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Domenico Losurdo "Stalin: History and critique of a black legend" is the best book on the topic.

Early USSR was in a permanent state of emergency due to several factors like the backwardness it was found, devastated by war, foreign powers invaded, counterrevolution threats, and the rise of fascism in the west.

Losurdo builds on this foundation for his defense of Stalin, compares his policies to those of the "free" west (these would be called whataboutism by liberals) and, what makes his book special, it exclusively uses anti-communist sources to contradict these narratives.

In the book you will find even quotes of Hitler struggling to comprehend how these primitive people managed to develop, Goebbels accepting that they underestimated their material development, Goebbels enjoying using trotsky to cause unrest, different western leaders praising Stalin prowess, etc...

My suggestion is to not get into extremely pointless historical relitigations with your partner over Stalin. Even if you knew what you were talking about, it would be a shame to tank your relationship over something that doesn't materially matter to either of you. As it is, you're repeating profoundly edgy memes to a comparatively normal person and then acting like it's their problem they are put off by it.

"Stalin didn't kill enough fuckers" is true, but mainly when you understand "fuckers" to mean "reactionaries imperiling the ML project" rather than just "people." There were many people, most notably during the "Great Purge," who were killed by the government and emphatically did not deserve it ("But it was Yezhov's fault!" true or not, you'd need to establish Ezovchina lore first.)

Someone else will probably handle the other aspects, but if no one does you can ping me

Use statistics about life expectancy, literacy, and economic development.

Here is some reading material:

• Another View of Stalin
• Human Rights in the Soviet Union
• Socialist States and the Environment
• Stalin: History and Critique of a Black Legend

When I say that repressions were actually good and Stalin didn't kill enough fuckers, she gets a little angry

Most of the time you're not going to reach someone with shock value statements, even if they're true. We all have to learn to be a bit more diplomatic about this if we want to convince people rather than just drawing a line in the sand and saying "this is where i stand, and if you're not with me, you're against me". That only reinforces divisions and isolates you rather than win people over to your side.

In general there is no one-size-fits-all approach and you have to adapt the way you go about convincing people depending on the personality but also the level of (mis-)education of your interlocutor. Some people respond better to certain approaches than others. Some may need a lighter touch, others more hand-holding.

In some cases they may need to first form a basic foundation of historical knowledge and at least a rudimentary materialist understanding of how the world works, while another person may be already more advanced and only need an extra push. Others may simply need you to make a connection with them and see that you understand their conditions before they are prepared to take in what you have to say.

Perhaps in this case you may want to try a more dry and dispassionate approach of just presenting facts without overly ideological language or value statements. You want to guide the conversation but allow people space to draw their own conclusions, to feel like you didn't push your viewpoint onto them but that they independently arrived there.

And maybe, in some cases, certain arguments are not really that important to have at this time. Is it really that essential that everyone have the same view of Stalin that we do? What exactly are we really trying to achieve? Shouldn't we focus on things that really matter for the most immediate struggles first? And then later when they are more advanced and interested in diving deeper into theory and history we can have those discussions.

The Proles of the Round Table podcast did several episodes on Stalin. They also did an episode with another podcast about Stalin that is incredibly informative. They also interviewed Grover Furr who is an non-communist historian who has written several book debunking the western lies about Stalin. Dude went into the Soviet Archives expecting to verify all the claims and found out it was all bullshit. His books are a slog to read. He's writes dry and factual and his obsession with Stalin and fact checking people on it is very autistic in nature. The man is brilliant.

https://prolespod.libsyn.com/special-release-episode-28-grover-furr

https://podtail.com/en/podcast/revolutionary-left-radio/stalin-a-marxist-leninist-perspective/

https://prolespod.libsyn.com/episode-31-stalin-was-a-mensch-a-look-at-the-antisemitism-of-the-ussr

Why are you arguing for a position before you know about it? Seems a bit strange

I have learned over the past 3 years to not argue about stuff like that anymore. It's tiring for me, it strains my relationships, and frankly I'm more and more convinced that it undermines actual present organising. I read a couple of articles and listened to some podcasts on climate change and leninism (i.e. socialist revolution; professor Kai Heron) and their argument is convincing enough. We have bigger fish to fry than internally fighting over who was better 70 years ago. Like waaaay bigger fish: climate change and neo-fascism. Let's fry those first and then we can discuss Stalin and Trotsky and Chinese reforms and what have you.

An example from my hometowm. Almost every dedicated Marxist grouping here is Trotskyist. It refrains me from joining them but I also haven't asked them WHY they're Trotskyist. And also our dedicated communist party renounced its founder because they defended Stalin. Maybe it's the classic falsehood of "Stalin bad, Trotsky would have been better" or maybe they actually engage with Trotsky's ideas of permanent revolution and find them more helpful in the 21st century. I don't know. But this also means that I am left without a serious means of organising in my home city as I don't have time nor energy to start my own organisation and even so, the zeitgeist here is not one of pro-Stalin. So I don't argue it and just look at axtual actions on the ground and while Trotskyist, these are the people organising, fighting, getting out etc. So it's a dilemma.

I would say unless your GF is a fascist or right-winger, don't bother straining your relationship with this. Just inform yourself and that's good. (Unless you want to strain your relationship in which case, have at it.).

Dude, I have the exact same arguments with my girlfriend! Although I'm a little more careful with what I say about Stalin out loud. Haha Maybe it sounds dumb but sometimes I think our relationship will end if I tell her exactly how I feel about Stalin before easing her into it and providing her with materials debunking myths slowly. We almost already broke up over it once, long story. Haha I kinda just avoid the topic, to be honest.

Full solidarity to you, Comrade.

Stalin good.

Stalin based

Using stalin good arguments

Like any other Soviet leader, Stalin is the fortress of the Union. Unbreakable, honest.

I'd say to scale down said debates to not tank your relationship over that. if the debate is inevitable, the "didn't kill enough" depoliticize the discussion, and to someone outside our circle you make you look like a lunatic, so the best approach imo is bringing the discussion to context, like the other comrade commented quoting losurdo, recognize the repression but putting into the context the political situation soviet union had at the moment, surrounded by reactionary forces including the assassination attempt on lenin, to at least not end the discussion looking like stalin was a monster that killed people for shits and giggles. critic without autophagy.

If the conversations are something that you want to continue having drill down on any one claim or criticism until you get an idea of what specifics she's using to feed her opinion.

"Stalin repressed people!" isn't the same thing as "Stalin repressed the Kulaks!" as far you being able to figure out what her critique is. You can do some historical research on who the Kulaks were, what was happening in the USSR at that time, what other means were attempted before Stalin rolled in the military, what the consequences would have possibly been if the USSR didn't do anything at all, etc.

If you have these conversations fairly frequently, you can hear her out one day, do some reading on other days, and when this type of conversation starts up again bring the topic back around to something she previously said but being more informed.

Unless its just a thing you two do (being antagonistic towards each other), you don't even have to set up the conversation as You vs Her. Move into the conversation by reminding her of the thing the talked about previously, it got you thinking about it, and you did some reading and you'd like to share what you've learned. Not going to change anybody's mind immediately but if they're listening to you and accepting the information, you might stop hearing that particular criticism being used in future conversations.