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Probably fake, but a therapist should never say anything like that. I'm in my 30's and a virigin, and no doctor, therapist, etc., has ever asked me anything close to that. And if they did, I'd be searching for a new therapist. Wouldn't even finish the session.
Uncle in therapy for second nervous breakdown. Therapist tells aunt that hell be a dead weight aroind her neck. Tells him to go fishing - he hates fishing. This was a recommended therapist from a good GP.
Another family member with past addiction and suicide attempts went to a different GP seeking therapy. Was told by the GP humans have been to the moon and can do anything so stop being so depressed. Wtf does that even mean.
Shitty people are in every profession.
“Nelson Mandela stopped racism in South Africa decades ago, so cheer up!”
That's about the story of how am I about to try a fourth one in so many years. Gosh is it hard to find a good one ; taking the step to recognise you should see someone isn't the hard part. Picking up your phone and call one isn't the hard part. Fiding one that works for you is the damnedest hardest part of it, period.
Don't drop it. Keep trying.
Best therapist I ever had, had barely an office, that he split with his wife who did a separate type of counseling. He didnt advertise that I could tell, no preamble, no official stuff, no formal psychological analysis. Felt like I was just talking to a supportive buddy. Sometimes he would just tell me stories about when he was younger and had substance abuse issues and I would barely talk.
Wish I could say there was a trick to finding a good therapist. I picked the closest one to my house, which was a very tiny run down multi office building hidden behind a round-about and giant trees.
The older ones tend to still think that way.
One of my previous psychiatrists got kicked out being the head of his department because he was using his position to lobby heavily to keep Asexuality in the the DSM.
I may have once believed this would never happen but after a therapist once told me I was wrong for outting a pedophile I can't imagine this being that far fetched.
Even if it's not fake, in every other instance, if you have a bad dentist who says shit that makes you uncomfortable, you get a new dentist, happens every day, bad dentists get bad reviews and open shitty practices in bad neighborhoods and people expect the care to be substandard. Rarely do you even hear stories about that kind of thing because people have normalized dental care.
The fact that this shit is controversial shows just how far we have to go before people start taking their fucking minds seriously. You know, only the most important part of your physical, living experience.
That is one shitty therapist
Lots of shit therapists out there.
A friend of mine, his ex-wife's therapist encouraged her to have an affair. An old highschool fling reached out to her, and she was essentially perpetually stuck in highschool due to some intense trauma around that age. Therapist said to go for it.
Always look at a potential spouse's friends before getting married. Do they cheat, slack off, and just generally kind of suck? Your spouse-to-be will almost certainly follow their example. I say this because most people's "therapist" are their friends and if their friends are maladjusted assholes you can probably expect more of the same.
I had the exact same conversation with mine, when I was 20.
It's hard to believe that you'll have a better experience elsewhere, especially when you have already spent hundreds of € on that one.
Say no to therapists, say yes to callgirls. They charge less too.
She thinks you’re hot anon. Bang your therapist
On today's episode of Bullshit That Never Happened...
As someone who’s had a uh… not great experience with mental health care, this story is totally believable to me.
My wife should be in therapy but has entirely sworn it off after her last therapist would gossip to clients about other clients, especially clients who are related or know eachother well, and tried to play matchmaker, giving her contact info and sharing some of her struggles with another client of his who happened to be finishing up a prison sentence at that time. He runs his own practice because he was fired from the last one for HIPPA violations, and instead of being thankful his old boss didn't entirely ruin him he just is resentful that he got fired for engaging in what should be career-ending activities
This is sadly all too believable but I'm happy for you that all of your experiences with therapy have been so positive that this seems impossible
No, that therapist is. There are shitty people in every profession.
I had a therapist that eventually deemed me too dangerous to myself to be in their care, so she upgraded me to super-therapy where I have to go like 9 hours a week and work with a group and like 5 therapists but I still don't get much value out of it :c so yeah, therapy definitely isn't for everyone
This is a good opportunity to ask why sex work is still illegal (unless you're rich ofc) in the US.
We could basically end the incel phenomenon and deal a huge blow to the sex slavery trade overnight (and for very little cost to taxpayers or society) by making sex work legal and bringing it into daylight.
Ftr Incels exist in Australia and they have a red light district.
Incels don’t want to pay for sex.
Don’t get me wrong, I think it should be legal too if for no other reason that it makes it safer for the sex workers.
But just manage your expectations of what sexual deviants expect as Sex work doesn’t put an end to that part of the equation. Buying sex is still available even if illegal and you’re still going to have sexual deviants,psychopaths and incels. For Those groups in particular it is less about sex and more about power (and often hatred for women) hence the toxic energy they bring into sex.
Another issue for some deviants is sex workers carry a degree of consent. And shitheads like that aren’t looking for consent.
incels may not be seeking for paid sex as much as they want more power top relationship towards women(or feel entitled to) but they are unwilling to work on their personality. So their problem stems not from sex but more from their personality and feeling unloved with the sex they feel entitled to combined into that.
You don’t bring that kind of hate energy for an entire gender just over being horny.
If you want to deal with a problematic group, in this case incels, I don't think it's generally helpful to consider them a monolith. There's different clades in these types of groups that have different views and motivations. I think you're probably right, I did set my expectations too high there, but I do think that there's some quantum of incels who really do end up getting into the toxic shit because of the sexual frustration. I think it's probably much fairer to say that you could defuse at least a meaningful number of incels with legal sex work.
When your therapist is trying to trick you into labelling yourself an incel.
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Weird. That's an awesome intrusion point to get into the depth of why they think they didn't succeed and from there ... piece of cake on the professional side, hard and emotionally tiring work on the patients side! What a shitty therapist. This was ist.. the trust check and she blew it.
I went to five therapy sessions and it was like a speed run of college theory on CBT. Dude never stopped talking and we never talked about me or my problems.
I find it funny how many therapy stories on this platform are about cock and ball torture (CBT). Is that an American thing because of health insurance? /s
Even knowing a shitty human therapist personally didn't shake me. It was dating apps. The amount of women I see that I'd run from at full speed, then notice they're therapists... Jfc (I 100% believe everyone should be in therapy. There are shitty physical health doctors too.)
Why should everybody be in therapy? That's like saying everybody should see a physiotherapist.
I mean, with how common back problems are in people of all ages, maybe we should all be seeing physiotherapists
It's more like saying everyone should get a physical on a regular basis. We all need a check up now and then.