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What is Neurodivergence?

It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc

“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”

So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned


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1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them

2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence

2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals

3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.

3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith

4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!

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[–] mar_k@hexbear.net 7 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (3 children)

i don't really notice much from energy drinks. but i take caffeine pills if i got very little sleep and i guess that helps

i'm diagnosed with clinical/major depression from when i was 15. still there i guess but not as bad now? i used to be on meds but i feel like they didn't do shit but make me an emotionless robot

what makes me think i might have adhd as well:

  • even pre-depression i'd procrastinate bad, i'm terrible at starting tasks i don't want to do. from a very young age i've been awful at doing homework despite doing very good in school otherwise, for most of elementary school i didn't even brush my teeth

  • bad at paying attention to things that don't interest me, fixate too much time on specific things e.g. an internet rabbithole

  • impulsiveness; music is very important to me and i've gotten mild tinnitus at 19 from blasting headphones and yet i still turn the volume way too high when i'm feeling it. easily addicted to social media and video games too

  • forgetful and misplace stuff. sometimes i'll like, think of something i want to look up and then forget 10 seconds later because my mind wandered elsewhere and then i have to think of a cue to remember what it was. before going out i think to myself a dozen times if i have everything

  • fidgety. hyperactive from early childhood, always climbing shit and tripping lmao

  • perfectionism

  • often creating made up scenarios in my head

  • brain fog and very bad at being on time

  • difficulty making decisions. a month ago i literally spent 3 days taking hours researching a new pair of shoes to buy in between watching anime or scrolling on tiktok, because i told myself i couldn't do anything else productive or even go for a walk until i got the task of picking a shoe out of the way

  • i lowkey pace back and forth and talk fast to myself when i'm alone. have a hard time just sitting still

sorry if this is long, not sure how much of these are genuine symptoms just things that seem ND that i experience. btw my dad is diagnosed with it

[–] fanbois@hexbear.net 5 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

Just a general word: ADHD is a dimensional disorder. Meaning, there isn't a single identifying symptom that differentiates ADHD from say, a more neurotypical person that is a bit disorganised. Everyone forgets shit, everyone is late once in a while and everyone fidgets when they are nervous.

So the question you have to ask yourself (and which will be part of the diagnosis): How often does that happen? Is this majorly impacting the direction your life is going and are you okay with it?

If the answers are "pretty much everyday" and "I would not be where I am, if I didn't behave like that and I feel like I can't do anything about it even though I want to", you have a pretty good indication.

Your wording and descriptions all sound very much like my (inattentive) ADHD to me.

[–] ReadFanon@hexbear.net 3 points 5 months ago

Excellent comment!

[–] StalinStan@hexbear.net 4 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Thr venn diagram looks real circular here. If it is an option I would get evaluated. My GP just gave me the pills to try and asked me if it helped after. The psych doc wanted we to do a weird computer test though. So your milage may vary on that

[–] ReadFanon@hexbear.net 3 points 5 months ago

i don't really notice much from energy drinks. but i take caffeine pills if i got very little sleep and i guess that helps

That's an indication that you may have ADHD.

i'm diagnosed with clinical/major depression from when i was 15. still there i guess but not as bad now? i used to be on meds but i feel like they didn't do shit but make me an emotionless robot

Okay, so it's important to recognise that the symptoms of depression and ADHD can mimic one another. I'm not going to try to convince you either way on this, not would I try to diagnose you if I were qualified to, I'm just going to throw info out there to help you have a better understanding of your own situation.

what makes me think i might have adhd as well:

  • even pre-depression i'd procrastinate bad, i'm terrible at starting tasks i don't want to do. from a very young age i've been awful at doing homework despite doing very good in school otherwise, for most of elementary school i didn't even brush my teeth

This is going to sound odd and you don't need to answer this but - do you enjoy putting off tasks? A person who is lazy enjoys putting things off. A person who struggles with motivation wants to do things but is unable to get started, and they generally feel very stuck and very uncomfortable not being able to do what they want to do.

How are you with finishing up tasks? Do you often find yourself nearing the completion of a task, even something like playing a game through to the end, and you lose all motivation so you tend to have a lot of things that are left abandoned at 90% completion?

The typical ADHD experience is that, when the task is near completion, suddenly all your will to get to the finish line just drains away to nothing.

This is distinct from being exhausted and pushing yourself to finish but not quite getting there, and it's particularly noticeable with tasks that are independent of external demands - at work or studying there's a lot of external expectation for you to finish the task so you will probably get there. Outside of that, in your personal life, without those external forces you will likely notice this is a pattern for you if you have ADHD.

  • bad at paying attention to things that don't interest me, fixate too much time on specific things e.g. an internet rabbithole

Do you lose all sense of time when you're down a rabbit hole?

What was your ability to pay attention to boring things like prior to being depressed?

When you say bad at paying attention, are we talking like you mind wanders a bit and you have to put in effort to pay attention or are we talking like trying to pay attention to a boring topic makes you feel like crawling out of your skin, like it's almost physically unbearable, or being on a 10-second countdown before you're staring out of the window with unfocused vision until someone starts clicking their fingers in front of your face multiple times before you snap back to reality?

sorry if this is long, not sure how much of these are genuine symptoms just things that seem ND that i experience.

Just a bit of info: neurodivergent refers to people who have atypical neurology. This includes all the different forms of mental illness. I think it's an extremely common misconception that ND just means "autistic and/or ADHD" but that's really not the case.