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submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by spujb@lemmy.cafe to c/memes@lemmy.world
 

is the man or bear thing rhetorically or optically the perfect feminist meme that is beyond criticism? no.

but is it leaps and bounds better at getting men to understand the material consequences of patriarchy on the physical and emotional health of women than that stupid “kill all men” meme from last decade? definitely.

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[–] NounsAndWords@lemmy.world 19 points 4 months ago (5 children)

is it rhetorically or optically the perfect feminist meme that is beyond criticism? no.

Honestly, I think the biggest problem with the argument is men have been having very serious discussions for probably millenia about what animals they could and could not beat in a fight. And it is implicitly known that the guy who comes in saying he could beat a bear is way up his own ass. Now here comes a meme appearing to imply that men could beat a bear in a fight, and the urge to correct is strong.

I understand and agree with the sentiment, but I also want you to know you can't beat a bear in a fight, but will gladly discuss what animals you might win against.

What about a Cheetah?

[–] spujb@lemmy.cafe 25 points 4 months ago (3 children)

It is implicitly known that the guy who comes in saying he could beat a bear is way up his own ass.

This is good insight into the cultural context that led into this.

I think it varies wildly individual to individual. For example, some of my personal experience/knowledge is that while I can never beat a bear, bears may be discouraged, scared, and shouted down from attacking with proper preparation and training - a luxury that women do not have against men.

Another nuance I saw someone mention is that if I get attacked by a bear, at least I’m fucking dead and I don’t have to live to deal with the psychosocial horror of having to convince a cop, judge or jury, friends or family that I wasn’t “asking for it,” underscoring the damage that a victim-blaming culture has on women.

Just in case someone else didn't explain (or i'm the one that missed something) this meme is actually referencing the recent internet hubbub of: women were asked if they were hiking alone, would they rather run into a strange man or a bear, and many women picked the bear.

[–] Prunebutt@slrpnk.net 16 points 4 months ago (3 children)

It's not about fighting, though. It's actually implied that a bear would either be less agressive, or at least: less cruel.

[–] NounsAndWords@lemmy.world 13 points 4 months ago

Which is why framing the concept in a context that is parallel to one already very familiar to men (what animal is a bigger threat) has caused such misunderstanding.

[–] towerful@programming.dev 7 points 4 months ago

I think a man would be more likely to recognise a woman as a woman.
A bear doesn't care. The bear sees the woman as a human, and acts accordingly.

So yeh, the bear would be more predictable.
Imagine if humans treated all humans as human.

[–] mojofrododojo@lemmy.world 5 points 4 months ago

bears don't rape and kidnap women. People - overwhelmingly men - do.

I don't understand at all where fighting came into this. Am a man.

[–] felykiosa@sh.itjust.works 7 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Omg you re the first I see that understand that its more the urge to correct than an politic or genre idea. Thx also I could win against a cheetah I think . can I use stone or stick?

[–] NounsAndWords@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago

Yeah, but Cheetahs can be way bigger than you expect, up to 160 pounds. I think if it can build up enough speed and has the chance to pounce you're gonna have the wind knocked out of you before you can do much.

[–] mojofrododojo@lemmy.world 4 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Now here comes a meme appearing to imply that men could beat a bear in a fight, and the urge to correct is strong.

?!

you have missed the point completely.

[–] NounsAndWords@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago

And I believe you missed the words "appearing to imply" and my point completely.