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What is Neurodivergence?

It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc

“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”

So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned

Rules

1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them

2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence

2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals

3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.

3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith

4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!

Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input

RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed

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Anyone else feel like this site stresses them tf out? (hexbear.net)

submitted 3 years ago by Notaroboticfish@hexbear.net to c/neurodiverse@hexbear.net

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So, I have autism and also very bad social anxiety, so I don't have a massive amount of social interactions, so it is easy for me to remember pretty much all of them. This also means that I spend way too much time obsessing over any significant interactions I have, particularly negative ones, which then just make me feel more upset and anxious than I was at the time and sometimes leads to a breakdown. I am also completely unable to deal with conflict

For whatever reason this website, unlike the original subreddit is way more invested in dunking on each other imo. This site has a very hostile atmosphere where it feels like everyone is constantly at each others throats and it makes me just not want to come here at all.

I also want to take exception to some of the recent posts by @TransComrade69 about the Beyond Pink or Blue book, particularly the part in the original post about it only being like 170 pages, so you could read it in like 3 days, so if you don't, it is reactionary. No, one of the symptoms of autism is executive function issues, which I suffer from quite significantly. I could read that book, but it would require me using a lot of energy and necessetitate me neglecting other parts of my life. I struggle hard enough to read books necessary for classes, if I were to try and read that book, it would take months, if not over a year for me to complete it. So, while I understand why @TransComrade69 wants people to read the book and is pushing it, as I am sure there is lots of valuable information within it, I do not at all appreciate the tone that was taken in parts of the original post.

Anyway, I've deleted this account twice already, and I'm doing it for the 3rd and probably final time after this. Social media in general is bad for a lot of these things, but this site kind of takes it to another level.

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[–] Hoodoo@hexbear.net 1 points 3 years ago

A lot of the intra-site discourse here seems unnecessarily vicious honestly.

I would point out that that's certainly not their intention, most likely, but it's hard to pick up on that for neurodivirgent people sometimes.

I'd call on anyone on this site to really think twice if an aggressive tone is called for when posting. Noone ever reached equality through mistreatment of people of good will.

I spent a lot of time in my younger days angry at the treatment LGBT people were given in society, but eventually realized how pointless it was to meet hate with hate. It can be damn frustrating and alienating being pushed to the margins of society like that, believe me, but never once did getting hurtful towards others improve my lot in life. Anger is a poison that feels good to indulge in, but a kind person must refrain from becoming submerged in it.

[–] infuziSporg@hexbear.net 1 points 3 years ago (1 children)

Every day I wonder if it's going to be the day that I get banned, showing up in the mod log with "wrecker" or "reactionary", no explanation or warning given.

[–] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 0 points 3 years ago (1 children)

Don't be a chud and you'll be fine.

[–] infuziSporg@hexbear.net 1 points 3 years ago

Lots of people banned weren't chuds though.

I've had over 15 instances where I'm reading threads by Top Day, going through all the comments and seeing people who have been banned, reading through their user page and they're just a regular chapo poster. Maybe a removed by mod once or twice on a profile but no one will ever know what that was.

I refuse to believe that this site attracts more chuds than well-meaning communists. And even if it did, wouldn't that suggest that something is deeply wrong?

[–] 11000@hexbear.net 1 points 3 years ago* (last edited 3 years ago)

Nah I have extreme anxiety and autism and since they got rid of downvotes and I have managed to finally open up on here more and found this community to be very caring and accepting and any disagreement on here has been civil.

I didn't read the book recomended by TransComrade69 for similar reasons too you but I took her agressiveness and calling out peoples laissez-faire attitudes to Transphobia on this site in good faith and knew she was just rightfully angry and trying to shame some people in to taking action, not calling me persoanlly a lazy transphobe for not being able to concerntrate. I'm not insulted when people call out men or white people or any other group I am a part of that has a lot of toxic attitudes and the same principle applies here to this website.

[–] crime@hexbear.net 0 points 3 years ago* (last edited 3 years ago) (1 children)

I get where you're coming from for sure, I don't really feel the same way though. There's a decent appeals process if you do get banned, and this is one of the only places on the internet that I can comfortably assume that everyone I'm interacting with is acting in good faith, so reflexively I assume everyone knows I'm acting in good faith too, and that makes me more comfortable that when I inevitably I say something stupid or piss someone off I'll be treated fairly.

It probably helps that "gentle bullying" is my love language though to be fair

[–] infuziSporg@hexbear.net 1 points 3 years ago

There was another thread where people were being critical of ban policy; in one comment chain I was making the exact same argument as another poster but with a little bit more reservation in tone; he got banned but I didn't.