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this post was submitted on 04 Dec 2023
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No no, you don't understand, everything is an ADHD thing. Nobody has traits or idiosyncrasies, everything is merely a reflection of their unique psyche and not experienced by other people.
Hmm I think most people will relate to enjoying showers and not wanting to get out. The ADHD part is the functional impact. Like my showers tend to be 30 minutes long at least even when I’m trying to be quick, but at the same time I only shower max three times a week. I’m pretty sure that’s not part of the neurotypical experience but happy to be corrected.
I'm neurotypical, and that's an exact description of my shower habits. Quality over quantity.
This is not an ADHD thing, everyone is like this.
Does everyone put off showering until they absolutely have to / risk social standing over it? I shower once a week. Twice when I have an office job. Once every 10 days if I don't. Everybody has quirks. When those quirks negatively affect your life that's when it gets into neurodivergent territory
Some people like showering or the feeling of being clean.
But that is definitely not everyone.
Don't you know the stereotype of high schoolers using deodorant instead of taking a shower?
It isn't an ADHD thing.
It can be an ADHD thing, and also a regular thing 🤷🏼♀️ insomnia is a symptom of depression, but not everyone who has trouble sleeping is depressed.
I love the feeling of being clean and fresh the day of/ after a shower. I assumed everyone does. That doesn't really help me get into the shower.
Not me.
I don't want to go to bed. I don't want to get out of bed.
Trying to think of what else this works with. Bed and shower seem like the only main ones.
Don't want to drink. Don't want to stop drinking.
Don’t want to get in the car, don’t want to get out of it…?
I hate the sensation of having to get wet. It is a little overwhelming and I have to force myself to shower to be a presentable human being. I have severe KP and whatever else is wrong, so I have to scrub and scrub and scrub to get the flaky dead skin off so that when I get out I don't get overwhelmed by the extreme itching and sometimes almost burning sensation. Trying to manage the skin condition with all the special creams, scrubs, and gentle soaps is almost impossible for me to keep up with, even though I know it will help.
It is the transitions that is the hard part, not so much showering. Any kind of transition can be hard. The number of times I have fully gotten ready, so I can go work in the office or maybe a coffee shop, and end up not leaving at all is rather annoying. I like going to work somewhere else for the day, but that transition can be a hill we don't always get over. Especially when I don't have any particular pressure to leave the house.
TLDR; Focus on the transitions are hard part of the comic, not the showering.
Totally agree it's the transition.
Imagine my displeasure at having to shower without a shower curtain for 2 years. Never bothered to put one up bc I didn't think I'd live in this apartment for this long... I hate every minute of showering in the winter.
(Also, it's not an ADHD thing in my case, the bathroom is a weird shape that doesn't allow for a simple rod and curtain, I'd have to get a semi custom glass wall installed)
Not sure if this would help, but I've seen some crazy angled shower curtain rods at the local home improvement store, You might be able to make a curved one work. Maybe
Thanks didn't know that these existed!
With some measurements 3D printing could also help.
I have a 3D printer at work, good idea!
Every fancy bathroom I see these days has a shower with no curtain or glass. Is this just a humblebrag?
Ha I wish :( It's a drafty European flat from the 1910s, the bathroom is 1,5 meters by 3 meters and there's a so called "shame wall" between loo and tub that is a weird wooden privacy panel. A shower curtain would make this tiny room even more cramped unfortunately which is mainly why we never wanted to go to the trouble. That being said, its a nice place during the warner months!
They have what they call walk-in showers now. Be sure Thry are designed so you’re not splashing water on surfaces that aren’t able to handle it.
Haha we'll be moving next year and I swear, a proper shower is high on my list of demands! European landlords are fairly strict about even the tiniest structural changes. Granted, a shower curtain is negligible but as mentioned in another comment, our bathroom is tiny.
This is why I take 20 minutes to shower. The water bill is worth it.