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Adoption Certificate for Nellie, the Daily Thread numbat (with thanks to @Catfish)
Spent $35 AUD taking cabs to the cinema (can't drive, high), was enjoying what must be the best cinema I've ever sat in. Was going to rave about it on here once the movie was finished but 3/4 through the film the projector died. Got given a refund for my ticket ($5) but overall I'm taking an L today.
I did get a free donut from Dunkin' so it's not a complete bust!
Oh and I saw this place which pleases me:
boi is starving, dinner time any minute
spoiler
He is wasting away, how could you make him wait?!
Feed him
Such a gorgeous gentleman!
Office is out of normal milk so having to drink low fat milk. Thots n prayers for me plz🙏🙏
RIP thot 💀
I recently bought skim milk by accident and I swear it was just cloudy water.
My dinner tonight
Prawn stir fry with garlic rice and a side of kimchi.
I met bar guy's friends tonight and there was one there I could tell that had a little crush on him. You can sort of tell by the way someone interacts with another person, because she was only interacting like that with him.
I find out more about this girl, and she's pretty much got the exact same interests as the dude, and the way they interacted was just effortless and it seemed like they had a great connection.
Compare that to me, I pretty much don't have anything in common with him, we don't like the same movies or music, or things in general. I am a shy and awkward piece of shit who for some reason has started feeling nervous around him as well. I lose my sense of self, it's not like I had one to begin with anyway. I'm an average Joe, an uncultured swine.
The thought of breaking up with him makes me incredibly sad. However, I don't want to force what isn't there. I think he is only with me because I gave him a chance. I could be the most stale person in the room but because I was there for him when he needed it and can meet his physical touch needs, it's alright. That's why I don't have a clear gut feeling on how to proceed.
All this coupled with uni kicking my ass, not sleeping enough, low iron, ADHD, brain fog and financial strain is absolutely fucking killing me.
I just wish things would get better!
has started feeling nervous around him as well.
I don't have any advice but that can be a difficult feeling.
Big internet hugs.
You're clearly not ready to give up on this thing you have going. So don't. Maybe it won't work out. Maybe it will. But whatever the secret sauce of successful relationships is, it's more than the same tastes in everything or some formula you can calculate. Don't try to analyze why you two are together. Just ride the wave and see where it leads.
Update on the car situation. Not good. Gotta spend about 3k to just get diagnostics done. Initial quotes for repairs (assuming what we think is wrong with it is wrong) 20k. And that’s parts alone. So yeah, facing the very real prospect of selling it for parts and writing off a 17k asset for like maybe a grand or 2.
There's always the prospect of the car getting stolen and disappeared. Just be sure to have all GPS units and such in proper working order, just in case of course.
No joke, I fired up the vpn the other day to google how one might go about that. Mostly out of curiosity. But even if I parked it at Dandenong station with the key in it I can’t garantee someone can steal if since it may not run long enough to be stolen.
Work inbox is overflowing due to utter stupidity of some co-workers.
Time to take some tactical sickies next week to let them sort their own shit out.
Sometimes the emotional release from a really good, dense therapy session is just... The whole body feels it. Something has been unblocked and is moving... but there is no fucking way I'm going to be able to do much else today. I arranged to meet up with a friend tonight, I would've asked for a rain check if it weren't for the fact that I will probably have to give back the car in 6 days and I might not see her again for another 3 weeks until I finish housesitting, and all things considered it's better for me to stay connected in person. (I don't need to cook anything at least as I'll be heating up premade food).
Think I'll lie down and nap for a while - I feel like I'm giving into maladaptive procrastination by giving myself permission to put off everything else till tomorrow, including work.
But: it's nothing mission critical, nobody else is relying on me for it, and I need to remember that nobody is going to be severely damaged by my doing that. On balance, this is a wise and intelligent and responsible thing to do given the bigger picture. Good afternoon. 💤
have been having an overall shitty week, but made myself a beautiful, colourful veggie stir-fry for lunch, and took the dogs I'm looking after for a long walk, so am overall feeling positive. Is it the weekend yet?
I think we're having the same week. Mine is, sadly, dogless however.
Really trying to manifest Friday afternoon already but it aint' happening.
Our local council (Kingston) has released an app to tell you what bins to put out depending on which collection week it is. The app is called 'Binston' lol
I feel like this is a solution to a problem nobody has
Flying solo tonight, Mrs_Owl is in the city for farewell drinks. I've got pizza dough going in the bread-maker ready for some free-range salami and cheese, and a bunch of limes for a cheeky Margarita or two.
Mainsplaining amirite? I've been told regularly to expect to meet sick people in AA. I'm sober, I'm not a fucking desperate loser though. I have everything I need. I've achieved some amazing things in my life. I need to work through some issues sure, but I'm in a very good position to do because I worked life my way and set myself up to be in this position. I'm so over the gay men though in AA. Absolute pigs most of them. Then someone questions my misandry and who? A man of course. Sorry guys, we're feminists because we have to be.
I'm pretty sure I'm leaving this place too pretty soon. Subtle transphobia I'm supposed to police? That's what the mods are for right? The more we need to deal with transphobia alone, the more it harms us. Reliving traumatic events perpetuates them. Being told (by a man) not to speak my mind, cos hey, it might not be nice and I signed some oath to be all flowers and love. I was basically told by a mod not to stand up for myself, which is 100% my natural response. I understand this is supposed to be a nice fluffy space but we're all here because we lack some connection and need places to be able share what's deeper going on as well. It's just so fucking easy to dismiss female and trans issues because that's the status quo right guys? We've been vilified in the press for many years and it's getting worse and you expect me to be the person who should point it out to you? Sorry, like I said, my misandry grows. I don't want it to, but it's a natural response to being marginalised and diminished by men every damn day.
Exercises have been completed. I've finished another 30 day exercise challenge! Trying to be cool with myself about my diminishing but still there belly. I'm a middle aged woman whose parents were morbidly obese for most of their adult lives. I'm doing pretty well all things considered. Lots of birthdays at work at the moment, therefore lots of cakes etc, which aside from a social sliver I've managed to avoid. Gonna be hard for my 50th though, coming up in a month and a half or so. I have no plans, not very excited or enthusiastic about it.
Eating Kettle chilli chips with a mouth ulcer. Fuck yeh.
Pain and pleasure are two sides of the same coin, you little masochist you.
Mmmm, suffering
So a job that I applied for back when work shit was hitting the fan a few weeks ago, called me this week and I had a phone interview with them yesterday. Some how made it through even though I felt like a complete imposter. Today I have to do a psychometric test and not sure what to expect. The company is one that is a ethical employer and has a solid reputation, so i think the psychometric test is to make sure I would be a good cultural fit before the actual first round interview. Arggggggh so nervous.
urgh, why are people selling second hand used books for ridiculous prices? We need an australian version of thriftbooks.
Cutting back down my work at work days to 2 days a week. 3 days a week was too much and I don’t need to impress anyone any more (been at the new job for 3 months and I figured that’s long enough to show I can fit in the team and do my work )
Have had my swim, and am now going a bit vintage with curried sausages. I’ve got two sausages and some curry powder to finish, so I’m going to combine the concepts
I’ve cooked the lamb mince just as it’s ticked over to the expiration day.
A little worried but I had put it immediately into the coldest part of the fridge on arrival and it was there 3 days until I had spare energy. It then got cooked thoroughly.
Meat guide said it’s fine to cook meat the day of expiry, so the lamb mince is good to go. Chilled overnight and what the cat didn’t eat now has been frozen.
Melbcat is going nuts for it. She’s just kept asking for more.
(If you’re asking why a cat gets mince? The food she needs is $2.40 for an 85g can, where the same amount of the mince is $1.27. Chicken would be even cheaper if she could have it. Neither of those are nutritionally complete but her dry food is and I can add taurine and vegetables if needed.)
I know I've screamed about it before and I'm just screaming to the choir. But God, the groceries getting more and more expensive is actually doing my head in. For a company that bemoans about stealing sure makes a lot of profit...
Yeah it's a fucking joke now. A buck more here. A buck more there. And then a special has 30c off. You can stick it you stingy cunts.
Stressing about the reliability of the electrical grid this summer.
The reason being I’m not able to regulate my own body temperature properly.
I had plans to have a tiny solar car battery to at least run some cooling or keep phone charged in blackouts or brownouts but I haven’t had the energy to troubleshoot low output or fix some wires that got damaged. And even it might not even be enough power to run cooling.
So angry at the fuckwits that kept refusing and blocking renewables because coal was more profitable. Now we’re left scrambling and as always the elderly, very young, poor or disabled will cop it hardest.
Once again blown away by a whole kilo of chicken drumsticks costing $5 at Aldi.
You could say that deal might actually take off.
E: oh thought you said wings. Still, a deal like that if it runs for long enough will definitely have legs.
🥧🍺
Knocked off work. Contemplating a swim
Barking dog was barking so instead of trying to sleep through it, I decided to get up and go for a walk before starting work. The sunshine was lovely. Tired but a nice start to the day.
Apparently you can buy blood pressure monitors from Aldi?
Okay sir, I'll see if I can reimburse you for your supermarket shop.
