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Do you also have this deep longing/dream of living at a different/fantasy place to feel home? (lemmy.world)

submitted 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) by wondering_mind@lemmy.world to c/lemmybewholesome@lemmy.world

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So I'm not sure if this is age related or not. I'm a 21 year old male, maybe you could share your age as well.

So basically for a long time (probably my whole life) I had this deep longing/fantasy to live at a different place than the one I'm living right now. As if I don't belong where I'm from and need to be somewhere else to truly feel home. I'm from northern Germany and always had the deep desire of traveling places.

When me and my family went on vacation when I was a kid for example when we flew to Egypt it felt like a wonderful dream as if I was in heaven or something. I just love when I'm in totally different environments like coming from the cold Germany into a tropically warm climate, in a country that is very different, with very different culture and mentality in this beautiful and gigantic hotel resort.

Idk how to describe it but it's like my core desire got fulfilled.

I never felt home here in Germany and my deep desire always was to live somewhere else where there is a very different culture and environment.

A significant amount of time I always wanted to go to America. I've never been there so far unfortunately.

But I always had this feeling that I didn't felt right where I'm from and was always searching for this place where I can feel home, where it's wholesome and I feel freed from all worries, where I have deep/meaningful connections and can fully live in joy and embrace every little moment of life in this deeply joyful way like living like a child again.

I assume a lot of this is probably just some psychological phenomenon that is inducing a fake/unreal fantasy. I assume even if I could move to some other country I might not feel as joyful like when I was a kid and even if I do, at some point it might not feel special anymore and it might not be like I hoped.

So maybe this is just this classic "the grass seems always greener on the other side" thing and in reality it might not be like that.

But I wonder does any of you also have this deep inner fantasy of living in a different place/culture where it kinda feels magical to live and you have ultimate happiness? It might be something unrealistic or a place that doesn't exist but it's like a deep feeling in me and I wonder if others also have it. Maybe it goes deeper and it is this "leftover" from childhood that I remember and that I'm longing for? Maybe it's a fantasy of being a kid again?

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[–] anarchrist@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

I believe your people have a word for that: wanderlust.

Travelling to America should fix it 😂

[–] BreadOven@lemmy.world 5 points 4 hours ago

Yep. That's good advice.

[–] flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyz 7 points 4 hours ago

I used to have the same dream, and went so far to move to another country.
While I don't regret moving now I'm just stuck in another place. The dream was about freedom, adventure, wanderlust. Not surviving day-to-day but in another country. But I have to admit the first couple of years were awesome, new places, new people, new culture, new food. The discovery phase is amazing and worth the experience. Establishing a long-term life in a new place is tricky.

If I have to give a single piece of advice: a good entry point into a new society is essential. It's like being born - your family, neighborhood, school etc, predetermine your future prospects in life. It's the same with immigration, except it's your visa status, first job and the initial social circle you fall into.

[–] FourPacketsOfPeanuts@lemmy.world 9 points 4 hours ago

I could have written this word for word, you're not the only one. I'm about twice your age though.

[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 hours ago

I grew up in American suburbs and want to move to a city with good public transit and a more communal culture.

[–] CTDummy@lemm.ee 4 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

Funnily enough I grew up in rural Australia, a lot of heat and experienced a couple of droughts. Probably not surprisingly my equivalent is a snowy home ideally on or at the base of a mountain. Also unsurprisingly loved my time in Germany and loved Innsbruck so much I fly around it every now and then in MS flight sim. Frequently during the trip in Germany and down through Austria/Switzerland I had a similar almost dream like feeling on the train through the mountainous areas.

Edits: 30s and I also attributed to wanting to see places different to where we grow/know.