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We're currently looking to start a family, so I thought I'd hit up YT for some advice as a male and the priority skew is mental. The most important thing is having a boy, apparently. Not tips for being supportive, how to help your partner, how to deal with anxieties about money and time.

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Dad's of Lemmy could you share some good advice for someone just starting a family please :D

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[–] Toneswirly@lemmy.world 16 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Being a dad is like being the new guy at work for a long time. You will have imposter syndrome and feel like the work will never get done fast enough. You will find new limits of stamina you didnt know you had. You'll grow quickly as a person, especially if youre receptive to that growth.

Trust your partner when she tells you shes hurt or struggling. Pregnancy is a really tough experience; their feet are gonna grow, they develop unexplained food aversions or cravings, back pain and other physical discomfort. Be supportive and helpful as much as you can.

Get a sound machine ASAP annd bring it with you to the hospital when you deliver. You will thank me later.

[–] prettybunnys@sh.itjust.works 6 points 6 months ago

I have a 14 year old.

The imposter syndrome presumably stops when I die .. right?

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

As another prospective dad, why the sound machine? Specifically, why bring it to the hospital?

[–] Toneswirly@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

cause you're gonna be bothered every 2 hours by nurses, even overnight. Getting as much sleep as possible in between is essential for keeping your sanity, plus it'll help your newborn get some rest too.

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 1 points 6 months ago

Ahhh, that makes sense. Thanks!