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Wondering what your take on this is.

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[–] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 62 points 3 months ago (6 children)

I still have RiF installed on my phone. Does that answer your question?

[–] Fredselfish@lemmy.world 11 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Me too, thought I was the only one.

[–] KittenBiscuits@lemm.ee 4 points 3 months ago

I took it off my phone but it's still on my tablet. rip rif

[–] perfectly_boiled_pizza@lemmy.world 8 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (3 children)

You can keep using RiF if you patch it with ReVanced. I used this method for another third party app.

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[–] Jessica@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I only just got around to deleting Alien Blue a few weeks ago. I don't think that app has worked in like 5 years lol. RIP Apollo

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[–] thisbenzingring@lemmy.sdf.org 47 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I let it stay.

It is weird when someone that uses the number joins signal though... I want to reach out to them because I miss my brother but its a good reminder that life marches on with or without you. And we should let the ones who have left, go.

[–] cyberpunk007@lemmy.ca 17 points 3 months ago
[–] SARGE@startrek.website 39 points 3 months ago (1 children)

My Xbox friend list has a slowly growing number of gamer tags that will never be online again

Climate change will be reversed and billionaires will be abolished before I delete my grandparents contacts from my phone. Every time I pass my grandpa's, I hear Hello young man, it's your grandfather. like he said every time we talked on the phone regardless of who called who.

I can understand those who don't feel the same way.

Keep it if you want, don't keep it if you don't.

But never forget the people.

[–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Ahhh I’m one of the dead xBox and PSN friends for many lovely people.

I have everything from the Atari 2699 to the PS3/Wii/360… the ps4 and xBone had terrible performance and loading times so I never got them. Now I just have a bunch of high end computers and no desire to get consoles again. But I did have some sweet friends who might still see my name as “last logged in 12 years ago” or something like that.

[–] SARGE@startrek.website 4 points 3 months ago

Well, I know who is gone permanently and who just moved to pc. Neither will go though

[–] ccunning@lemmy.world 34 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I add the ⚱️emoji to their name.

Makes them easy to search for and stop to have a moment of reflection on their effect on my life.

[–] Flax_vert 6 points 3 months ago

I got confused and then realised it was a cremation urn. Funny how some cultures are different, as in mine Cremation is uncommon and burial is common

[–] abbadon420@lemm.ee 5 points 3 months ago (3 children)
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[–] whome@discuss.tchncs.de 32 points 3 months ago

When the idea that we live on in the memories of the people who liked us, means sth to you, I would keep them. Every time you stumble over their entry this memory gets reactivated. I think that is a nice thing.

My grandmother died 40 years ago and she told me, when I was very little, to fold the seems of the coffee filter before you put it in. Everytime I make coffee I think about her because of that.

[–] MisterNeon@lemmy.world 25 points 3 months ago

Absolutely I delete them. Can't have that kind of evidence lying around, loose ends sink careers.

[–] Today@lemmy.world 21 points 3 months ago

I leave them in if it's someone i care about. I lost a school kid last year. Took his files out of my drawer today.

[–] Akasazh@feddit.nl 20 points 3 months ago

I used to have a 'extra set of grandparents' when I was younger. An elderly couple that lived downstairs who often babysat me and spoiled me like I was their own grandchild.

I knew their phone number by heart, this was pre smart phone(now I think of it, I can't recall it anymore,a shame).

They passed during my teenage years. When I went to university I had a job working call centre for a telecom discounter.

During a slow day I looked up their number, and they apparently had been clients. So I respectfully removed them from the database.

[–] scytale@lemm.ee 16 points 3 months ago

I’ve never deleted any saved contacts on my phone/s over the years so there’s likely more than a couple of people there who are no longer living.

[–] MrsDoyle@sh.itjust.works 16 points 3 months ago

I tell you what freaked me out - I was tidying up my contacts and my late sister's photo had changed to that of a nice-looking youngish man. She died of brain cancer in Jan 2020. I'd left her contact there out of sentiment, but of course her number has been recycled. Ooof.

[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 12 points 3 months ago

I don't keep my contacts list clean. Deceased people are to be found in my contact list; not as any sort of memorials, but because it didn't even occur to me to remove them. A couple bits of data storage is free. Going in and deleting them takes effort.

[–] Caligvla@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 3 months ago

I usually leave them. Not really sure why.

[–] JoeKrogan@lemmy.world 12 points 3 months ago

Lost a very close friend 3 weeks ago way before his time and used to see him online on steam every time I was on. It hurts seeing his name and knowing he'll never be back. In terms of phone contacts they kind of get filtered out naturally when I move devices .

[–] Stupidmanager@lemmy.world 12 points 3 months ago

I saved them, adding death anniversary so I could remember them. Bit morbid but they meant a lot to me.

[–] viking@infosec.pub 11 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

I delete them. Numbers get repurposed after a while, and I don't want to scroll through my whatsapp contact list and end up seeing names of former loved ones with some blond girly in their profile pic.

I might export chat histories to preserve them elsewhere though, but not the contact itself.

[–] Croquette@sh.itjust.works 8 points 3 months ago

A friend of mine died three years ago and I still have his contact in my phone and on discord.

I'm not tidy in my contacts because it doesn't really take space anywhere, so there's a bit of that.

But, there is also this weirdness about deleting that person's last contact with me with forever.

[–] bitchkat@lemmy.world 8 points 3 months ago

Both of my parents are dead. It looks like I deleted one and left one.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 8 points 3 months ago

My father died in 2022. I still haven't removed him from my contacts. I don't know when I will. It's not that it's terribly painful, but there is discomfort even thinking about something that feels so final. Grief is irrational.

[–] Elextra@literature.cafe 8 points 3 months ago

I personally delete. Someone else will take that number anyways... I feel like there are so many other things to keep that remind us of whom we have lost

[–] quixotic120@lemmy.world 7 points 3 months ago

I don’t think I’ve ever deleted a contact from my address book for any reason whatsoever

[–] ahto@discuss.tchncs.de 7 points 3 months ago

Keep it. I still have my uncle on Steam over 8 years later.

[–] NauticalNoodle@lemmy.ml 7 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Huh... I- never considered this question.

My contacts list has been growing for 21 years. Very few people have caused me so much distress that I'd found removing them from my contacts to be worthwhile. I only found out about some of my friends deaths fairly recently.

On reflection, as I currently look through my contacts list I think removing the friends that have since passed would cause me more distress than leaving them in there. I won't be calling them.

[–] Artemis@lemmy.ml 6 points 3 months ago

I leave them. I've even dialed the super close ones a couple of times over the years on purpose just to (anxiously) see if their numbers have been taken 😅

[–] Naz@sh.itjust.works 5 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I mean, why delete the contact? You could also demolish the headstone.

It costs you nothing to keep it in your phone as a memory.

[–] Zozano@lemy.lol 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

But it also costs nothing to demolish the headstone.

Just saying.

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[–] viking@infosec.pub 3 points 3 months ago

If the number gets reassigned after the grace period expires, the new owner might add a profile picture that then populates across linked services. I'd rather avoid that.

[–] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago
[–] HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com 5 points 3 months ago

lol. clean out my contact list. so funny. like im going to get rid of the old number people I know used to have.

[–] tehWrapper@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago

I have another address book I move them to that is a archive for past contacts. Past work contacts etc.. never had to go back to it, but good to know I can. Also don't have random people I have not contacted in 10 years still on my day to day address book.

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago

I leave them, not for any sentimental reason, more of an ADHD reason.

Imagine my surprise when I got an alert that my dead grandma had just joined Telegram and that I should send her a message!

[–] BugleFingers@lemmy.world 4 points 3 months ago

I left a family member's number in my phone, but once I got a new phone I didn't move it over. I've got other things outside of their phone number if I wish for sentimentality.

[–] njm1314@lemmy.world 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I've gone through this recently and basically you wait a few months and then you delete it. If you don't it starts eating at you.

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[–] stoy@lemmy.zip 3 points 3 months ago

I let it stay untill I am ready to delete it.

When my grand parents died I kept the entry in my phonebook untill one day some time later when cleaning up the contacts I didn't see a reason why I should keep it.

[–] orcrist@lemm.ee 2 points 3 months ago

The contact list is there to be used as such. For sentimentality, I have pictures and letters and stuff. Maybe their birthday on my calendar.

And the reality is that if it's a super important person, I won't forget them. Or I'll be senile, but by then it's a different story.

[–] finley@lemm.ee 2 points 3 months ago

I deleted it after I go to the wake. Otherwise, I just delete it.

[–] leaky_shower_thought@feddit.nl 2 points 3 months ago

i let it go. just like that disney princess song.

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