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(sorry, i’ll probably post a lot to keep community active and because i have much to say)

[WARNING: LONG AND KINDA RANTY]

we’re all so similar to our friend lisa (14f) that it’s like we even find the same people attractive. we might as well be the same person, almost. like a hivemind.

first off, lisa had a friend (14m) nicky. nicky and lisa had mutual feelings for each other but lisa wasn’t ready to handle a real, comitted relationship yet.

they were basically a couple in everything but name. more than friends for sure, but only considered just friends for that reason.

anyway, nicky started spending less time with her and chose videogames over her, so they broke up.

our friend kristina (13f) is also good friends with nicky and liked him for a while, even after lisa stopped talking to him.

kristina likes everything about nicky, but she’s certain nicky doesn’t like her back because they’re really good friends and she thinks nicky sees her as more of a sister.

kristina is in our friend group though, and therefore is best friends with lisa, who still likes him after some time. so you could imagine how lisa felt when she found out about kristina’s crush.

obviously, out of the three crushes lisa has, this one called michael (14m) is off-limits as he’s taken by our friend ella (14f), nadya (14f) i probably have no chance with but im slightly attracted to her, and nicky is yk…

this is why i’m hoping lisa can patch things up with nicky and hopefully lose feelings for the other two :(

lisa asked nicky if he liked anyone and he said no, but i don’t know. because of this, she’s scared to ask him out/confess bc she thinks he may have moved on. i’m also slightly afraid that this will break kristina’s heart so hopefully she can move on soon.

now for lisa’s other crush nadya, who i (14nb) like. nadya and lisa are pretty silly together and do stuff that normal best friends do together. they do “act gay” to the point where my friend thinks they are dating, but it’s possible that nadya may or may not be just messing around as i see many straight girls act “like lesbians” with each other (especially twerking/butt slapping).

nadya is obviously attached to lisa and seems to be pretty clingy (i am also like this a bit with my attachments). i see that they are somewhat physical with each other (arm grabbing especially) although nadya generally doesn’t like being touched (maybe she likes lisa or lisa likes to be touched?)

anyway, lisa and nadya have a pretty strong relationship. they even dated at age 12 but broke up subsequently. i feel like nadya will either end up with lisa or she’s just messing around and is straight, so either way, no chance.

nadya has started to become more energetic around me, and i’m happy for that. she even said i could go to her house, but not for a long time due to sports she has. she’s probably in another state right now.

she used to be really odd, though, like suddenly getting quiet around me, either being snippy or just being super quiet. sometimes she would get close to me and then scoot away awkwardly (i probably shouldn’t have said “hahaha” bc i was awkward too) (i also think she was just stressed even if it seemed to be me she was mostly like that with)

she would seem happy to see me at times and smile though. people were advising me to ask if she wanted to hug/cuddle and such but she is not a fan of touching bc she said she doesn’t like it much when her friends hug her often.

like i said, now she’s being more energetic and things are fine :)

hopefully we can sort this out 😓 i hope lisa gets with nadya or nicky

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