I know exactly what you mean. I like to establish rules and record keeping when I'm in a position of authority. I take a conscious effort to justify my actions, keep affected parties informed, and share power when possible. The amount of times this has made other people more suspicious of me for some reason is fucking mindblowing.

I had to handle some money for a family matter. I created spreadsheets, documented every receipt, and kept everyone informed the entire time. Suddenly, I was accused of mishandling the money specifically because "If you were handling it normally, you wouldn't feel the need to justify yourself." A giant fucking family fight ensued, I was proven correct, and was still blamed for "acting suspicious."

This is a subtweet, family man =)

But also yes though, like how many times does some fuckin neurotypical just decide you're a bad actor and go fucking apeshit on you? Funny enough there are never ever any consequences for these types of people, big shocker. Neurotypicals love to do this, although sadly it's not an NT exclusive behaviour.

I don't clean my room because I'm depression and I sometimes struggle to even go to the bathroom, but my mom assumes that I don't clean because I see her as a maid or something.

It's like removing your autonomy! I can't think of what it was, but I remember this really making me upset when I was younger in one particular instance. I generally don't have any ulterior motives at all, it is irritating, like even if it's a harmless thing they think I meant it still wasn't me.

I've dealt with this forever. I can tell people exactly why I'm doing what I'm doing down to impossibly minute details and they just reject the reality that others have their own thoughts and emotions and motivations and just make broad, baseless assumptions. It makes relationships very difficult. No one actually listens to me and just makes shit up.

This kind of vagueposting is unhelpful and the reason people assumed sexual motives for your post - Here, not talking about the specific event made me assume there was an issue with it, so I checked the modlog to find your post, and it's a big boobed blonde farmer-chic waifu carrying a baby and what I assume is lemonade. You captioned it with a double bill of "I swear I'm not a retvrn/traditionalist" and "this makes me feel something [towards family]".
The first part, "I swear I'm not", acknowledges the appearance of the situation (posting a waifu) but assures us, without evidence or explanation, that you don't have those motivations, it's just a similarity in the act. It's like jumping up as soon as someone comes in the room to loudly declare that you're not masturbating - Regardless of whether it's true or not it is extremely suspicious to deny something before any accusations have been thrown around.
The second part, again, lacks explanation - you feel "something", not defined as positive or negative, just a vague feeling. Combined with the picture and denial, readers have already been primed to think you're just in denial about being horny.
When you only leave room for assumptions, people are going to make them.

On the other hand, your mum just sounds like an ass. If your adult cousins have to come over and do it you're either too young or lack the skills to actually help out, and will probably just be getting in the way. It is polite to ask if they need help with anything, but it's also polite to stay out of the way and not distract them while they're working.

I hate this so much too!!

yeah it really does

hehe..

Yup. Spent enough time working customer service while not having a gregarious personality and my brain automatically being in troubleshooting mode has resulted in angry customers, so angry that I helped them (but just didn't think to apologize after every sentence I had with them) that they sent an email to my bosses accusing me of blaming them for the mistakes/failures of my fellow coworkers and the business systems we had to work with.

Expectations that people have about others' emotions are the true scar in the world.