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For me, growing up, I was around people who saw games as useless and a waste of time, but I loved them

I've always been into computers and tech and was called techy and a gamer and each time, it was said with a sort of disgust from the person saying it.

It made me feel like I shouldn't be friends with the few people like me, and I spent a lot of my childhood staying away from people, and making sure that people didn't learn that I played games

Even now, I get slightly uncomfortable being called a gamer or techy or any synonym even though people don't really think that anymore around here.

Anyone else have something similar?

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[โ€“] toomanypancakes@lemmy.world 26 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Growing up my parents always called me "the good kid", especially my dad. It just made me feel super awkward and bad though, I didn't take it as a compliment. These days neither of my other siblings talk to my parents anymore either, I'm the only one still in contact.

[โ€“] Evkob@lemmy.ca 15 points 5 months ago (2 children)

This really reminds me of my family dynamic. Anything I do, my dad can excuse, but the smallest mistake my younger brother makes is a travesty.

I end up in the drunk tank, and my dad's only answer is "it stinks in there, eh? ๐Ÿ˜‚"

My brother doesn't reply to a text for a couple of hours, and it's the end of the world.

I hate it, because my bro is a good kid, ultimately. But I can see how much the way my father treats him affects him negatively. It ends up being a self-fulfilling prophecy.

[โ€“] Iapar@feddit.de 6 points 5 months ago

Tell him. If it comes from the good kid he must think there is some truth to it.

[โ€“] sanguinepar@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago

That sucks. Your dad needs to watch Lord of the Rings and especially the Boromir, Faramir, Denathor dynamic.