I still suck at guitar after 26 years. It's just 12 damn notes.
this post was submitted on 21 May 2024
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You really only need 3 chords played fast for punk. Keep it up, I believe in you!
Same here! Itβs fun to make noise though
Just learn to play the 4 chords so you can make a pop hit.
Took me a decade before strum patterns clicked. I still suck though.
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Programming took a lot of goes before it clicked. Having a real goal instead of just doing tutorials really helped.
Yeah I agree. I learned the most when I just set my mind to accomplish something. This will actually get you to do real troubleshooting as well and not just checking where you failed the tutorial.
That's probably why I don't feel good at programming. I just don't have "that project" I want to do yet so I'm stuck in tutorial hell where I can finish the tasks but tell me to go build a website and I'm lost on where to start. Odin Project at least forced me to start from scratch after a while, but it really shows just how bad my planning is to build something from the ground up.
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This post rather got me questioning what skills or talents I have. None.
So I guess all of them are taking me way longer. When I want to learn something, I usually end up spiralling into thoughts that it's too late for me and I should have known that much sooner, like others did.
Running. I don't think I ran a consecutive mile until at least age 28, but now i love to run.
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Interacting with people. As teen i sucked at social interaction but as an adult I started getting the hang of it. Now I look at other people and I think I can do it better than most. A smile and tidy clothes go a long way.
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Drawing. I tried so hard in school, practiced regularly, and never got better. I'm in my 30s now and my DND group still makes fun of me when I draw anything other than walls on the wet erase mat.
You might try different media if you haven't already, as in, instead of pencil/pen and paper, maybe colored pencils or markers. Maybe even try getting some black paper and trying to draw with white color pencils instead.
I'm sure you may have tried a variety of things over the years, so I'm just spitballing, but also if you're trying to dive into the deep end with more complex drawings, you might revisit and really hone the fundamentals. Fundamentals being like getting clean lines by practicing drawing those over and over till you can get a nice, sharp line (which often isn't a single pencil/brush stroke!).
Once you have those down you may move on to the simple shapes, squares, triangles, circles, and try to recognize how those are put together for more complex forms. It's a tough skill to get down, without a doubt (I'm not some proficient artist personally), but it's just that: a skill that takes not only practice but learning methodologies. One of the toughest parts with drawing is that there's so many methods to go about it to figure out which helps you improve.
I'm in my 30s, and I'm planning on taking up drawing for the first time ever. I don't even doodle, but I think it would be cool to be able to do simple concept/placeholder art for my projects. I'm very much expecting to suck at it, but I'm entirely okay with that.
I started making whacky artistic progress after I started sketching shitty little project plans. Weird improvements too, like now I can imagne taking something apart and picture all the individual bits fitting together. Learning by doing rather than practicing just to practice is like night and day for me.
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Learning a new language. I normally pick things up pretty quickly, but learning a new language has been a slow slow process, but worth every second :)
Social interactions.
I'm a sideshow performer, have trained a variety of bizarre skills, but still can't whistle.
So whistling
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Snapping my fongers. People tried to teach me throughout my childhood, but zi just couldn't get it. Then, when I was maybe sixteen or so, I had a dream that someone taught me to snap, and in the dream I could do it! I woke up from that dream snapping my fingers, and have been able to do it ever since.
I guess my unconscious mind finally put all the pieces together and it all finally just, pun intended, clicked.
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Chewing in a proper manner
Mom used to blend food for me most of my childhood. Thanks mom
Still learning
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French.
I figured since I was exposed to it for a year as an infant, it would help me out when I was farting around with electives in school. Well, nope-- that 'infant period' was just too early I guess, and classroom learning didn't work for me, regardless.
What actually helped a tonne was just vacationing in Paris for a week (i.e. helpless immersion), and later, developing a passion for Franco-Belgian comics, which led to me using the DuoLingo app on phone whenever I'm bored or have a spare moment.
~Six months in, I'm just blown away by how much I can read without too much trouble. Google's vanilla "Translate" app helps a bunch when I'm stuck. Of course it's also good to have other aids, such as a handy chart of verb conjugations, etc, but really it was just DuoLingo that caught me on fire.
Feel free anyone to drop by our Lemmy community devoted to European graphic novels if you're interested.
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The ECS design pattern.
Oh you meant talent? Well I didn't get my drivers license until I was 19.
Driving stick, still haven't figured it out and now that I lost sensation in my feet, seems like I'll never get it.
I understand how it's supposed to work, I just can't do it without stalling.
Learning to work the clutch and feel the friction zone is a more difficult skill than some want to admit.
Learning to drive a motorcycle was a bit overwhelming, I remember my instructor talking about applying the brakes with right hand and foot while disengaging the clutch with the left hand and downshifting with the left footβ¦ and thinking βhow the hell is anyone supposed to keep track of all that!β
I do miss my stick shift though, it was more fun to drive even if less practical.
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This might sound dumb, but I'm doing this with Euro Truck Simulator. I've got the wheel/pedals/shifter, but I can't for the life of me get it to not stall out, especially when pulling heavy loads from a standstill.
I've seen pedals that have haptic feedback for feeling the clutch engage, and I'm honestly considering saving up for it, cause I'm obviously missing something here.
I doubt it will really compare to an actual truck. When you're driving one, the pedal is the easy part. The truck has so much torque it is harder to stall, unless you're loaded heavy and on a hill. The tricky part is getting your shift windows without synchromesh.
I remember when I was learning, it was a bit challenging to hit my shift windows at first, and remember what split I was in when I was on the road. Back then I had a little xB and a FJ40. Both of those were manual. When I got back into one of them, it felt insane that anyone could screw up in one of them.
I had already learned front end loaders, skid loaders, and a skid steer, and was working on a certification for case controls on an excavator, so the coordination complexity of hands and feet were no big deal.
The clutch is all about feeling the difference between the spring pressure and the friction.
Anyways, at least for me it can help to think in perspective like this; about other areas where the same basic skill applies with perhaps even more complexity. Like after a few days on an excavator you stop thinking about the individual controls and start thinking about the bucket like your hand and the boom like your arm and the pivot like your waist. The brain, or at least mine, abstracts away the motions like an extension of your body. It is such a strong connection and the hydraulic feedback is so direct, that you can "feel" with the bucket without actually seeing into the trench. Like if you hit a rock, a root, or even conduit in the ground, you can feel it in the controls like it is a part of you.
The clutch is all about feeling the difference between the spring pressure and the friction.
I think this here is what gets me. With the cheap sim pedals, you can't feel anything, and have to go entirely by visuals, like watching the tachometer for a sudden spike. By the time you can react, you're already stalled half the time. I totally agree you need that visceral feedback from the machine to really use it with any degree of finesse.
I've driven a fair bit of heavy machinery in my time, and never had an issue working the clutch, but those simulators are a different beast altogether - at least at my price point. Maybe one day I'll be able to afford some realism, haha.
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The key for me was being told: itβs okay to ride (to hold) the clutch a little before/during/after youβre switching gears.
Driving. I was 40 when I finally got my license.
Skate stuff. Could never do anything more difficult than a static, barely decent Ollie. And I was a teen, lots of free time, I spent hours and hours and hours for weeks and months. Nothing.
Effort is not everything.
I am so glad I had no money, because I really wanted to be better and if I had to learn the lesson later in life I would have tried to "fix" it with high quality gear.
Tying shoe laces. One day I could just do it without looking. Before then I couldn't do it at all, way behind the class by about a year, an embarrassment to my parents.
Job... applications and interviews? The combination of constant rejection, fawning, self aggrandisement, and constantly changing arbitrary standards for all stages just does not gel at all with my combination of rejection sensitivity, slightly different fawning, self deprecation, and bucking against arbitrary social standards etc. I've only gotten one job ever from cold calling since I started applying in 2004. Every other time I've known someone, and it's usually a few years between jobs
Tying a tie for meetings, interviews etc.
I've always had issues trying to do myself from "my angle" if you know what I mean, I've always worn light blue or grayish dress shirts without the tie to interviews, or I'd just leave the tie spaced out so I can shrink it again when I got around my neck.
Still trying to get the hang of it!
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