopwatch and do at least 15 minutes of work before going back to memes. Don't keep an eye on the stopwatch but you can check it if you really feel like you want to check memes. Okay good luck. "

Best I can do, for some positive self talk

[–] bananaghost@kbin.social 13 points 10 months ago (1 children)

lol, funny meme

[–] LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 6 points 9 months ago

YOU BARELY HAVE ANY TIME LEFT! WHY ARE YOU SITTING THERE! GET THE FUCK UP! DO IT! DO IT! DO IT! GO! GO! GO! DO IT NOW! EEEY! FUCK YOU STUPID IDIOT! DO THE TASKS! YOU BARELY HAVE ANY TIME LEFT! WHY ARE YOU SITTING THERE! GET THE FUCK UP! DO IT! DO IT! DO IT! GO! GO! GO! DO IT NOW! EEEY! FUCK YOU STUPID IDIOT! DO THE TASKS! YOU BARELY HAVE ANY TIME LEFT! WHY ARE YOU SITTING THERE! GET THE FUCK UP! DO IT! DO IT! DO IT! GO! GO! GO! DO IT NOW! EEEY! FUCK YOU STUPID IDIOT! DO THE TASKS!

[–] LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 11 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Hey let's all respond to this thread with whatever we're currently procrastinating.

I'll go first:

Pooping. Gym. Shower. Sleep.

[–] theonyltruemupf@feddit.de 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I'd like to get up and take a shower now so I can start my day. That has been the plan for the past hour.

[–] LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 5 points 9 months ago

sometimes I get randomly motivated and I cannot control when or how, but somehow your comment motivated me to stop procrastinating and I just sprang into action and the last 30 minutes were quite productive. I owe it all to you. Thank you.

[–] Kanga@lemmy.world 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

How can you guys procrastinate eating? If anything, when I'm bored, i eat, each and every single time. Honestly asking, how would it work for a person like me

[–] LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I don't understand how your comment was in response to my comment.

[–] vasco@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

It was just random too. By chance it was structured like a sentence.

edit: typo

[–] LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

You were just random?

[–] vasco@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 9 months ago

I meant it lol

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 8 points 10 months ago (1 children)

If I can still hear you badgering me to do shit then my techno isn't loud enough.

[–] ErKaf@feddit.de 2 points 10 months ago

True!

[–] SirSamuel@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I feel personally attacked

[–] vasco@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 9 months ago

why u hate me?

[+] pigup@lemmy.world 4 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (3 children)

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[–] vasco@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I feel bad because his condition literally prevented him from accomplishing basic job functions, but wtf else are we supposed to do? We are engineers not mental health specialists or day care workers, we are busy and have just enough pay and resources to do our own jobs, not sit around and babysit a grown man who can’t focus on easy things. We have our own lives and kids to worry about, and this guy won’t even take medication.

The real problem is the super structure that wasn't made to accept the divergent. If we really care about all people we should bring this down and propose a new drive for production instead of profit.

[–] princess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 9 months ago

mate this is not the place for this

[–] AVincentInSpace@pawb.social 1 points 9 months ago

fucking @ me next time