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I find it to be the opposite, I make enough that I haven't checked my bank account while making a purchase in a long time.
My friends are almost offended when I offer to cover dinners and nights out. I'm not trying to show off with my buddies, I just know $400-500 isn't a lot to me and for them it's a week's pay but I really like hanging out with them.
So I try to compromise in that I'll cover dinner if they cover bowling or something like that.
This is the way: equity.
your friends are good friends
That's a good point. It's the eternal struggle over who pays for dinner. If you're good friends, everyone wants to pay, the only difference is capacity.
I wonder, did you come up from a poor family?
I did, and my outlook now (from a secure financial position) is very similar to yours. Although I view my generosity as a kind of twisted love language haha
Yes, I was raised food and home insecure in my childhood and was pretty poor in my twenties.
It's funny because I'm very generous with my friends, but won't give my family a dime because they usually just want my money and don't have time for me.